{"id":436,"date":"2019-07-05T21:51:02","date_gmt":"2019-07-06T01:51:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=436"},"modified":"2022-04-14T18:02:59","modified_gmt":"2022-04-14T22:02:59","slug":"upholder-tendency","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/upholder-tendency\/","title":{"rendered":"The Upholder Tendency (From The Four Tendencies)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

What is the Upholder tendency from Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies<\/a> like? How do they behave, and what’s the Upholder Personality? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Out of the four tendencies, Upholders may have the biggest advantages in life. They have many strengths, including the ability to rely on themselves and to be relied on by others, they’re motivated, self-starters, and organized. However, they do struggle when it comes to delegating work and can often be uptight and impatient.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading to learn all about Upholders.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Overview<\/strong> of the Upholder Tendency<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Upholders readily respond to both external and internal expectations.<\/strong> They think expectations, in general, are important, and enjoy<\/em> fulfilling both their own and others\u2019. They find it easy to take action and follow-through, and have no problem forming habits. They like schedules, routines, and rules. They dislike making mistakes or letting themselves or others down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If their boss asks them to stay late to finish a project and they know it\u2019s important, they\u2019ll stay (fulfilling external expectations); but if their boss last-minute asks them to stay late to finish a project and the Upholder has a lecture that evening that they signed up for months ago and are excited about, they\u2019ll most likely go to the lecture, and work on the project later (fulfilling internal expectations).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Strengths of Upholders<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

People with the upholder tendency can rely on themselves, and others can rely on them. They\u2019re independent and self-mastered: they meet deadlines, keep appointments, fulfill commitments, manage tasks<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to Gretchen Rubin, Upholders follow rules, but break them for ethical reasons based on their own inner sense of justice. Expectations don\u2019t make them feel pressured or trapped\u2014Upholders feel free, creative, and productive when they have expectations placed on them. <\/strong>They don\u2019t need others to supervise or motivate them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They rarely feel resentful about what they have to do, nor do they get burnt out easily\u2014this is because they can easily fulfill their internal expectations, so they don\u2019t feel they\u2019re just doing things for other people all the time. Upholders enjoy fulfilling expectations for others but won\u2019t agree to do something they don\u2019t want to and don\u2019t need to do, which helps them avoid resentment. They balance doing what others need them to do with doing what they need to do for themselves, which prevents burnout. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

People with the upholder tendency can do well in the following careers: business owners, consultants, freelancers, or coaches\u2014anything where they\u2019re in charge or have to do work on their own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some other positive ways to describe Upholders:<\/p>\n\n\n\n