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Hide your failures from others?)&nbsp;<\/li><li>Do you notice any remnants of these coping mechanisms in your life today?<\/li><li>Think about a \u201csafe person\u201d (someone you trust) you would be comfortable sharing this experience with. What kind of feedback or support would you seek from them? (For example, do you just need someone to listen? Be your mirror? Provide <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/affirmation-and-visualization-7-habits\/\">affirmations<\/a>?)<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Discover Your Attachments<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>To <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/need-for-approval\/\">stop people-pleasing<\/a>, you must first identify your approval-seeking habits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Think about the attachments you use in everyday life to gain external approval. List some of them here. (Remember, this can be something you do to yourself or highlight about yourself\u2014from having a clean car to appearing to be the perfect father.)&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><li>Out of the attachments you wrote down, which would you stop doing if you weren\u2019t concerned about what others think? Why?&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><li>In general, how might you live differently if the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/criticism-of-others\/\">judgment of others<\/a> was no concern? What would you start doing in this case? List what comes to mind.<\/li><li>Look at the list of behaviors or actions you\u2019d like to start\u2014pick one. What\u2019s stopping you from doing this?&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Remember You\u2019re Perfectly Imperfect<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes we need a reminder that we\u2019re loved despite our flaws and mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Think of a situation in which you tried to hide a personal flaw or mistake. What concealment strategies (lying, rationalizing, distracting, and so on) did you use?&nbsp;<\/li><li>Consider the effectiveness of your strategies. Did your tactics successfully erase this flaw or mistake?&nbsp;<\/li><li>Were you still loved and supported by those around you after this incident? How might you have approached the situation differently if you knew you had their support no matter what?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Find Your Safe People<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Before committing to change, you need strong foundational support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Think about the \u201csafe people\u201d (those you wholeheartedly trust) in your life. Which of those people would make the best advocates in your self-improvement journey? Write down the top three who come to mind.<\/li><li>Consider what you hope to gain from the process of becoming an \u201cIdeal Man.\u201d How can your safe people support you through this process?&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><li>Now think about approaching one of your safe people. What method of communication will you use (a phone call, face-to-face, a public or private setting)? What personal issues do you want to discuss with this person, and how will you ask for their support?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Voice Your Needs<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>We have to voice our needs if we want them to be met. Swap your covert contracts for direct communication.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Think of a covert contract that exists between you and your significant other. As per this unspoken agreement, what do you give? And what do you expect in return?<\/li><li>How do you feel when this contract fails and your needs remain unmet? How do you respond (insults, passive-aggressive behavior, tantrums)?&nbsp;<\/li><li>What could you say to your significant other to clearly and directly communicate this need? Do you think this would be a more effective route to satisfying your needs? Why or why not?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Set Your Boundaries<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Practice setting your limits.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Think of a time you said \u201cyes\u201d to something when you wanted to say \u201cno\u201d (other than something you <em>have<\/em> to do for work, childcare, and so on). What feelings or fears led you to respond this way?<\/li><li>Now imagine you had said \u201cno.\u201d How do you think the situation would have played out? Why?&nbsp;<\/li><li>What boundaries could you set next time? Write down how you would communicate your limits.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Define Your Masculinity<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Before you can reclaim your masculinity, define it for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>What are positive masculine traits in your opinion? What makes a \u201chealthy male\u201d in your eyes?<\/li><li>Think about other men in your life (relatives, community members, fictional characters). Who do you know that embodies any or all of these characteristics? How could they serve as your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/your-role-models\/\">role model<\/a>?<\/li><li>Pick one potential role model. What questions might you ask him? (Gear your questions toward masculinity and being a self-accepting man\u2014if Captain America is your role model, don\u2019t ask him what it was like to wake up decades into the future.)&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Take a Different Approach<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>How can you change old habits and tap into your full potential?<\/li><li>Write down one goal you have for your career or life\u2019s passion.<\/li><li>What are the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/self-sabotaging-behavior\/\">self-sabotaging behaviors<\/a> keeping you from pursuing or attaining this goal?<\/li><li>Consider how you might \u201cdo something different\u201d to reach this goal\u2014how will you change your approach?&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Rules to Live By<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>How can you start living like an Ideal Man today?<\/li><li>Pick one of the strategies for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/the-ideal-man\/\">the Ideal Man<\/a> throughout the book that resonated with you.&nbsp;<\/li><li>How could you apply this rule to your life? 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