{"id":50991,"date":"2021-09-28T08:02:00","date_gmt":"2021-09-28T12:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=50991"},"modified":"2021-10-12T14:18:12","modified_gmt":"2021-10-12T18:18:12","slug":"mindfulness-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/mindfulness-in-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Practice Mindfulness in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Why is it important to be present in a relationship? How can a lack of presence sabotage your relationship?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you are not present in a relationship, it&#8217;s very easy to misconstrue actions and situations and become reactionary, even explosive. Sooner or later, your lack of presence will poison the relationship to the point where it can no longer be mended.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Practicing <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/eckhart-tolle-meditation-mindfulness\/\">mindfulness<\/a> in relationships is a two-step process: 1) first, accept yourself, and 2) second, foster non-judgmental communication with your partner. We&#8217;ll discuss both of these principles below. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Both Partners Must Be Present<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Without presence, a romantic relationship will fall victim to a love\/hate cycle because true love can only be felt through presence. The ego will make you misconstrue actions and situations and cause you to be reactionary, eventually poisoning the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Don\u2019t Require the Other for Happiness<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you look to your partner to complete you or make you happy, you are placing your fulfillment on an external factor, which will never lead you to true peace and happiness.<\/strong> Here are a few reasons love can fail.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Using love as a substitute in this way can be viewed the same way as using food, drugs, shopping, and anything else that brings temporary satisfaction in an effort to mask deeper feelings of pain and dissatisfaction.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>When these substitutes fail you \u2014 whether the love fades, the drugs run out, or the gambling losses catch up with you \u2014 the pain is worse than before.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Your partner will eventually make a mistake or do something that fails to meet your (ego\u2019s) expectations.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Since your partner has inevitably failed to make you whole, this will trigger the ego\u2019s fear that, once again, you are supposedly incomplete.&nbsp;<\/li><li>The feelings of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/benefits-of-fear\/\">fear and pain<\/a> will bring you out of your previous state of bliss and into the darker end of the cycle.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/your-ego\/\">Your ego<\/a> will blame your partner\u2019s failure for the pain, and your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/eckhart-tolle-pain-body\/\">pain-body<\/a> will cause you to attack her.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Your attack may trigger your partner\u2019s own pain-body to attack you in return, creating a vicious cycle.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Be Present In Your Relationship<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The only route for happiness, even in a relationship, is to be present yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>To foster true love, you must be present and aware of your pain-body.<\/strong> If you know your pain-body and its triggers and tendencies, you are in a better position to resist them and prevent the vicious cycle of attacks and counter-attacks between your and your partner\u2019s pain-bodies.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>The pain-body is responsible for picking fights and creating conflict and drama in relationships.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s important for both partners to be present. If only one partner in the relationship is present, there are a few options:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>She can get sucked into her partner\u2019s ego and become not present herself.&nbsp;<ul><li>Relationships require a lot of give and take. The intimate and constant back-and-forth exchange makes it especially difficult to maintain presence if your partner consistently responds with her ego.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>The partner can become present and they can share a true love.&nbsp;<ul><li>Both partners must first be present and feel love within themselves through their true Beings. Only then can they share true love with each other.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>They can part ways.&nbsp;<ul><li>It is not sustainable for an intimate relationship to last long-term if only one partner is present. It is actually difficult for the ego-controlled partner to be around the present partner: The ego tries to create conflict, and if the other partner is constantly resisting engaging with the ego and its drama, it is irritating to the ego.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Avoiding relationships is not the answer to avoiding pain.<\/strong> In fact, relationship conflicts are more likely to push you to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-self-reflect\/\">self-reflection<\/a> and inner growth than isolation will.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Even if you keep to yourself, your ego will create its own conflicts through feelings of self-pity, guilt, or anxiety.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Whether or not you are enlightened, it is natural to feel a pull toward wanting a partner to create completeness.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How To Stay Present in Relationships<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>How do you practice <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/mindful-relationships-and-radical-acceptance\/\">mindfulness in a relationship<\/a>? It\u2019s one thing to be present with yourself, but a relationship brings another person (and her ego) into the dynamic and requires a lot of give and take.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Step 1: Acceptance<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>First, stop judging yourself.<\/strong> Accept yourself and the present.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Remember that love exists within you. You do not need your partner or your relationship to access true love<\/strong>, so you don\u2019t need to cling to either. Accept her and accept the relationship as it unfolds naturally, knowing that your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/happiness-and-love\/\">love and happiness<\/a> don\u2019t need to be tethered to every up and down you experience with your partner.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Second, stop judging your partner.<\/strong> Accept her fully, without the temptation to judge or changer her in any way.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When your partner acts on her ego, do not judge or react; <strong>judgment means you are confusing her action with who she is, or that you are projecting your own ego onto her.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you get into an argument or conflict with someone, observe your defensiveness when being attacked, as well as the aggression in your counterattack (if you do so). Notice your attachment to your views or opinions, your need to be right and prove the other person wrong. <strong>Recognize that your ego is fueling your reaction<\/strong>; acknowledging this will help to dissolve it. With practice, you will realize in future arguments that you have a choice not to react.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>It is impossible to have an argument with a present person, because she does not have an egoic attachment to her opinion and mental position, nor will she resist or react to the other person\u2019s opinion. She can make her point without being defense, reactive, or attacking the other person.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Acceptance of both yourself and your partner dissolves mind games, clinging, and the inclination to create a victim and perpetrator in the relationship.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>This will also cease codependency, which involves one partner getting caught in and enabling the other\u2019s ego behaviors.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Step 2: Communication<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Express your feelings to your partner without blame.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>First, try to express your feelings as soon as they come up, so that they don\u2019t have time to fester.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Second, you must be present and disconnected from your ego and pain-body. Acknowledge and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/self-observation\/\">observe your feelings<\/a> from a position of not identifying with them; otherwise, you are more likely to be reactive and lash out at your partner.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Be careful to avoid accusing, defending, or attacking.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Learn to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-listen-to-your-partner\/\">listen to your partner<\/a> openly and without getting defensive.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Give your partner the space and respect to express herself freely.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Leave Bad Relationships<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are dealing with an ego-controlled person who is manipulating you, walk away from the situation rather than allowing it to threaten your presence. <strong>Do not stay in situations that engage and inflame your egoic responses. It is your responsibility to have enough self-awareness to maintain your presence<\/strong>; blaming someone else for breaking your connection with your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-find-your-true-self\/\">true self<\/a> is, in itself, an act of the ego.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you say \u201cno\u201d and remove yourself from a situation, do not do so in a way that is reactive and negative. Say \u201cno\u201d and choose to walk away from a place of calm&nbsp; and clear insight that the situation is not in your best interest.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Humans\u2019 Lack of Presence Is Harming the Planet<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Let\u2019s zoom out from individuals to the global scale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our presence \u2014 or lack thereof \u2014 not only affects the people around us, but also the environment. As Beings who are connected to every other living thing on earth through an eternal life energy, <strong>our behavior and the energy we emanate <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-make-a-difference-in-the-world\/\">impact the world<\/a> and living things around us.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Throughout the book, Tolle periodically refers to the idea that humans across the globe have strayed further from presence from generation to generation, and are collectively lacking more presence than ever. Our collective lack of presence is sending negative energy into our environment and damaging the planet; environmental pollution evident around the world is an outward reflection of millions of humans\u2019 mental pollution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Raising collective human presence is the only hope to save our planet.<\/strong> Tolle believes that the whole world is coming around to this knowledge and an awakening of presence, which is encouraging for the future of the planet. 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