{"id":38697,"date":"2021-06-12T20:50:00","date_gmt":"2021-06-13T00:50:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=38697"},"modified":"2023-04-05T15:11:32","modified_gmt":"2023-04-05T19:11:32","slug":"dale-carnegie-how-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/dale-carnegie-how-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living\/","title":{"rendered":"Dale Carnegie: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>What is Dale Carnegie&#8217;s <em>How To Stop Worrying and Start Living<\/em> about? Can it help you decrease your tendency to worry?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In <em>How To Stop Worrying and Start Living<\/em>, Dale Carnegie offers timeless advice for stopping worry from ruling your life. He discusses how to cultivate a worry-free mindset and explores ways to work through common worry triggers.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here is a brief overview of <em>How To Stop Worrying and Start Living<\/em> by Dale Carnegie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-book-overview-how-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living\">Book Overview: <em>How To Stop Worrying and Start Living<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<div class=\"jetpack-video-wrapper\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"How to Stop Worrying and Start Living | Book Summary\" width=\"750\" height=\"422\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VVjlW-ssf2M?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>None of us is a stranger to worry\u2014our minds are clouded by ambitions and goals, relationships, work obligations, concerns about the future, generalized anxiety, and so on. Left unchecked, worry and stress can easily consume you. But, with the right mindset and skills, you can start cutting <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/unnecessary-worry\/\">unnecessary worry<\/a> from your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In <em>How To Stop Worrying and Start Living<\/em>, Dale Carnegie teaches how imagining a worst-case scenario can stop your anxiety, why criticism is a compliment, and why smart spending is better than a raise\u2014and you\u2019ll come away with the right tools to build a happier, less worried mindset.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-is-worry\"><strong>What Is Worry?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Worry is focusing outside of the present\u2014overthinking the past and harboring <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/anxiety-about-the-future\/\">anxiety about the future<\/a>. <\/strong>You can combat worry by shutting your mind off completely from the worries of yesterday and tomorrow, instead focusing all your attention and energy on the present moment. This ensures that you\u2019re only carrying one day\u2019s worth of stress at a time and keeping your thinking uncluttered. Two major benefits of this practice are being better prepared for the future and being more engaged with your present life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-prepare-for-the-future-one-day-at-a-time\">Prepare for the Future, One Day at a Time<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>Not <em>worrying<\/em> about the future doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t prepare for it. It\u2019s necessary to save for retirement, plan your schedule, and so on. But keep in mind that no one can predict what\u2019s to come\u2014the <em>only<\/em> thing in life that you can control is the present moment. <strong>Effective preparation for the future is focused on the present, doing today\u2019s tasks one at a time, as well as you possibly can.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>For example, instead of fretting about whether you\u2019ll have enough money for retirement, focus on ways to start saving <em>today<\/em>\u2014by creating a budget, setting up a meeting with a financial advisor, or simply outlining your savings goals for the year.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-engage-with-your-present-one-day-at-a-time\">Engage With Your Present, One Day at a Time<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>When you focus on doing \u201ctoday\u201d as best you can, you avoid the bad habit of putting off living your life because you\u2019re focused on a far-off, attractive future.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a child, you talk about what you want to do when you\u2019re older. As a teen, you think about life as an adult. In college, you think about your future job. Once you\u2019re in your career, you dream about what you\u2019ll do when you retire. At the end of your life, you realize how much you missed by always <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/looking-toward-the-future\/\">looking toward the future<\/a>. <strong>Living one day at a time helps engage you more deeply with the life that\u2019s sitting right in front of you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-physical-cost-of-worry\"><strong>The Physical Cost of Worry<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Besides better immersing you in the present, mitigating worry also helps you avoid serious mental and physical manifestations of worry. <\/strong>Doctors have repeatedly found strong correlations between worry and mental illnesses such as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/low-mood-and-anxiety\/\">depression and anxiety<\/a>. Additionally, there are numerous links between worry and serious physical symptoms such as ulcers, headaches, insomnia, cardiac issues, diabetes, and rashes\u2014just to name a few.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-basic-worry-management-analysis-and-decision\"><strong>Basic Worry Management: Analysis and Decision<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Though you might understand that worry is a waste of time and energy, avoiding stressful situations isn\u2019t always possible. In these cases, you can lessen your worry by analyzing your situation and finding solutions. There are three parts to this process.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Part 1: Gather the facts. <\/strong>Gather all the information you can about the situation so that you know <em>exactly<\/em> what you\u2019re worrying about. Otherwise, you end up basing decisions on false information or getting stuck on \u201cwhat-ifs.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Be sure you\u2019re gathering <em>all<\/em> the facts, not just those that confirm your thinking. To remain unbiased, pretend you\u2019re gathering information for someone else or that you need to argue the issue from the other side.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Part 2: Analyze your information. <\/strong>Once you have your facts written down, ask yourself: What is my worry? What can I do about it?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>These questions lead you to possible solutions, from which you can decide on a clear direction to move in\u2014instead of getting mired in possibilities.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Part 3: Act on your decision.<\/strong> It\u2019s crucial to start acting on your decision right away so that you don\u2019t have time to second-guess yourself. Don\u2019t try to solve the entire problem at once\u2014just start on what you <em>can<\/em> do.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>For example, if you\u2019re worried about your health and decide to change your unhealthy habits, you can\u2019t revamp your entire lifestyle right away. However, you <em>can<\/em> start cutting soda out of your diet immediately.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-cultivate-a-less-worried-mindset\"><strong>Cultivate a Less Worried Mindset<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Having a generally less worried mindset puts you in a better position to work through difficult or stressful situations clearly\u2014or even gloss over them. First, we\u2019ll tackle the common <em>habit<\/em> of worrying, and then discuss how to keep your everyday mindset as worry-free as possible, moving forward.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-break-your-habit\"><strong>Break Your Habit<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Method 1: Keep busy. <\/strong>Occupy your mind with productive, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-have-a-positive-mindset\/\">positive thoughts<\/a> rather than worry and anxiety by keeping yourself mentally and physically busy. Some positive ways to keep busy include joining activities like a sports team or a class, or developing a hobby like painting or learning an instrument.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Method 2: Reframe the small stuff. <\/strong>A strange aspect of human nature is that we easily become emotional and reactive toward small, unimportant matters. When you find yourself fretting about something small, try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Asking yourself: Am I going to let this setback ruin my <em>entire <\/em>experience? This question often reveals that the matter isn\u2019t important enough to derail an entire event.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Thinking of how you can make a small irritation more pleasant. For example, you might think of your noisy neighbors as a good excuse to buy a luxurious sleep mask and white noise machine.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Method 3: Consider probability. <\/strong>When you step back and examine anxieties\u2014such as a house fire or plane crash\u2014you\u2019ll often find that they\u2019re not very likely to happen. This interrupts your imagination\u2019s irrational spirals and grounds your anxious thoughts in fact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Method 4: Accept what\u2019s out of your control. <\/strong>Practice acceptance of situations you can\u2019t change or control\u2014<em>cooperate<\/em> with your circumstances instead of pushing back against them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>For example, if your company announces coming layoffs, no amount of stressing on your part will make them rethink their strategy. Instead, accept that you may lose your job, and start looking through job ads.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Method 5: Set limits. <\/strong>Determine how much time and energy you\u2019re willing to spend worrying about small issues. Think: Do I <em>really<\/em> care about this issue? How much of my time will I allow it to take?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Imagine a friend always shows up 30 minutes late to lunch plans. Instead of wasting your lunch hour in frustration, tell them, \u201cI\u2019ll be at the restaurant at 12:30. I\u2019ll wait 10 minutes for you. If you\u2019re not there, I\u2019m going to find lunch elsewhere.\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Method 6: Remember that what\u2019s done is done. <\/strong>Ruminating on the past is useless. You can\u2019t change actions or decisions that have already happened. Instead, focus on mitigating or managing the present outcomes of those actions and decisions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>This may look like committing to your chosen path, changing course, or finding small ways to better your circumstances.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-adopt-a-happier-more-relaxed-attitude\"><strong>Adopt a Happier, More Relaxed Attitude&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>When you\u2019re happy and relaxed in your everyday life, stressful situations have less power to send you into an anxious spiral. There are seven rules for maintaining a relaxed attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1) Attitude is everything. <\/strong>Many problems and worries don\u2019t stem from your actual circumstances\u2014they stem from your perception of and reaction to your circumstances. However, sometimes it\u2019s just not possible to approach a problem with a sunny attitude. In these cases, keep in mind that <em>actions can influence how you feel<\/em>\u2014performing productive actions can help improve your attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Imagine that you just received news that you have a serious illness and need to undergo surgery. It might not be possible to approach the situation with positivity, but you <em>can<\/em> start stocking up on cozy blankets and your favorite snacks to ensure that the post-op period will be as comfortable as possible.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2) Don\u2019t try to get even. <\/strong>Holding grudges clutters your mind and preserves long-term feelings of anger and tension. When you let go of a grudge, you take away the other person\u2019s power to occupy your thoughts and rule your emotions.<strong> <\/strong>There are three ways to let go of a grudge:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Forgive and forget. <\/strong>Forgive your enemy and refuse to mull over it. If they\u2019ve taught you a valuable lesson, take your forgiveness a courageous step further by <em>thanking them<\/em>.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Distract yourself with a bigger cause. <\/strong>When you\u2019re deeply involved in a cause you\u2019re passionate about, it\u2019s easier to ignore insults. Instead of responding to your enemies or critics with anger, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-push-yourself\/\">push yourself<\/a> further into your cause and commit to proving them wrong.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Put yourself in your enemy\u2019s shoes.<\/strong> You may have acted the same if you\u2019d been in their position.<strong> <\/strong>Attribute their wrongdoing to their circumstances, not their character, and leave it behind you\u2014as you\u2019d hope they\u2019d do for you.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3) Expect a lack of gratitude. <\/strong>Gratitude is a cultivated practice\u2014<em>ingratitude <\/em>is human nature.<strong> <\/strong>Expecting<em> <\/em>natural gratitude from others will only lead to frequent disappointment or resentment. It\u2019s better to expect no gratitude at all and be delighted when you do receive it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4) Count your blessings. <\/strong>We often waste what we <em>do<\/em> have while wishing for what we don\u2019t have. When you\u2019re feeling irritable or down, consciously take a moment to reflect on all the good in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>5) Find\u2014and act like\u2014yourself. <\/strong>One of the easiest ways to make yourself anxious and unhappy is to reject who you <em>are<\/em> and strive to be someone different.<strong> <\/strong>Instead of trying to become an imitation of others, put your time and energy toward discovering and developing the skills, passions, and stories that make you who you are.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>6) When life hands you lemons, make lemonade. <\/strong>Think of setbacks as opportunities for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/keep-learning-keep-growing\/\">learning and growth<\/a>. When something goes wrong, ask yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>What can I learn from this situation?&nbsp;<\/li><li>How can I improve this situation?&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>7) Find ways to do good for others.<\/strong> Commit to doing at least one good deed for someone else every day. When you\u2019re thinking of others, you\u2019re naturally distracted from thinking about yourself and your worries.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You can practice kindness toward anyone\u2014a cashier, the mail carrier at work, and so on\u2014simply by asking them about themselves and how their day is going.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-dealing-with-worry-about-criticism\"><strong>Dealing With Worry About Criticism<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When criticized, most of us instinctively react negatively\u2014either becoming angry and defensive or worried sick about what people must think of us. There are three ways you can make criticism less stressful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-method-1-remember-that-you-re-not-perfect\"><strong>Method 1: Remember That You\u2019re Not Perfect<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>When faced with justified criticism, recognize that it\u2019s a valuable learning opportunity. It can be difficult not to react emotionally to criticism, but you can avoid emotional reactions by:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Being your own worst critic. <\/strong>When you examine and criticize yourself, you ensure that you won\u2019t be taken by surprise by others&#8217; criticism and can <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/learn-from-your-mistakes\/\">learn from your mistakes<\/a> privately instead of in a public\u2014and therefore emotionally charged\u2014setting.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Recognizing and welcoming sincere and helpful criticism.<\/strong> When criticized, take a moment to consider where the criticism is coming from\u2014is it helpful and kind? If so, accept that it\u2019s legitimate criticism and ask yourself what you can learn from it.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: For more tips on productively <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/receiving-feedback\/\">accepting feedback<\/a> and criticism, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/app\/book\/thanks-for-the-feedback\">read our <strong>summary <\/strong>of <em>Thanks for the Feedback<\/em><\/a>.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-method-2-do-your-best\"><strong>Method 2: Do Your Best<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Many people react to criticism by trying to please their critic and thus avoid future criticism. This is a waste of time because no matter what you do, <em>someone<\/em> will be able to find a reason to criticize you. <strong>Instead of focusing on actions that you think will draw the least criticism, focus on doing what <\/strong><strong><em>you<\/em><\/strong><strong> absolutely believe is the right thing to do.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>If you act within your values to make the best decisions you can, you\u2019ll be less likely to internalize and worry about the opinions of others. The comments of others will more easily bounce off of you.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-method-3-take-unjust-criticism-as-a-compliment\"><strong>Method 3: Take Unjust Criticism as a Compliment&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>When you\u2019re criticized unfairly, it\u2019s usually because your critic needs to feel more powerful or important than you.<\/strong> In this way, unjustified criticism is a compliment. It signals that whatever you\u2019re doing is <em>worth<\/em> jealousy and attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-dealing-with-worry-about-work\"><strong>Dealing With Worry About Work<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s important to get a handle on work-related worries because you spend so much of your time and energy at work\u2014work stress naturally touches all aspects of your life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-search-for-ways-to-enjoy-your-work\"><strong>Search for Ways to Enjoy Your Work<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Boring work is a significant source of negative emotions such as resentment, frustration, and worry. On the other hand, enjoyable work energizes you and adds positivity to your life. <strong>Even if you don\u2019t particularly like your job, you can consciously make it more enjoyable. <\/strong>There are four ways to do this.<strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1) Add interest and challenge to your work<\/strong> by making small goals for yourself, or by taking on extra projects that are more interesting than your regular work. These small changes often lead to <em>genuine<\/em> enjoyment.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>For example, someone bored with data entry can make a goal to increase their entry speed by 2% each day, adding a motivating challenge to the task.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2) Think of the gains. <\/strong>When you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-enjoy-work\/\">enjoy your work<\/a>, you naturally work faster. This means that you don\u2019t have to spend extra time at work finishing up tasks, and your efficiency might line you up for a promotion.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>For example, the data entry employee might be chosen for a promotion into a less boring position, based on their impressive spike in efficiency.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3) Reframe the way you think about your obligation to work. <\/strong>When you\u2019re feeling resentful of your work, think about how many people would love the opportunity you have. Remember that you\u2019re lucky to have a job, even if it\u2019s not exactly the job you want right now.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4) Start your day with a pep talk. <\/strong>Talking to yourself positively and reflecting on your goals helps you approach your work with a positive attitude\u2014this boosts your motivation and helps carry you through the tougher moments of your job.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>For example, you might start your morning by saying, \u201cToday I\u2019m going to make x number of sales and beat last month\u2019s numbers. I think this is achievable, based on last week\u2019s sales and the feedback I\u2019ve gotten.\u201d<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-find-work-you-love\"><strong>Find Work You Love<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>While <em>pretending<\/em> to enjoy your work can reduce your frustration and worry, it\u2019s even better to <em>genuinely enjoy<\/em> your work. Unfortunately, many people choose their paths when they\u2019re young and don\u2019t quite know what they enjoy. <strong>The good news is, you can always change the direction of your career.<\/strong> There are numerous ways to find and pursue enjoyable work:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Find a vocational counselor or books that can help direct you toward a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/career-path-development\/\">career path<\/a> that suits you.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Avoid professions that are already saturated or hard to break into\u2014such as modeling or acting\u2014unless that\u2019s <em>truly<\/em> what you want to do. It\u2019s very difficult to get ahead in these professions, which can lead to high levels of insecurity, stress, and worry.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Do thorough research before <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/career-passion\/\">choosing a career<\/a> field\u2014a huge portion of your life is devoted to your career, so it\u2019s not a decision to be taken lightly.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Remember that <em>you can change your line of work at any time<\/em>.<strong> <\/strong>No one is destined for one occupation only\u2014there are many fields you can succeed in if you apply yourself.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-establish-good-habits-around-work\"><strong>Establish Good Habits Around Work<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>When you\u2019re in the right job or are at least doing your best to enjoy your job, you have the mental space to make your working life more organized and stress-free. There are four actions you can take to create less stressful workdays.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-action-1-prioritize-rest\">Action #1: Prioritize Rest<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>You don\u2019t need to grind yourself to exhaustion\u2014you\u2019ll be much more efficient if you take adequate time for rest <em>before<\/em> you\u2019re tired. Accomplish this by scheduling frequent breaks into your day.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-action-2-relax-as-much-as-you-can\">Action #2: Relax as Much as You Can<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>Interestingly, most of your work-related fatigue isn\u2019t <em>mental<\/em> fatigue, though it might feel that way. <strong>Your fatigue is more likely physical\u2014even if you don\u2019t work in a physically demanding job.<\/strong> You naturally experience negative <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/managing-emotions-in-the-workplace\/\">emotions at work<\/a> like frustration or anxiety, which cause near-constant physical tension that exerts your muscles and tires you out. There are three ways to reduce your tension at work.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Regularly check in and train yourself to relax. <\/strong>Set an alarm to go off every hour or so, prompting you to think about what parts of your body are holding unnecessary tension. Consciously think about relaxing those muscles. Once the tension there dissipates, move on to another muscle\u2014like the jaw or the shoulders. Repeat this practice throughout the day.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Do your work in a position that\u2019s comfortable for you<\/strong>. This might look like working at a standing desk, purchasing a comfortable chair, or lying down if possible.<\/li><li><strong>Perform an end-of-day check-in. <\/strong>Determine if your end-of-day energy level corresponds with the work you did. If you feel exhausted after doing relatively easy, non-strenuous work, you were likely holding tension all day.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-action-3-establish-good-working-habits\">Action #3: Establish Good Working Habits<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>There are four habits that are crucial to an organized, uncluttered workday that won\u2019t drain your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/mental-energy\/\">mental energy<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1) Clear your desk.<\/strong> Remove <em>everything<\/em> from your desk, except for whatever needs your immediate attention. This removes distracting, worrying reminders of everything you need to get done and lets you focus on one problem at a time.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Similarly, don\u2019t hold issues in the back of your mind for later. Try to deal with them immediately\u2014for example, dedicate your morning to responding to emails right away instead of letting them sit in your \u201cdrafts\u201d folder.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2) Prioritize. <\/strong>Make a plan of how you\u2019ll prioritize and take care of your most important issues each day. For you, this might look like waking up early to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/create-a-plan\/\">plan out your day<\/a>, or you might create the next day\u2019s schedule each night.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3) Come to a decision ASAP. <\/strong>When you have all the relevant information you need, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/be-decisive\/\">make a decision<\/a> right away\u2014this helps clear your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/gtd-to-do-list\/\">to-do list<\/a> of things that need to be discussed or executed. 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