{"id":51532,"date":"2021-10-20T03:47:26","date_gmt":"2021-10-20T07:47:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=51532"},"modified":"2021-10-20T03:47:28","modified_gmt":"2021-10-20T07:47:28","slug":"how-to-communicate-effectively","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-communicate-effectively\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Communicate Effectively in 11 Steps"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>How can you communicate effectively? What are the steps to resolving conflict amicably?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You master how to communicate effectively when you learn to be a good listener and approach each conversation with curiosity,&nbsp;rather than going into every conversation certain that you are right.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Effective communication is also crucial to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/nvc-conflict-resolution\/\">conflict resolution<\/a>. You resolve conflicts by creating an environment where both parties can openly communicate their needs and feelings, before <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/propose-a-solution\/\">proposing a solution<\/a> that makes everyone happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Read on to master how to communicate effectively.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Common Barriers to Effective Communication<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The main purpose of any conversation should be <strong>mutual understanding<\/strong>. This doesn\u2019t mean mutual <em>agreement<\/em>. Effective communication is about working to understand each other\u2019s stories better, so you can make better collective decisions about what to do next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If your purposes are focused on learning and solving together, you will be able to communicate effectively.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When we have crucial conversations, we often handle them badly. <strong>We behave our worst at the most critical moments.<\/strong> We yell, withdraw, or say things we later regret. According to Kerry Patterson in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/summary\/crucial-conversations-summary-kerry-patterson-joseph-grenny-mcmillan-switzler\"><em>Crucial Conversations<\/em><\/a>, this happens because:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Nature works against us<\/strong>. When under stress, whether physically or emotionally, we\u2019re genetically programmed to respond with fight or flight. We get an adrenaline surge and blood is diverted from the brain to muscles so that our thinking ability suffers.<\/li><li><strong>We get caught off guard.<\/strong> Crucial conversations often catch us by surprise \u2014 someone blurts out something and we have little time to think. We have a knee-jerk reaction and later end up wondering, what was I thinking?<\/li><li><strong>We lack the right skills.<\/strong> We don\u2019t know where to start in terms of responding to or initiating a crucial conversation, so we just plunge in. You can sometimes practice for crucial conversations, but you have to know what to practice \u2014 and even with practice you can still screw up.<\/li><li><strong>We act in self-defeating ways<\/strong>. We act in ways that keep us from getting what we want. We\u2019re our own worst enemies. For example, when one partner is neglecting the other, the injured partner may respond with sarcasm and sniping \u2014 which causes the offending party to spend even less time with the injured party.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Relationships, careers, organizations, and communities are built on the ability to communicate effectively about high-stakes, difficult topics.<strong> Therefore, mishandled conversations have a huge impact. <\/strong>In fact, they\u2019re at the root of a majority of persistent <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/organizational-problems-2\/\">problems in organizations<\/a>, teams, and relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>The Benefits of Effective Communication<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Learning how to communicate effectively can:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Boost Your Career<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>When you learn how to communicate effectively, you\u2019ll be influential and effective at getting things done, and you\u2019ll <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/5-ways-to-love\/\">build strong relationships<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, you\u2019ll be able to stand up to the boss without committing career suicide, or debate controversial issues without going overboard and creating enemies. You don\u2019t have to choose between honesty and your career. You can get people at all levels to listen without getting angry or defensive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Improve Your Organization<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Having leaders and employees who skillfully handle crucial conversations can improve an organization\u2019s performance, while poorly handled conversations and interactions can undercut it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The research of the author in<em> Crucial Conversations <\/em>shows that companies whose employees are skilled at crucial conversations:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Respond faster to financial downturns.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Are less likely to be injured due to unsafe conditions.<\/li><li>Increase the productivity of virtual (remote) work teams.<\/li><li>Influence misbehaving or incompetent colleagues to do better.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Most leaders think that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/workplace-productivity\/\">organizational productivity<\/a> and performance are driven by policies, processes, or systems. When there are problems they adjust these things, but it often doesn\u2019t work because the problem is behavior, not systems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Solving behavior problems requires crucial conversation skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the negative side, when organizations have performance problems such as snowballing costs, late delivery times, and poor morale, the biggest reason is employees\u2019 unwillingness or inability to communicate effectively (have crucial conversations) at key moments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, employees see others take shortcuts or make mistakes, and don\u2019t say anything, which impacts safety, turnover, and productivity. Also projects can fail when employees stay silent about problems \u2014 for instance, when goals are unrealistic, team members perform badly, or leadership stumbles.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Improve Your Relationships<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Failed crucial conversations can cause relationships to fail<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When people break up they often blame it on differences of opinion on important issues. But while everyone argues about important issues, clearly not every relationship ends in turmoil \u2014 <strong>it\u2019s how you argue that matters<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>From the authors\u2019 research observing couples, they found that people handle difficult conversations in one of three ways:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>They resort to threats and name-calling.<\/li><li>They retreat into angry silence.<\/li><li>They speak honestly and effectively.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>The researchers found that helping couples hold crucial conversations more effectively reduced their chances for unhappiness or breakup by more than half.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Improve Your Health<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The ability to master effective communication contributes to a healthier and longer life<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the other hand, not knowing how to communicate effectively can exacerbate health problems:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Immune system weakness: A study showed that couples who argued more had weaker immune systems than those who resolved difficult conversations well (a weak immune system results in poor health).&nbsp;<\/li><li>Life-threatening diseases: In a study of people with life-threatening cancer, researchers taught a group of them effective communication. Five years later, this group had a higher survival rate than the group that didn\u2019t get the training. Improvement in the ability to talk with others corresponded to a two-thirds decrease in the death rate.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Repressing negative emotions: The negative feelings we hold in and the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/healing-emotional-pain-eckhart-tolle-emotions\/\">emotional pain<\/a> from unhealthy conversations slowly erode our health. It can lead to both minor and major health problems.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How to Communicate Effectively<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are 11 tips to help you make your interactions more helpful and positive:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1) <strong>Understand Others First<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>This is important when trying to have an effective interaction with someone: <strong>First work on understanding the other person\u2019s perspective, and <\/strong><strong><em>only then<\/em><\/strong><strong> help her to understand your perspective.<\/strong> This approach requires <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/empathic-listening-covey-7-habits\/\">empathic listening<\/a>, where you\u2019re listening with the intent to truly understand the other person\u2019s perspectives and concerns. According to Stephen in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/summary\/the-7-habits-of-highly-effective-people-summary-stephen-covey\"><em>The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People<\/em><\/a>, it is only then that you can determine the right kind of mutually beneficial solution that works for everyone.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2) <strong>Replace Certainty With Curiosity<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of going into the conversation certain that you\u2019re right, certain that the other person had bad intentions, or certain that the conversation is going to go well, Bruce Patton in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/summary\/difficult-conversations-summary-douglas-stone-bruce-patton-sheila-heen\"><em>Difficult Conversations<\/em><\/a> recommends that you <strong>focus instead on being curious about the situation.<\/strong> What is the other person\u2019s side of the story? How do they interpret the events that occurred? How do they view your contributions? What, in their minds, would improve the situation? The more curious you can be about their perspective, the less accusatory you\u2019ll be about what\u2019s happened, and the more room they\u2019ll have to participate with you and help you find a workable solution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3) <strong>Don\u2019t Assume Intentions<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Other people\u2019s actions make us feel certain ways depending on our past experiences and personal emotional baggage. When we get hurt or upset, our first impulse is usually to assume the other person meant for us to feel this way. This is rarely the case. <strong>Just because someone hurt your feelings (impact) doesn\u2019t mean that\u2019s what they were trying to do (intention). <\/strong>We\u2019re always quick to assume that other people have bad intentions, though we give ourselves a lot of leeway when <em>we<\/em> hurt someone because we <em>know<\/em> that wasn\u2019t our intention.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Assuming someone meant to hurt you will color how you view them and will hinder you from communicating effectively. Most of us assume bad intentions = bad people, and we\u2019re far less likely to be curious about, understanding of, or accepting of the other person\u2019s perspective if we view them as a bad person, rather than a good person who\u2019s made mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4) <strong>Be a Good Listener<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Listening is an incredibly important skill in any conversation. One of the most common complaints the authors of <em>Difficult Conversations<\/em> hear about conversations is that the other person isn\u2019t listening. <strong>This really means <\/strong><strong><em>we<\/em><\/strong><strong> need to get better at listening if we expect others to truly listen to us<\/strong><strong><em>.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Humans long to be heard and understood. Have you noticed how often people will repeat themselves or double-down on an argument in a conversation? This is a surefire sign that they don\u2019t feel heard, and they don\u2019t feel like the other person is trying to empathize with their perspective. <strong>Making sure your conversation partner feels heard, understood, and accepted first will make it easier for that person to hear <\/strong><strong><em>your<\/em><\/strong><strong> point of view.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If we\u2019re having trouble listening to someone, it usually means we\u2019re wrapped up in our own <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/negative-inner-voice\/\">inner voice<\/a>. Our inner voice, or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/inner-dialogue\/\">inner dialogue<\/a>, is running all the time \u2014 but during a difficult conversation, our inner voice is usually yelling about the 3 meta-conversations. Once you understand those 3 conversations and have worked through your own contributions, feelings, and identity, your inner voice will quiet down and you can be a better listener.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3 things you can do to be a good listener:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Ask questions with the goal of learning<\/strong> instead of trying to prove a point.<\/li><li><strong>Paraphrase their responses<\/strong> to show that you\u2019re listening and trying to understand them.<\/li><li><strong>Acknowledge their feelings<\/strong>, which might require you to listen for what\u2019s going unsaid in the conversation.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5) <strong>Make Your Feelings Clear<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Subtext is <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/indirect-communication\/\">indirect communication<\/a> \u2014 through jokes, offhand comments, or other behavior. For instance, if you\u2019re upset at your spouse for sharing in cleaning duties, indirect expression includes statements like \u201cthe house really could use a clean-up.\u201d \u201cDo you really need to watch football every weekend?\u201d What you really mean is, \u201cI feel like we\u2019re not equal partners in the household, and you don\u2019t respect me.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>To communicate effectively, avoid embedding your meaning in subtext. <\/strong>You might think this will soften the impact on the other person and make it less risky for you to share. But this comes across as passive-aggressive and makes it more difficult for us to be understood. In the example above, the first two statements are far different from the real meaning, and lead to very different reactions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perhaps you wish you didn\u2019t have to speak up or share or bring the subject up at all, that the other person could just read your mind and solve the issue for you. But this is a fantasy. The realistic goal is to know each other better, acknowledging that it will never be perfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here are some phrases for starting productively:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>\u201cFor me, what this is really about is\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>\u201cWhat I\u2019m feeling is\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>\u201cWhat\u2019s important to me is\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6) <strong>Avoid Leading Questions<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Leading questions convey an opinion but demonstrate that you\u2019re unwilling to share it directly.<\/strong> Performance reviews sometimes start this way: \u201chow do <em>you<\/em> think you\u2019ve been doing?\u201d This will only activate the other person\u2019s anxiety and immediately trigger their defensiveness, and they\u2019ll probably imagine that what you have to say is far worse than what you actually think.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The best way to communicate effectively is to <strong>share your thoughts directly at the beginning, while also acknowledging that you want to know how the other person feels about the situation as well.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7) <strong>Use the \u201cAnd Stance\u201d to Show the Whole Picture<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Humans are complex. <strong>Too often, we try to simplify ourselves so that we can be easily understood by other people.<\/strong> However, this usually means our message is incomplete, and either we don\u2019t share everything that\u2019s on our mind out of fear of hurting the other person, or we only share the negative thoughts instead of including the positive ones that make the issue important to us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform example: A parent might say to their child, \u201cI don\u2019t feel like you\u2019ve been working hard enough in your college classes.\u201d This is technically sharing their thoughts, but it leaves out a crucial part of the message: \u201cI think you\u2019re so bright and have so much potential, <em>and<\/em> I don\u2019t feel like you\u2019ve been working hard enough in your classes.\u201d This represents a full, complex thought, and gives the child all of the information at the root of the issue.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sharing thoughts this way helps you represent your perspective clearly and accurately.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8) <strong>Don&#8217;t Express Your Opinions as Facts<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>As we know by now, presenting our feelings as facts usually makes the other person feel attacked, defensive, or resentful.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Expressing your opinions as facts can be more subtle than you think. \u201cSpanking children is just plain wrong\u201d is an opinion masquerading as a fact. If you say this in conversation with your friend about the way she treats her kids, you\u2019ve given her no choice but to get defensive. \u201cI don\u2019t believe it\u2019s right to spank children\u201d presents it as a personal opinion instead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be especially wary of using these words: \u201cinappropriate,\u201d \u201cshould,\u201d or \u201cprofessional.\u201d These all carry judgment that is entirely based on someone\u2019s personal opinion. If you have to use them, make sure you preface your statement with \u201cmy view is that\u2026\u201d but it&#8217;s best to avoid these words entirely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9) <strong>Share What Lead You to Your Perspective<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>You are the expert on yourself: you have information that no one else has access to, and past experiences that shape your perspective. These are important to share, because they contextualize your opinion.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, if you were spanked as a child and feel frightened every time your friend does it, it\u2019ll go a longer way to change her opinion about the issue if you share that information: \u201cI don\u2019t believe it\u2019s right to spank children. I got spanked as a child and I always felt so afraid. I still get frightened when you do it, even though it isn\u2019t happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10) <strong>Don\u2019t Say \u201cAlways\u201d and \u201cNever\u201d&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>In the throes of a difficult conversation, we often exaggerate<\/strong>: your husband makes a negative comment about your outfit, and you jump right to, \u201cYou <em>always<\/em> criticize my clothing. You <em>never<\/em> say anything nice.\u201d These words are good at communicating frustration, but have major pitfalls.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They\u2019re rarely accurate, and turn the conversation into one about frequency instead of the heart of the matter. They also usually make the other person get defensive immediately. \u201cThat\u2019s not true! I don\u2019t <em>always<\/em> criticize, and I <em>do<\/em> say nice things! Just last week I told you I like your new dress.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They also make it harder for the other person to consider changing their behavior. These words suggest that change is impossible, and can make the other person feel defeated before they\u2019re even given a chance to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>To communicate effectively, it\u2019s better to go into the conversation assuming that the other person doesn\u2019t know how their actions are impacting you, and assuming that they\u2019re a good person who will want to change their behavior once they become aware of how it\u2019s impacting you.<\/strong> Share what you have to say in an inviting and encouraging way that gives the other person new ways of behavior to consider.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">11) <strong>Assume They Want to Understand You<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>In a difficult conversation, both people need help understanding the other person.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We already know that paraphrasing what someone else is saying helps demonstrate that we understand them and acknowledge what they have to say. But you can use it the other way. You can <strong>ask them to paraphrase your feelings to check that they\u2019re understanding you and that you\u2019re being clear<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Most of us use phrases like \u201cDoes that make sense?\u201d or \u201cWould you agree?\u201d to confirm that someone else is understanding. But these questions corner people into agreeing with you, and make it harder for them to share confusions or disagreements.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Also, remember that <strong>people take in information differently<\/strong>. Some people want to understand the big picture first; others want the details first. Some people learn fast, some take more time. The more you understand the other person, the more you can help them understand you better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To that end, you can also <strong>ask the other person how they see it and why they see it that way.<\/strong> If it seems like the other person is confused or resistant to your story, put the ball in their court to see what you can understand from their answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How to Handle Conflicts&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Marshall Rosenberg in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/summary\/nonviolent-communication-summary-marshall-b-rosenberg\"><em>Nonviolent Communication<\/em><\/a> introduced NVC as a useful method for conflict resolution and mediation. When the people on both sides of a conflict establish a mutually respectful connection, they\u2019ll understand that their own needs and the other person\u2019s needs are equally important. Therefore,<strong> the goal of conflict resolution in NVC is <\/strong><strong><em>not <\/em><\/strong><strong>compromise. <\/strong>In a compromise, neither party\u2019s needs are fully met, and those remaining unmet needs will only cause further problems down the road.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>The Five Steps of NVC Conflict Resolution<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The NVC conflict resolution process has five steps. (It should be noted that the first two steps are reversible.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Step 1:<\/strong> Express your own needs.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Be careful to differentiate between needs and strategies. <strong>Needs are the fundamental physical and psychological resources that sustain life<\/strong>, like water, food, meaning, and support. <em>Strategies <\/em>are the specific actions we take to meet those needs.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>The fundamental difference is that need statements don\u2019t refer to any person doing any particular action.<\/strong> For example, the statement \u201cI need you to leave me alone for a minute\u201d is a strategy, not a statement of need, because it references someone doing something. A true statement of need would be, \u201cI\u2019m <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/getting-overwhelmed\/\">feeling overwhelmed<\/a> and I need to rest for a minute.\u201d It\u2019s sometimes difficult to tell needs and strategies apart because we\u2019re not used to openly and vulnerably sharing our needs.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Step 2:<\/strong> Identify the other person\u2019s needs (this step can also be done first).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>If the person you\u2019re communicating with isn\u2019t practicing NVC, they might express their needs in more indirect ways. Silence, rejection, and judgmental comments are all veiled statements of need. By recognizing these and translating them, you can keep the conversation flowing nonviolently even if the person you\u2019re talking to isn\u2019t using NVC.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Step 3:<\/strong> Verify that both of you accurately understand each other\u2019s needs by repeating the other person\u2019s needs back to them and asking them to do the same for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Step 4:<\/strong> Provide empathy by focusing on their unmet needs.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Step 5:<\/strong> Propose strategies that meet everyone\u2019s needs.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Propose solutions using <strong>present language<\/strong> by requesting what you need <strong>in this moment<\/strong> in order to move forward. This gives the other person the chance to either agree or refuse right in the moment. For example, ask, \u201cWould you be willing to tell me if I can borrow your car tomorrow?\u201d instead of \u201cCan I borrow your car tomorrow?\u201d<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Conclusion<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Effective communication is crucial to succeeding in your career and relationships. Good communication skills also lead to a healthier and longer life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The knowledge you have gained from this article will help you master how to communicate effectively. Now, it&#8217;s up to you to use the tips outlined above to enhance your conversations at home and in the workplace.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How can you communicate effectively? What are the steps to resolving conflict amicably?&nbsp; You master how to communicate effectively when you learn to be a good listener and approach each conversation with curiosity,&nbsp;rather than going into every conversation certain that you are right.&nbsp; Effective communication is also crucial to conflict resolution. You resolve conflicts by creating an environment where both parties can openly communicate their needs and feelings, before proposing a solution that makes everyone happy. 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