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Do you want to make an entrance at a singles event? How can you make an impression when you enter a room?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In her book The Fine Art of Small Talk, <\/em>Debra Fine takes some time to discuss communication in the dating scene. Specifically, she suggests looking at singles events as a networking opportunity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here’s how you can make an entrance at an event.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

A Singles Event Is a Networking Opportunity<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Fine suggests you think of a singles event as a kind of networking opportunity.<\/strong> Be kind and friendly to everyone, even those you don\u2019t see as potential dates\u2014they might become a close friend, a business connection, or the person who introduces you to the person you do<\/em> end up dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: While Fine\u2019s recommendation that you remain open to friendships makes sense in the context of singles events, mixers, or life in general, that attitude won\u2019t go far on a dating app. Indeed, the pervasive belief is that those who claim to be \u201copen to friendship\u201d or \u201cjust looking for friends\u201d on dating apps are annoying time-wasters<\/a>. In short, friendship just isn\u2019t what people use these apps for.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether the event involves speed-dating, a group adventure, or some other singles-focused social event, don\u2019t forget why you\u2019re there: Your goal\u2014everyone\u2019s goal, according to Fine\u2014is to make connections.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Knowing, from the start, that everyone\u2019s on the same page as you at a dating event is reassuring. You\u2019re allowed\u2014expected<\/em>, even\u2014to be interested in others, so your attempts to start conversations<\/a> are far more likely to be appreciated. Further, singles events are typically planned for<\/em> you<\/a>, and\u2014by nature\u2014surround you with others who are interested in the same activities. That gives you something interesting to talk about with others who are almost certainly just as interested.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you arrive at an event, Fine says, take the opportunity to make an entrance.<\/strong> Upon entering, she suggests you pause, allowing yourself to be framed somewhat dramatically in the doorway. Do this for just long enough to decide where you\u2019re going.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: A maneuver like this can feel awkward, uncomfortable, or even mildly unhinged. Most of us don\u2019t feel good about posing and posturing at the best of times\u2014but it does<\/em> work, aesthetically speaking. We use framing in movies, tv shows, and photography because it draws the eye<\/a>\u2014and besides, if you need a second to decide where you\u2019re going, why not spend that second mysteriously and alluringly drawing the eye?)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you\u2019ve done that, she says, enter the room and become invisible<\/strong>\u2014it\u2019s likely everyone else is busy with a conversation, meal, or other task, so this is your chance to absorb the atmosphere. Get some food or a drink, wander around a bit, and see what people are up to. Collect information on the following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. What pops to mind as you look around?<\/strong> Does the venue look nice, does anything catch your eye, and do people seem to be having a good time? (Shortform note: Remember: Your impressions of the venue, the general mood, and the organization of the event can make good icebreakers\u2014sharing your impressions will give others the chance to share theirs, allowing you to spark a conversation.)<\/li>
  2. What are people doing?<\/strong> Are most of them engaged, or are they just standing around? (Shortform note: Taking the temperature of the room and the people in it gives you useful information\u2014both about the people and the event itself. Keep an eye out for attendees who seem uncomfortable, lonely, or lost\u2014here\u2019s your chance to be a hero to someone and to make a connection with someone who\u2019s probably wondering if they really belong.)<\/li><\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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