{"id":49089,"date":"2021-09-29T05:50:27","date_gmt":"2021-09-29T09:50:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=49089"},"modified":"2021-10-04T05:23:30","modified_gmt":"2021-10-04T09:23:30","slug":"distorted-perceptions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/distorted-perceptions\/","title":{"rendered":"How Distorted Perceptions Cloud Your Leadership"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>What does it mean to be &#8220;inside the box&#8221; in the leadership fable <em>Leadership and Self-Deception? <\/em>How can having <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/distorted-perception-of-reality\/\">distorted perceptions<\/a> of others make you a poor leader?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the Arbinger Institute&#8217;s story, Tom is a new manager who is called out for leading inside the box. He realizes that he hasn&#8217;t been treating his employees kindly\u2014or even seeing them as people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Continue reading for an overview of Tom&#8217;s story and leadership advice for facing your distorted perceptions of others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>The View From the Box<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>When you\u2019re in the box, you see only your own interests and have a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/acceptance-of-reality\/\">distorted perception<\/a> of others<\/strong>\u2014you see them as objects or as problems standing in your way. In contrast, when you\u2019re out of the box and not limited by your distorted view, you see others as people like you with equally legitimate interests.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How you feel toward someone depends on whether you\u2019re viewing them from within the box or from outside the box.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Examples<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>An in-the-box view<\/strong>: As Bud boarded a bus, he saw there were few open seats. There was one next to him but he didn\u2019t want to sit with anyone, so he put his briefcase on the empty seat and spread out the newspaper he was reading.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bud viewed the other passengers as threats or problems, not as people like him with the same right to a seat. He saw himself as more important and everyone else and their needs as secondary (he was deluded or self-deceived).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>An out-of-the-box view<\/strong>: On another trip, Bud and his wife were traveling together but couldn\u2019t find adjoining empty seats. A woman who was reading a newspaper had an empty seat beside her and offered to take another seat so Bud and his wife could sit together. She saw them as people with needs and interests like hers. She was outside the box and saw the things clearly, without distortion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On both buses, the same thing was happening on the surface\u2014both Bud and the woman traveler were sitting and reading newspapers. But their mental states of being in and out of the box were different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>The Story: Tom\u2019s In-the-Box Experience<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Bud\u2019s travel experience reminded Tom of a recent incident at work where he\u2019d gotten upset and sharply criticized a woman\u2014even threatening her job\u2014who used his conference room and erased notes on the board without asking permission.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As Tom discussed the incident with Bud, it occurred to him that he\u2019d been in the box and viewed the woman in a distorted way, as a threat or nuisance to him rather than as a person who probably had a good reason to use the room (although she shouldn\u2019t have erased the board without asking). He hadn\u2019t even asked her name.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bud noted that the secret to Zagrum Company\u2019s success was building a culture where they treated others as people rather than objects. While skill and talent are important at all companies, the difference at Zagrum was that its people-centered environment encouraged talented people to work harder. In contrast, leaders in most organizations are trapped in the box of self-deception and treat people as obstacles rather than inspiring them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bud told Tom that he knew the woman Tom had called on the carpet\u2014Bud pointed out that her name was Joyce Mulman, which indicated to Tom that Bud had already heard about the incident. Bud suggested that <strong>not being interested in learning a person\u2019s name is a sign you aren\u2019t interested in knowing her as a person<\/strong>. He said Zagrum\u2019s executive team made a point of learning as many employees\u2019 names and faces as possible. It occurred to Tom that he didn\u2019t know the names of more than 20 people in his division of 300.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Feeling defensive, Tom argued that he was justified in chastising Joyce. The problem was, Bud said, that Tom was in the box. The outcomes you get as a leader depend on where you\u2019re coming from (inside or outside the box), not on what you do and say. Coming from the right place, you inspire people to do their best; coming from the wrong place, you exaggerate others\u2019 faults and inspire their resentment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This doesn\u2019t mean you need to be soft or easy on poor performance. You can effectively deliver tough performance messages, as long as you do it from outside the box, where you have the other person&#8217;s best interests in mind. That\u2019s what Lou did when he chastised Bud for not completing his assignment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But tough messages are ineffective if delivered from inside the box. If Lou had delivered his tough message from inside the box, where he was focused on negative feelings toward Bud rather than on Bud\u2019s best interests, the outcome would have been the opposite (Bud would have resented him instead of improving). Lou would have created more problems for himself and the people around him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Practice and Doubts<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The meeting with Bud broke for lunch and Tom took a walk to contemplate what he had heard. First, he decided to look for Joyce Mulman and apologize for mistreating her. Joyce\u2019s office was empty so he sat down outside it and waited for her. When she arrived, she was surprised and alarmed to see him. She hastily apologized for her office being in disarray with reports stacked on the floor and her children\u2019s artwork everywhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tom assured her he hadn\u2019t come to criticize but to apologize for his previous behavior. 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