{"id":46170,"date":"2021-08-13T12:15:00","date_gmt":"2021-08-13T16:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=46170"},"modified":"2021-08-23T13:47:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-23T17:47:10","slug":"how-to-be-more-likeable","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-be-more-likeable\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Be More Likeable: Be a Comfortable Person"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

What makes a person likeable? What do you think likeable people do differently? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to Norman Vincent Peale, the author of The Power of Positive Thinking<\/em>, people generally like people who are “comfortable”\u2014others feel at ease in their presence. Another important factor in being likeable is the ability to make people feel they are important, boosting their ego in some way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading for Peale’s advice on how to be likeable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

We All Want to Be Liked<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

We all want to be liked and socially accepted\u2014it\u2019s a fundamental longing. Psychologist William James once said, \u201cOne of the deepest drives of human nature is the desire to be appreciated.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being liked is more important than just boosting your ego<\/a>. It\u2019s important to your success in life and in relationships. People who are isolated, with no support system, may end up feeling not wanted or needed\u2014negative emotions that can even lead to illness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Striving after popularity won\u2019t work, and no matter what you do, you won\u2019t get everyone to like you. It\u2019s human nature. Even the Bible addresses this, saying that if the disciples went to a village and tried their best but still couldn\u2019t get along with people<\/a>, they were to leave and \u201cshake off the very dust from your feet.\u201d In other words, you won\u2019t get along with everybody and you shouldn\u2019t let it bother you too much. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Though you won\u2019t get everyone to like you, there are ways to make yourself into a person who gets along well with others, even if you\u2019re not very social or are considered \u201cdifficult.\u201d  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A \u201cComfortable Person\u201d Is Well Liked<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

No matter what your life has been like, you can become a well-liked, popular person. Becoming well-liked is a skill that can be developed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First, be easygoing and natural, someone other people can be around without a sense of strain. Peale calls this being a \u201ccomfortable person.\u201d When you\u2019re too reserved and stiff, people don\u2019t know how to act or what to say around you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To do this, Christianity suggests developing one trait: a sincere interest in and love for people<\/strong>. Getting other people to like you is simply a reflection of you liking them. When you can develop this trait, other positive traits will develop. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re not a \u201ccomfortable person,\u201d look inward. Don\u2019t assume people don\u2019t like you because something is wrong with them. Assume the trouble lies with you. Be honest about less than attractive personality traits and know they can be changed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Peale once dealt with a good-looking, impressive man who found that others simply didn\u2019t like him and he wanted to know why. Peale found the man conveyed a critical attitude\u2014an air of superiority that was off-putting. He was a bit egotistical. Since he was being critical and unpleasant about other people in his thoughts, he wasn\u2019t able to be warm to others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Though at first baffled by this assessment, the man practiced the suggested methods of developing love for others and succeeded. One method he tried was making a list of people he met during the day. He was to picture each person and think a kind thought about them, then pray for them<\/strong>. Praying is particularly important because when you pray for someone else, you create a better understanding of that person and want the best for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, he had never noticed the elevator man in his apartment house, but after this exercise he took the time to get to know him. After practicing interest in and love for others, he found that the world is full of interesting people, and he\u2019d never noticed it before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To get other people to like you, you have to like them, and this isn\u2019t always easy. Some people are a lot less likeable than others. Understand that when you get to know anyone, even someone who isn\u2019t likeable on the surface, you\u2019ll find admirable and loveable qualities.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Build Up Someone Else\u2019s Ego<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Another factor in getting people to like you is to build up their ego. Everyone wants to feel important. Think about how you feel when someone deflates your ego; you feel wounded and disrespected, and you won\u2019t like that person very much. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imagine someone telling a joke to a group of people. Everyone laughs, except you. You tell everyone you heard that joke a month ago. Nobody in that group is going to like you much; you deflated a person\u2019s moment and took away their joy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you build people up, they\u2019ll feel respected and they\u2019ll love you for it.<\/strong> If someone contributes to your self-respect and self-worth, they are helping you be your best self<\/a>, and you\u2019ll be grateful toward them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Build up as many people as you can; let them know the possibilities you see in them and the genuine love<\/a> you have for them. They\u2019ll reward you with their own respect and affection. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10 Practical Rules for Getting Others to Like You<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Here are ten suggestions on how to be more likeable: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Remember other people\u2019s names. When you don\u2019t, it will seem to that person that you\u2019re not very interested in them.<\/li>
  2. As explained above, be a \u201ccomfortable person,\u201d someone who is easy to be around.<\/li>
  3. Become relaxed and easygoing so unexpected things don\u2019t rattle you.<\/li>
  4. Don\u2019t be a know-it-all; instead, be natural and humble.<\/li>
  5. Develop the trait of being interesting; this way people will feel they\u2019re getting a lot out of their interaction with you. <\/li>
  6. Figure out the less-pleasant aspects of your personality and work on them.<\/li>
  7. Try to heal any problems you have with others.<\/li>
  8. Practice the skill of liking others; eventually you\u2019ll be able to do so genuinely.<\/li>
  9. Interact with others. Congratulate others on their achievement, or offer support.<\/li>
  10. Offer strength to others, and they will give positive feelings toward you in return.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Exercise: Becoming Well-Liked<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    To get others to like you, you have to like them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Think of a person in your life you don\u2019t get along with very well. As Peale advises, look inward. What trait do you<\/em> have that may be impeding this relationship?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Building up someone else\u2019s ego is one method to boost likeability<\/a>. What are some honest things you could say to this person that might generate feelings of appreciation toward you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    One method to build up positive feelings for others is to pay attention to the people you see during the day. Is there a person you see often that you have never taken the time to get to know? What about this person can you sincerely appreciate or be interested in?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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