{"id":51307,"date":"2021-10-06T10:56:00","date_gmt":"2021-10-06T14:56:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=51307"},"modified":"2021-10-17T14:25:26","modified_gmt":"2021-10-17T18:25:26","slug":"the-way-of-the-superior-man-david-deida","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/the-way-of-the-superior-man-david-deida\/","title":{"rendered":"Advice From the Way of the Superior Man\u2014David Deida"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

What does it mean to become a “superior man,” according to David Deida? What advice does the book on learning to be yourself?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In The Way of the Superior Man<\/em> by David Deida, he gives advice on how to live authentically<\/a> and follow your purpose<\/a>. Deida rebels against the traditional views of masculinity and says that it’s okay for men to admit fear, accept and give love, seek purpose, and more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading for a brief overview of how to live with authenticity<\/a> and purpose from The Way of the Superior Man<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

The Way of the Superior Man<\/em><\/strong> Overview<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

David Deida, an expert in sexual and spiritual growth<\/a>, teaches you to become a Superior Man<\/a> by learning to be authentic<\/a>. In the process, you\u2019ll find and prioritize your purpose, understand and fulfill the needs of your woman, discipline your desires and insist on growth, and embrace and channel your attraction to the feminine. Here is a brief overview of the tips in The Way of the Superior Man<\/em> by David Deida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be Who You Are<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The first key to becoming a Superior Man is authenticity, and the Superior Man knows there\u2019s no better time to live authentically than right now. He doesn\u2019t wait for his finances to be more secure, for his children to move out, or for his woman to change\u2014he\u2019s willing to do what\u2019s necessary to give his fullest gift in every moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You have a unique gift to share, and you can\u2019t fulfill your greatest potential if you never try.<\/strong> In this section, you\u2019ll learn how to embrace and embody your true, masculine self, so you can channel your energy into giving your greatest gift, today. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maintain Your Fullest Consciousness<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Approach everything openly, wholeheartedly, and lovingly; this is how you give your fullest gifts without regret.<\/strong> It\u2019s satisfying to give your best, and that satisfaction lets you engage more fully because you\u2019re not distracted by a feeling that you\u2019re wasting your time. Being open allows you to discover your deepest truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stay conscious and open at all times, especially when faced with pain.<\/strong> When you retreat into your shell, you become blind to the subtle clues and nuances of a situation and are unable to act with your fullest intelligence. The Superior Man stays open to ensure he can respond with wisdom, humor, and love, instead of fear and defensiveness. Remain open by standing straight and breathing deep into your belly, opening the front of your body and making unguarded eye contact.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accept and Face Your Fears<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

The Superior Man is trustworthy and inspirational because he knows what he fears and leans into it<\/em>, sharing his gift anyway. His freedom comes from acknowledging, sharing, and facing his fear<\/strong>. Your greatest opportunity for growth lies at the edge of your fear. Speak your fear, describe your limit aloud, and proceed regardless <\/em>of your fear and uncertainty<\/a>. When others see you retreat from your fears and hide them, they lose trust in you. They know a man who lies to himself is likely to lie to them, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask your friends to challenge you; be open and honest with them about your fears, your struggles, and your situation. Have them identify specific ways in which you could improve, and take their criticism as guidance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Release Your Inhibitions<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

The Superior Man prioritizes his own<\/em> purpose; he does not allow the expectations of others to sway him from his path. Shame, guilt, and expectation limit you, burdening you with feelings of fear and unworthiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many men find that their deepest shame arises from the suppression of their sexual desire. As a masculine man, your natural desire is to ravish. You derive pleasure from releasing your woman from everything that blocks her ability to surrender fully to your love; from \u201ctaking\u201d and filling her, body and soul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is your role in the polarity of sex, and when you suppress this desire you become unable to fulfill it lovingly. You turn to violent pornography and fantasies of rape, and your shame prevents you from fully engaging in your woman\u2019s sexual surrender. Instead, give up your ego\u2014release your inhibitions and, focusing on what your woman is feeling, give her everything you want to give. Ravish her with abandon, and give her the space to let her desires take you places you\u2019d never have gone otherwise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Live With Purpose<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The Superior Man knows his priorities and pursues his purpose. In this section, you\u2019ll learn the difference in priority between feminine and masculine, why you need a purpose and how to find it, and why you should prioritize it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seek Release, Let Her Seek Fullness<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

As men, we\u2019re driven to pursue freedom\u2014to push through all forms of constraint, release ourselves, and experience the total freedom of complete emptiness. Our deepest motivation is to face death and overcome it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To be free, break your attachment to comfort and security. Your fear of surrendering your independent self is the death you must face to achieve the freedom of total one-ness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Women are driven to pursue love\u2014their path to fullness is surrender, rather than release. In sex, their desire is to be filled, connected, unified, and made whole.<\/strong> That\u2019s why they\u2019re disappointed when you stop holding them after your orgasm; you\u2019ve achieved the freedom of release, but she\u2019s achieved the fullness of surrender and wants to remain One.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your truest release and her greatest fullness rest at the cores of your being. In discovering and embodying your truest selves, you attain your greatest freedom and she achieves her greatest love. Until you relax into your cores, she\u2019ll always seek to fill herself and you\u2019ll always seek release.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be True to Yourself<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

The Superior Man\u2019s focus is on growth\u2014he charts the course so others can follow, trusting the stability of his wisdom and the openness of his heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The journey of life<\/a> is about constantly discovering deeper truths and consistently re-evaluating and reorganizing yourself around them. <\/strong>Live from the stable internal core of your being instead of focusing yourself around your daily tasks and responsibilities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s good to be disciplined and purposeful in daily life, but when it disconnects you from your larger purpose you lose your freedom and perspective.<\/strong> When you know your core and are aligned with it, everything you do becomes an expression of your purpose. Your work and your intimacy become opportunities to give your fullest gifts and to enjoy the act of giving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your priority at all times should be to be who you are<\/a> at your deepest level; you\u2019ll only have the energy to love fully if you\u2019re not wasting it by struggling with dissatisfaction.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to find your core:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n