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What are the signs he is not actually a nice guy, even if he thinks and says that he is? How can you spot this deceptive nice guy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In his book No More Mr. Nice Guy<\/em>, Robert Glover explains the frustrating\u2014and often manipulative\u2014Nice Guy mindset. According to Glover, a not-so-nice-guy is someone who might claim to be nice, but in reality, they are fueled by fear, insecurity, and external validation<\/a>. He lists the key signs that he is actually not a nice guy like he says he is. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Below are the ten tell-tale signs he is not a nice guy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

10 Signs He Is Not a Nice Guy<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In the face of struggle, dissatisfied men use the tactic they know best: Be nice<\/em>. However, according to Glover, \u201cbeing nice\u201d rarely yields the desired outcome, and not-so-nice-guy’s insecurities frequently emerge as passive-aggressive or dishonest behavior. Their repetitive, ineffective approach to life leads to unsatisfying intimate relationships, bitterness, and disappointment.<\/strong> We\u2019ll explore the intricacies of a not-so-nice guy’s behavior, and its consequences, later in this guide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While the not-so-nice-guy’s traits listed above may be interpreted as passive or even annoying, they\u2019re far from mean<\/em>. But their suppression of the self\u2014to avoid disapproval, conflict, or strong emotions\u2014leads them to frequent disappointment. Glover stresses that in their frustration with life, these men are often far from nice<\/em>.<\/strong> In fact, <\/strong>their indirect and avoidant nature results in an angry cycle of self-victimization: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The not-so-nice-guy does something to appear<\/em> nice \u2192 He stews in silent resentment when things don\u2019t automatically go his way \u2192 Unable to contain his anger any longer, he eventually lashes out via tantrums, passive-aggressive behavior, or even abuse<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Glover notes that because he avoids addressing the root cause of his tantrum\u2014opting to \u201cfix\u201d the reactions of others instead\u2014the cycle continues indefinitely<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Victim Mentality<\/a><\/strong>

This cycle is often referred to as a disorder of its own: the victim mentality<\/strong>. Psychoanalyst Manfred F.R. Kets de Vries presents a similar cycle when discussing victimhood<\/a>. Just as a not-so-nice-guy believes he must people-please to get what he wants out of life, de Vries\u2019s victim<\/em> stage is defined by a belief that all control over your life rests in the hands of external forces. And like the not-so-nice-guy’s eventual angry outbursts, his victimizer<\/em> stage sees the \u201cvictim\u2019s\u201d feelings of powerlessness turn into rage that gets taken out on the innocent people around them.

 However, unlike Glover, de Vries adds a final rescuer <\/em>stage, in which the \u201cvictim\u201d decides to \u201crescue\u201d others in an attempt to fix everyone\u2019s problems except their own. When someone tries to help the \u201cvictim\u201d in return, they invent reasons to resist this assistance so as to unconsciously affirm their victim status and elicit more attention. Similar to Glover\u2019s views on becoming an Ideal Man, de Vries believes the best way to break this cycle is to self-reflect and develop a healthy self-image.<\/strong><\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Here is Robert Glover’s list of the signs he is not a nice guy, even if he tells you he is. According to Glover, a not-so-nice guy:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Avoids conflict <\/strong>and struggles with boundaries.<\/li>
  2. Is a people pleaser<\/strong>, and seeks external validation. He will often tell people what they want to hear.<\/li>
  3. Prioritizes other’s needs and desires over his own<\/strong>, rather than holding himself accountable for his own needs and desires. <\/li>
  4. Ignores his flaws and mistakes<\/strong> rather than addressing and learning from his flaws and mistakes. <\/li>
  5. Fixes people and situations without prompting<\/strong> rather than taking charge and genuinely cares for people<\/li>
  6. Witholds his thoughts and emotions<\/a> <\/strong>out of a fear of disapproval. <\/li>
  7. Isolated and lonely<\/strong>, because he doesn’t build healthy and worthwhile relationships<\/li>
  8. Uses manipulation and indirect tactics <\/strong>to get what they want. This is because they think they must conceal their needs, desires, and emotions. <\/li>
  9. Might display self-destructive, compulsive behaviors<\/strong>. These addictions can be drugs, alcohol, or sex (such as porn and masturbation.)<\/li>
  10. Has issues with his parents<\/strong>, including controlling or abusive fathers, overbearing mothers, strict parents, or pressure to be the family anchor. <\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    The above signs he is not a nice guy from Dr. Robert Glover<\/a> should be taken with a pinch of salt, but they give some indication about whether somebody is as nice as they say they are. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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