How does the Superior Man live his life? How can you like the Superior Man?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the book The Way of the Superior Man<\/em>, Deida explains that the Superior Man lives his life with purpose, authenticity, and love. Deida’s goal is to help you to reclaim the passion in your relationship and enjoy the fullest degree of intimacy and fulfillment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Continue below for Deida’s advice on how to become the Superior Man.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n The Superior Man understands what drives him and what drives his woman, and he uses that understanding to optimize his pursuit of their joint purpose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Men are driven to pursue freedom\u2014to push through all forms of constraint, release ourselves, and experience the total freedom of complete emptiness. Our deepest motivation is to face death and overcome it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n We see this in football: Our goal is to push through the constraint of our opponents and carry the ball to freedom. In war, we face death in service of a higher cause, giving our all for the sake of freedom. Even our orgasm is a slow build-up of tension until the moment of release frees us and empties us, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To be free, you must face your fears<\/a> and give up anything that limits your ability to love<\/a>.<\/strong> Your attachment to comfort and security limits your capacity to achieve a spiritual touchdown. Your need for security is the constraint you must push past. Your fear of surrendering your independent self is the death you must face to achieve the freedom of total one-ness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Women are driven to pursue love\u2014their path to fullness is surrender, rather than release. In sex, their desire is to be filled, connected, unified, and made whole.<\/strong> That\u2019s why they\u2019re disappointed when you stop holding them after your orgasm; you\u2019ve achieved the freedom of release, but she\u2019s achieved the fullness of surrender and wants to remain One.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The feminine search for fullness is what leads her to fill her shelves with trinkets and tchotchkes; it\u2019s what drives her to fill her body and heart with chocolate, shopping, and conversation. She wants to fill the emptiness in her spirit with love and connection.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Your truest release and her greatest fullness rest at the cores of your being. In discovering and embodying your truest selves, you attain your greatest freedom and she achieves her greatest love. Until you relax into your cores, she\u2019ll always seek to fill herself and you\u2019ll always seek release.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The Superior Man\u2019s focus is on growth\u2014he charts the course so others can follow, trusting the stability of his wisdom and the openness of his heart. In this section, you\u2019ll learn the importance of trusting your core.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The journey of life<\/a> is about constantly discovering deeper truths and consistently re-evaluating and reorganizing yourself around them. <\/strong>Live from the stable internal core of your being instead of focusing yourself around your responsibilities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll only have the energy to love fully if you\u2019re not wasting it by struggling with dissatisfaction.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Many men lose track of who they are at their core because they habitually focus their attention outward, on the tasks and events of each day. Your engagement with everything else is secondary and superficial when you\u2019re not loving them fully<\/strong>: your job, your wife, your children, your money, your art, and your pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What to Do:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Your priority at all times should be to be who you are<\/a> at your deepest level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even in trivial moments, stay connected to who you are; nothing you\u2019ve experienced has changed anything about who you are at your core. When you embrace yourself, you can face each moment with the humor, clarity, and completeness that comes from understanding that every moment is equally significant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How to find your core:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nobody will trust you to make good decisions if you always do what they suggest instead of following what you think is right. They\u2019ll see that you\u2019re not acting according to the truth you feel in your core, and you\u2019ll lose their respect and trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even your woman doesn\u2019t want you to blindly obey her.<\/strong> She wants a superior man, one who follows the road of his deepest truth and does what he knows to be right. Her desire is to see the strength of your love, freedom, and consciousness. When she tests the stability of your purpose<\/a>, she\u2019s challenging you to uncompromisingly be your best.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When you trust your own wisdom and take responsibility<\/a> for your decisions, you become more trustworthy and more capable of acting in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What to Do:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of simply acting, practice being fully conscious in every moment. Breathe deeply, stay open, and consult your deepest truth. Weigh the pressures that drive you to act against your internal compass, and then act in the way you know is right. Trust yourself<\/a>, and take responsibility for the result.<\/strong> Whether you\u2019re right or wrong, learn from the outcome and deepen your understanding of yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Without purpose, you\u2019re a ship adrift at sea. Nothing you do grows you, nothing calls to you, and nothing demands your full engagement. Events lose their profoundness, and you fail to enjoy them or learn from them in meaningful ways. You sleepwalk through your days, impotent in life, career, and sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Many men waste their lives focused entirely on duties and tasks, noses to the grindstone. They never realize their deepest truth, feel the infinite mystery of existence, fully give their gift, or love entirely and uncompromisingly. No matter how many tasks they complete, they get no closer to becoming fully conscious, free, and wholeheartedly loving. Instead, they die, unsatisfied, at the end of an empty, monotonous life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s good to be disciplined and purposeful, but when it disconnects you from your larger purpose you lose your freedom and perspective.<\/strong> When you know your core and are aligned with it, everything you do becomes an expression of your purpose. Your work and your intimacy become opportunities to give your fullest gifts and to enjoy the act of giving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your daily tasks must serve your purpose and lead you toward your deepest truth, or they waste your time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What to Do:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Identify your deepest desire and discipline yourself accordingly. Align everything in your life\u2014your diet, your activities, your career\u2014with your purpose; choose every action so that it satisfies that purpose.<\/strong> Live intentionally<\/em>, and pursue growth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Interrupt your tasks with the following refreshers:<\/p>\n\n\n\n The journey of life is a process of fully living one obligation, mission, or purpose at a time until it is finished and the next one can begin.<\/strong> When you fulfill a purpose, you grow closer to the truth of your heart\u2014your deepest purpose. You unlock a deeper layer and open yourself to more fulfilling opportunities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s natural, when a purpose is fulfilled, to lose interest in it. It no longer motivates you because you\u2019ve satisfied your need to engage in it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll know you\u2019ve completed a layer of purpose when you have no regrets about having started or ended that project. The prospect of moving on excites and energizes you. Engaging with it further feels pointless, because you no longer have a reason to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even if you don\u2019t know what your next step will be, you don\u2019t feel confused or burdened. It\u2019s time to move on<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\nYou Yearn for Emptiness, She Yearns for Fullness<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
The masculine seeks freedom in release from constraint and stress.<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
The feminine seeks fullness in surrender to love and devotion.<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
In the end, both masculine and feminine arrive at the same destination.<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
Continue to Be True to Yourself<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Embrace Your Core<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Trust Your Own Wisdom<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Remember Why You\u2019re Here<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Follow the Inward Spiral<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n