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Your group inevitably ends up sitting together in silence, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/news-feed-scrolling\/\">scrolling social media<\/a> instead of talking to each other.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Not only does this tendency to fall into distraction together make it harder for you to maintain indistractable habits, but it also gets in the way of the conversations and shared moments that deepen relationships. <\/strong>The solution to this issue is consciously refusing distraction cues and sending social cues to your friends that distraction is <em>not <\/em>okay.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To make someone understand that their behavior isn\u2019t appropriate, call them out on it. You don\u2019t have to be <em>rude<\/em> in doing this, but you do have to be <em>direct. <\/em>An effective approach is to ask them directly about the behavior.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>For example, you\u2019re having coffee with a few friends when one of them takes out her phone while you\u2019re trying to talk to her. You can say, \u201cOh, sorry. I didn\u2019t see you were on your phone. 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When you get together with other parents, you\u2019ll inevitably have children wandering into your group to ask their parents for something. Unfortunately, this often derails important, friendship-solidifying conversations\u2014imagine your friend was just about to talk about his father\u2019s illness, but then your friend\u2019s child comes in looking for a snack. The conversation then veers toward the kids and your friend never gets to finish his thought.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Avoid this by agreeing as a group to be indistractable and finding a way to make sure your kids won\u2019t interrupt. 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Often, the pause will help you overcome the urge.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Build a schedule.<\/strong> Timebox your device-free bedtime so that it becomes a scheduled part of your routine rather than something that happens once you \u201cfinish up this one thing.\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Cut out <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/external-trigger-vs-internal-trigger\/\">external triggers<\/a>.<\/strong> Remove the temptation to reach for devices before bed by removing all devices from your bedroom. For example, instead of relying on your phone for an alarm, purchase an analog clock, and leave your phone charging in the kitchen.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Create precommitments. <\/strong>Plug your internet router and your computer monitors into a timer that\u2019s set to turn off at your bedtime. 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