{"id":56182,"date":"2021-12-24T04:43:00","date_gmt":"2021-12-24T08:43:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=56182"},"modified":"2021-12-27T13:28:04","modified_gmt":"2021-12-27T17:28:04","slug":"deepening-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/deepening-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Deepening Relationships With Responsiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>How do you establish a stronger connection in a relationship? What&#8217;s the key to deepening a relationship? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Contrary to what you might think, relationships do not naturally deepen or grow stronger over time. Without regular maintenance, relationships easily plateau\u2014they won\u2019t develop any further without a bit of engineering. A properly maintained relationship has positive peaks that serve as the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/defining-moments-in-life\/\">defining moments<\/a> that deepen the relationship.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep reading to learn about the key ingredient of a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/strong-relationship\/\">strong relationship<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-use-connection-to-deepen-individual-relationships\"><strong>Use Connection to Deepen Individual Relationships<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Relationships are deepened in instances of <em>responsiveness<\/em>\u2014moments of engagement with someone else that make it clear that you\u2019re listening to and care about them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Responsiveness <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC2891543\/\">conveys three essential messages:<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Support: I actively support you and will help you get what you want or need.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Understanding: I know what\u2019s important to you and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/your-genius\/\">who you are<\/a>.<\/li><li>Respect: I respect who you are and your wants or needs.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>These three messages together accomplish the goal of responsiveness\u2014to make someone feel special and seen. These positive feelings bolster emotional wellness and self-esteem and establish feelings of security in the relationship. Without responsiveness, relationships struggle and stagnate.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>How Does Responsiveness Contribute to Defining Moments?<\/strong><br><br>Part of the reason that instances of connection and responsiveness can be so memorable is that they\u2019re <em>novel experiences<\/em> in our current world.<br><br>In <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/app\/book\/lost-connections\/part-2-chapter-3\"><em>Lost Connections<\/em><\/a><em>, <\/em>journalist<em> <\/em>Johann Hari writes that people are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-spend-less-money\/\">spending less<\/a> time than ever participating in meaningful, in-person social activities where they might establish connections with others\u2014such as dinner parties or group outings. The problem is that our world is becoming increasingly connected online\u2014which means our interactions are focused on superficial <em>communication<\/em> rather than a true, supportive <em>connection<\/em>.<br><br>As we become more and more accustomed to communicating with messages, tags, and likes, the experience of true <em>connection<\/em> that comes from opening up to another person and receiving respect, support, and understanding in return stands out as a pleasant surprise.&nbsp;<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-responsiveness-in-personal-relationships\"><strong>Responsiveness in Personal Relationships<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>In personal relationships, responsiveness is part of a formula: vulnerability + responsiveness = intimacy<\/strong><strong><em>.<\/em><\/strong><em> <\/em>In practice, this formula looks fairly simple: You share something (vulnerability) and then wait to see if the other person shares something in return (responsiveness). By choosing to respond, they express respect<em>, <\/em>understanding<em>, <\/em>and support.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The Heaths stress that intimacy doesn\u2019t come from either responsiveness or vulnerability alone\u2014it\u2019s crucial that there\u2019s an <\/strong><strong><em>exchange<\/em><\/strong><strong> between the two. <\/strong>When completed, this simple exchange opens up the possibility to continue sharing and learning about one another, to build intimacy and trust. In other words, it allows the relationship to progress instead of plateauing. It\u2019s important to keep in mind that this exchange doesn\u2019t happen naturally\u2014someone needs to take the first step of vulnerability in order to start the cycle.<strong> <\/strong>If you want richer, deeper connections in your life, you must either be willing to be open with others or recognize when others are making the step to be open with you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, you meet a girl on your first day of sleepaway camp. You reach out with vulnerability: \u201cI\u2019m nervous being so far from home for the first time.\u201d Your relationship can develop in one of two ways:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>She doesn\u2019t recognize your attempt at connection or chooses not to engage: \u201cOh. Well, you\u2019ll get used to it.\u201d The relationship that could have deepened to \u201cbest friends\u201d screeches to a halt at \u201cacquaintances.\u201d<\/li><li>She engages with your vulnerability and responds with her own: \u201cHonestly, me too! I miss my parents a little.\u201d You quickly become best friends because you both chose to complete the exchange of vulnerability and responsiveness, deepening the relationship. <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>The Importance of Aligning Expression and Reception<\/strong><br><br>The Heaths\u2019 approach to responsiveness is somewhat one-size-fits-all: Someone expresses vulnerability, and by expressing vulnerability in exchange, you reveal that you see them, care about them, and understand them. <strong>A crucially important point that this approach misses is that <em>not everyone gives and receives support, understanding, and respect the same way.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong><br><br>Many missed opportunities for connection and responsiveness come about because one person\u2019s <em>expression<\/em> of care and understanding is misaligned with the other person\u2019s <em>reception<\/em> of care and understanding. Once you know what makes someone feel seen, it becomes much easier to respond meaningfully to their attempts to connect with you.<br>Gary Chapman\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-5-love-languages\/1-page-summary\"><em>The Five Love Languages<\/em><\/a> is well-known for its lessons in determining what actions make you <em>and<\/em> those in your life feel seen and understood. The book focuses on the way we express love through five \u201clanguages&#8221;: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/acts-of-service-love-language\/\">acts of service<\/a>, physical touch, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/words-of-affirmation-love-language\/\">words of affirmation<\/a>, gifts, and quality time. Knowing someone\u2019s love language means that when they open up to you, you can respond to their vulnerability in a way that aligns with the way they view understanding and care\u2014thereby deepening your relationship.&nbsp;<br><br>For example, your friend reveals to you that she\u2019s behind on a project at work and is worried she\u2019ll be fired if she doesn\u2019t get it done.&nbsp;You reply with <em>your<\/em> love language, words of affirmation: You say, \u201cThat\u2019s so stressful. You\u2019re so organized, though\u2014I know you can do it.\u201d Rather than feeling understood, she feels that you\u2019re just saying nice things as a way to brush off her concerns.&nbsp;You reply with <em>her<\/em> love language, acts of service: You say, \u201cThat\u2019s so stressful. How about I pick up your kids from school each afternoon and feed them at my place? That way you can stay late at work without worrying. Let me know if I can do anything else.\u201d Your friend feels understood and deeply connected to you because you\u2019ve shown that you care <em>in a way that makes sense to her.&nbsp;<\/em><\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-organizations-can-use-responsiveness-in-client-relationships\"><strong>How Organizations Can Use Responsiveness In Client Relationships&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s easy to understand how responsiveness supports personal relationships such as with your partner, your friends, or your colleagues. However, the Heaths point out that you might not realize how important it is to support your <em>professional<\/em> relationships with responsiveness. 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