{"id":50353,"date":"2021-09-19T04:33:00","date_gmt":"2021-09-19T08:33:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=50353"},"modified":"2021-10-04T12:07:42","modified_gmt":"2021-10-04T16:07:42","slug":"father-son-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/father-son-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding the Father-Son Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>How important is the father-son relationship? What are the consequences of a bad father-son relationship?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the book <em>No More Mr. Nice Guy,<\/em> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/dr-robert-glover\/\">Dr. Robert Glover<\/a> explains why a healthy father-son relationship is so important. During his time as a psychologist, he noticed that a lot of his male patients struggled with their sense of masculinity if they had a bad father-son relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Learn about the effects of a bad father-son relationship below.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Importance of the Father-Son Relationship<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In his book <em>No More Mr. Nice Guy<\/em>, Dr. Robert Glover describes the Nice Guy\u2014a man whose fear of disapproval leads him to people-please, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-avoid-conflict-in-relationships\/\">avoid conflict<\/a>, and repress parts of himself. He discusses the Nice Guy in depth and shows how his personality traits can be caused by an unhealthy father-son relationship.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Glover delves into a handful of his patients\u2019 childhoods. He noticed in particular that a lot of insecure men had c<strong>ontrolling, distant, or abusive fathers. <\/strong>Whether their fathers were demanding, not present, alcoholics, or violent, many Nice Guys lack a healthy paternal relationship and develop negative opinions of other men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ideally, Glover says, a boy becomes a man with help from his mother and father:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>His mother attends to his needs as a child. It\u2019s her job to discourage dependency\u2014including her own\u2014by ensuring her needs are met.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>His father\u2019s job is to be present and actively bond with his son, which guides the boy from a matriarchal sphere of influence into the world of <em>men<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, Glover noticed many Nice Guys don\u2019t go through this transition. <strong>Without a strong father-son relationship, both mother and son can become codependent.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>The Transition of Boys to Men<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Glover isn&#8217;t the only author to discuss the idea that boys must be ushered into manhood by their fathers. Robert Bly also touches on this topic in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dacapopress.com\/titles\/robert-bly\/iron-john\/9780306824272\/\"><em>Iron John: A Book About Men<\/em><\/a> (1990), a book often discussed as a logical predecessor to Glover\u2019s <em>No More Mr. Nice Guy<\/em>. The book focuses on the development of the \u201csoft male\u201d in the 1950s, while trying to reclaim a masculine identity Bly and Glover agree has been somewhat lost to time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Like Glover, Bly notes that boys must be initiated into adulthood with the help of their fathers. Unlike Glover, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dacapopress.com\/titles\/robert-bly\/iron-john\/9780306824272\/\">Bly says it\u2019s a <em>son\u2019s<\/em> job to break away from his mother, as she won\u2019t consciously release him to the dangerous world until he proves he can handle it<\/a>. With this goal in mind, Bly stresses the importance of initiating a boy into the sphere of men. In many cultures, coming-of-age rituals will do this by 1. simulating a separation between a boy and his parents and 2. teaching a boy to tend to his \u201cwounds\u201d (physical, emotional, or otherwise) in a healthy way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Similar to what Glover observed in Nice Guys, Bly says a boy who never experiences this kind of initiation may adopt the role of a victim because he has no productive means of dealing with his wounds and overcoming his codependent relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>The Post-Vietnam Distrust Between Generations<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>In her article \u201cFathers, Sons, and Vietnam,\u201d sociologist Tracy Karner <a href=\"https:\/\/www.jstor.org\/stable\/40642783?read-now=1&amp;seq=1#page_scan_tab_contents\">explores the distrust that arose between WWII veterans and their sons after the latter group returned from Vietnam<\/a>. She takes Glover\u2019s point further, emphasizing the feelings of betrayal that arose when sons heading overseas\u2014who were told stories of valiant, necessary war in which the US was a \u201cwinner\u201d\u2014found the opposite of what their fathers had described. Further, upon their return, the lack of resources offered to Vietnam veterans (as compared to those after WWII) made these young men feel left behind. These sons found the America their fathers had described to be a myth.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Between Vietnam, Watergate, and shifting morals of the 1960s and 70s, <strong>this \u201ccrisis of credibility\u201d forced the younger generation to question all forms of authority\u2014including their fathers and their brand of masculinity.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How to Heal the Father-Son Relationship<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>To get at the root of his masculinity issues, Glover explains that a recovering Nice Guy must overcome the childhood impression of his father and view him through fresh eyes. Even if the relationship was exactly as you remember, Glover demonstrates that when you reflect as an adult, <strong>you\u2019re likely to see your dad for who he was: human.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your father doesn\u2019t need to participate in this reexamination (although if some frank conversation would help, more power to you). However, Glover maintains <strong>it\u2019s necessary to address your feelings about your father\u2014whether fury, disappointment, or love<\/strong>\u2014so that you can repair your complicated relationship with masculinity overall. (Shortform note: In <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-way-of-the-superior-man\"><em>Superior Man<\/em><\/a>, Deida agrees that in order to live as a free man, you must release yourself from your father\u2019s expectations. To help you do this, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-way-of-the-superior-man\/part-1\">he suggests taking three days to live as if your father had died<\/a>. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/follow-your-own-path\/\">Follow your own path<\/a>. What would you pursue if his judgment was lifted from your shoulders?)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How important is the father-son relationship? What are the consequences of a bad father-son relationship? 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