{"id":63549,"date":"2022-03-18T08:01:00","date_gmt":"2022-03-18T12:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=63549"},"modified":"2022-04-01T10:08:52","modified_gmt":"2022-04-01T14:08:52","slug":"seeking-validation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/seeking-validation\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Seeking Validation in Pursuit of Happiness"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Do you worry about what other people think of you, looking for ways to gain social approval? How does striving for external validation erode your happiness? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Seeking validation makes you unhappy by pushing you to act in ways that don\u2019t support what you really want. Many of \u201cyour\u201d goals are actually an attempt to gain approval from others, and the way you judge yourself depends on how you perceive others\u2019 reactions to you. When you put so much weight on others&#8217; opinions, you erode your own happiness because chasing external validation breeds self-contempt and prevents you from pursuing things that you actually find meaningful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&#8217;s how chasing validation erodes your happiness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-seeking-approval-from-others\"><strong>Seeking Approval From Others&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When your happiness depends on external <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/stop-seeking-validation\/\">validation from others<\/a>, you feel impelled to project a pleasing or impressive image of yourself that invites positive feedback. You make decisions about how to look and behave, your career, and your possessions to support this image. However, making decisions and setting goals based on how you want others to react to you creates internal conflict for three reasons:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Different people have different perspectives and expectations. Your behaviors and goals can\u2019t please or impress everyone, so you won\u2019t always receive positive feedback.<\/li><li>Basing your happiness on external validation forces you to conform to what other people want instead of what <em>you<\/em> want\u2014because pleasing yourself won\u2019t always elicit the feedback you crave.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Your motivation to please or impress others forces you into constant comparison and competition. You strive to be more like people who receive the validation you want and set yourself <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/ambitious-goals\/\">ambitious goals<\/a> to outdo them.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>This internal conflict erodes your confidence and elicits feelings of self-contempt. You never feel like you\u2019re good enough to receive the validation you crave because there are always new expectations to meet or ways that others appear to be doing better than you. Overall, <strong>you spend more time seeking validation and less time feeling happy with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/your-genius\/\">who you are<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>How Seeking Validation Affects Self-Judgment and Behavior<\/strong><br><br>Research in the area of authenticity confirms Pasricha\u2019s claim that many people base their happiness on how they think others perceive them. Further, psychologists agree that acting <em>inauthentically<\/em>\u2014projecting an image that conforms to what you <em>think<\/em> others want from you\u2014makes you unhappy.&nbsp;<br><br>Further, the research concludes that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/p\/15-little-signs-you-arent-being-fully-authentic-every-day-73784\">feelings of discomfort and inauthentic behavior go hand-in-hand<\/a>. Consequently, you can figure out if you base your happiness on others\u2019 opinions of you by considering how often you feel:<br><br>&#8211; Embarrassed by things you\u2019ve done or said<br>&#8211; Awkward and self-conscious in daily interactions<br>&#8211; Resentful and misunderstood<br>&#8211; Afraid of what others think of you<br>&#8211; Rejected and unheard<br><br><strong>These feelings both reflect <em>and<\/em> encourage <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/inauthentic-behavior\/\">inauthentic behavior<\/a> and feelings of unhappiness. <\/strong>For example, sometimes shy people come across as loud and overbearing. This is because their discomfort around others leads them to <em>overact<\/em> to compensate for their shyness. As a result, they find themselves adopting a gregarious persona to mask their shyness (thus projecting a false image). This leads them to question whether people like them for who they are or for the act they put on. As a result, they feel more uncomfortable about interacting with others and this impels them to continue projecting an altered image of themselves.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>How <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/seeking-validation-from-others-3\/\">Seeking External Validation<\/a> Motivates Status Goals<\/strong><br><br>The <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/tao-te-ching\"><em>Tao Te Ching<\/em><\/a>, one of the ancient foundational texts of Taoism, clarifies how seeking external validation influences your goals and makes you unhappy. It explains that a desire to receive external validation leads you to choose status-based goals, such as wealth and power, so that you can prove your worth to others. However, status-based goals have no upper limit and are therefore impossible to \u201cachieve\u201d\u2014they drive you to always seek <em>more<\/em> instead of feeling self-worth and happiness with what you have.<br><br><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/tao-te-ching\/section-2#excess-and-external-validation\">Your desire to fulfill this never-ending goal\u2014and finally receive the validation you crave\u2014consumes you<\/a> and surpasses your desire to feel happy <em>now<\/em>. As a result, you redirect all your energy and focus away from your well-being. Instead, in the pursuit of the <em>possibility<\/em> of future happiness, you ignore your emotional and physical health, engage in competitive or controlling behaviors, or act inauthentically.&nbsp;<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-solution-accept-who-you-are-and-figure-out-what-makes-you-happy\"><strong>Solution: Accept Who You Are and Figure Out What Makes You Happy<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Instead of <em>seeking<\/em> validation, focus on <em>feeling<\/em> happiness<\/strong>. Free yourself from the need for validation by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-accept-yourself-for-who-you-are-2\/\">accepting who you are<\/a> and what <em>you<\/em> need to feel happy. Pasricha argues that this shift in thinking encourages a cycle of happiness: Self-acceptance inspires you to align your behaviors and decisions with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-find-what-makes-you-happy\/\">what makes you happy<\/a>. This alignment encourages positive self-judgment and influences you to make decisions that further increase your happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: Another way to think about this is to consider what\u2019s motivating you. Some experts believe that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthline.com\/health\/intrinsic-motivation#how-it-works\">all behavior is driven by the need to fulfill one of two motivation types: intrinsic or extrinsic<\/a>. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/intrinsic-motivation-psychology\/\">Intrinsic motivation<\/a> comes from your internal self: You engage in an activity because it makes <em>you<\/em> happy. You accept your needs and feel comfortable expressing them (for example, you listen to a particular song because you enjoy it and aren\u2019t worried about how others will judge you). Extrinsic motivation comes from your environment: You engage in an activity because you receive an external reward for doing it and it\u2019s what <em>others<\/em> want from you. You ignore your needs in favor of seeking acceptance from others (for example, you pretend to like a particular song because you\u2019re afraid of feeling left out of your social group).)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Furthermore, the more you encourage positive self-judgment and engage in things that make you happy, the less time you waste thinking about how others perceive you. This helps you accept yourself exactly as you are and frees you from the pressure of adapting to please or impress others.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>According to Pasricha, this increases your happiness in two ways: First, placing less weight on what others think of you decreases insecurity and self-consciousness and increases self-confidence. Second, because you\u2019re not projecting a false image of yourself or hiding behind achievements, you feel comfortable knowing that people appreciate you for who you are, not who you\u2019re pretending to be. This naturally improves your self-judgment, allows you to relax and enjoy being <em>yourself<\/em>, and encourages you to make decisions that continue to fuel your happiness.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you worry about what other people think of you, looking for ways to gain social approval? How does striving for external validation erode your happiness? 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