{"id":37829,"date":"2021-06-08T15:19:00","date_gmt":"2021-06-08T19:19:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=37829"},"modified":"2021-06-14T09:34:14","modified_gmt":"2021-06-14T13:34:14","slug":"how-to-be-likable","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-be-likable\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Be Likable: 5 Ways to Unleash Your Inner Charm"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Can you learn how to be likable<\/a>? What qualities are deemed likable by most people? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Likability<\/a> is not an attribute that you either have or don’t have\u2014anyone can cultivate it. One of the distinguishing traits of likable people is that they show genuine friendship and kindness to others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Without further ado, here are five tips on how to be likable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

5 Tips to Become More Likable<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Likability is a factor in all aspects of your life, especially your career. If have the technical skills for a new job but you\u2019re deemed unlikable, you won’t get the position. You have to fit in with other people to achieve success. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t fake likability or bribe your way into others\u2019 good graces; you\u2019ll end up just creating contempt in the people whose support you\u2019re trying to gain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to learn how to be likable, follow these five tips:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Take the initiative to build new friendships.<\/li>
  2. Don\u2019t expect perfection in other people.<\/li>
  3. Tune in to \u201cChannel P\u201d and not \u201cChannel N.\u201d <\/li>
  4. Don\u2019t monopolize the conversation. Let others talk.<\/li>
  5. Don\u2019t blame others when there\u2019s a setback.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    1) Take the Initiative to Build New Friendships<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    When you take the initiative to introduce yourself to other people, you build more friendships and relationships, gaining more support. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Successful people go out of their way to meet people and put others at ease. There are six ways to emulate this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    1. Introduce yourself to other people at every opportunity, whether it\u2019s a work event, on an airplane or on an elevator.<\/li>
    2. Make sure the other person hears and knows your name.<\/li>
    3. Make sure you know the other person\u2019s name. Know how to pronounce it correctly.<\/li>
    4. Make sure you know how to spell the other person\u2019s name. Write it down.<\/li>
    5. Follow up with a note (email or text if appropriate). If you want to know them better, it\u2019s important to follow through and take the next step.<\/li>
    6. Say nice things to strangers. Offer sincere compliments. <\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Average people wait for others to introduce themselves. Successful people take the initiative, finding out who the other person is\u2014and making sure that other person knows who they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      2<\/strong>) Don\u2019t Expect Perfection in Other People<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      The perfect person doesn\u2019t exist; we\u2019re all human. When you expect perfection from others — coworkers, superiors, family, partners, friends — you set yourself up for disappointment and diminish your likability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Learn to go easy on other people:<\/p>\n\n\n\n