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Why is it necessary to release your unhealthy guilt? How can holding on to your guilt hurt you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to Melody Beattie in her book Codependent No More<\/em>, codependents\u2019 low self-esteem<\/a> is usually caused by impossible standards and unhealthy guilt. You need to release those standards and guilt to truly love yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here’s why your guilt is holding you back<\/a> from self-love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Release Your Guilt<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Healthy guilt prompts change and growth, while unhealthy guilt just lingers and causes pain and anxiety,<\/strong> Beattie clarifies. Thoughts and feelings<\/a> trigger unhealthy guilt, rather than actions. For example, you feel unhealthy guilt over being angry, even if you don\u2019t react to your anger in any negative ways. Feeling guilty for your anger is pointless, as you handled the emotion in a healthy way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In cases of unhealthy guilt, the codependent\u2019s tendency to give so much of themself without receiving anything in return is a form of self-punishment. You feel the need to atone for your very existence, so you help others as much as possible and refuse the help of others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Beattie is adamant that who you are<\/a> is good, and you deserve a life free from guilt.<\/strong> Your problems and mistakes do not define you, and you shouldn\u2019t be plagued by guilt over them. And while it isn\u2019t your fault that you have low self-esteem, so you shouldn\u2019t feel guilty about that either, is it your responsibility to work toward healing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: The best way to live a guilt-free life<\/a> is to focus on the present rather than the past, determine what values are important to you, and develop a growth mindset,<\/a> as discussed previously.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Guilt, Shame, and Self-Punishment<\/strong>

Research supports Beattie\u2019s idea that healthy guilt prompts change, while unhealthy guilt just hurts. This is because healthy guilt is directed at actions, while unhealthy guilt attacks your self-esteem. Bren\u00e9 Brown refers to this as \u201cshame\u201d in Daring Greatly<\/em>.<\/a> She argues that shame is counterproductive because it damages your idea of self, which makes you less confident and less likely to change in the future. If you think you\u2019re doomed to be a bad person, you\u2019re not going to try to change.

Shame often leads to punishing yourself<\/a> through denying yourself good things, speaking negatively about yourself, or self-harm. Usually this happens because you feel like you\u2019ve done something wrong and you take the responsibility to correct yourself. When motivated by healthy guilt, this is a good thing. When motivated by shame, however, this response becomes unhealthy: You punish yourself excessively and further internalize the idea that you\u2019re a bad person.

To overpower shame, redirect your self-punishing thoughts to ones of self-love. Remember that everyone makes mistakes and you\u2019ll do better next time. If you can, make amends to the wronged person. Finally, consider what acts of kindness you can do for yourself. This will retrain your brain to practice self-love<\/a> rather than wallowing in shame.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Embrace Yourself<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

How can you heal from unhealthy guilt and embrace yourself? Remember that all you can be is yourself, and all you can do is your best,<\/strong> Beattie says. Let go of the impossible standard of perfection: it\u2019s only once you\u2019ve embraced yourself as you are that you can grow as a person<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Beattie maintains that your worth is your own, just like your actions. It doesn\u2019t depend on others\u2019 behavior or acceptance. You are still worthwhile if someone rejects you. The way others treat you is a reflection on them and their situations, not you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: While there are certainly times this is true, it isn\u2019t always the case. In Chapter 2 we talked about mirroring<\/a>, where people will mimic your behavior toward them. Hold people responsible for their actions, but monitor your own behavior to see how they might be reflecting off you.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Beattie concludes that how you feel about yourself changes how you act and how others see you<\/a>. If you believe you are funny, charming, or beautiful, other people will too. This isn\u2019t a trick or a way to fool other people into thinking you\u2019re something you\u2019re not. Loving yourself means living authentically<\/a><\/strong>. You\u2019ve always had humor, charm, and beauty inside of you: now you\u2019re learning to let them shine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Healthy Striving vs. Perfectionism and Self-Loathing<\/strong>

Research supports Beattie\u2019s suggestions that letting go of perfectionistic behavior is part of healing. Brown argues that perfectionism<\/a> is a defense mechanism against shame. You seek approval externally and believe you can reach perfection if you try hard enough. Doing things perfectly is the source of your emotional security and self-worth. When you fail to meet your impossible standards, you feel worthless.

The cure to perfectionism is \u201chealthy striving<\/a>,\u201d the practice of setting reasonable goals based on your wants and needs rather than external validation<\/a>. Meeting these reasonable goals will arguably help you to believe in yourself<\/a>.

There are three major ideas underpinning healthy striving:

1. Focus on what you learn and how you grow during the process rather than just the goal.<\/strong> This will let you find meaning in the experience, even if you don\u2019t meet your goal perfectly.
2. Assign goals and standards for yourself in a sequential, step-by-step format.<\/strong> This will let you experience success and will keep you from getting overwhelmed<\/a>.
3. Ask yourself, \u201cWhat is the worst that could happen if I don\u2019t succeed perfectly?\u201d<\/strong> Consider how realistic this is and what more likely options are.

Healthy striving can also help you decide how to present yourself to other people. For example, you could wake up half an hour earlier so you can do your hair rather than rushing. The goal is not to change who you are, but to strive to be your best.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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