{"id":36677,"date":"2021-05-20T15:13:00","date_gmt":"2021-05-20T19:13:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=36677"},"modified":"2021-06-02T14:42:55","modified_gmt":"2021-06-02T18:42:55","slug":"feeling-ashamed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/feeling-ashamed\/","title":{"rendered":"Don&#8217;t Let Feeling Ashamed Hold You Back From Love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>How can feeling ashamed hold you back from loving others? How does God respond to your shame?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In <em>Everybody, Always <\/em>by Bob Goff, Goff says that feeling ashamed is normal but you shouldn&#8217;t let it hold you back. In order to become love, you must love yourself and others and not turn away from them. You never need to feel shame with God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Continue on to learn what Bob Goff has to say about feeling ashamed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Feeling Ashamed <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When people try to control your life, shame is a significant ensuing consequence. You feel ashamed when you don\u2019t live up to others\u2019 expectations, and that shame becomes a massive wrench in your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/loving-attitude\/\">ability to love<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Shame forces your words down and makes you turn away from people you love out of pride or embarrassment. You may fear their disappointment or wrath, so you run from them and lose the connection with them, maybe forever. You feel like you can\u2019t communicate with that person anymore or that they no longer love you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You must not let shame keep you from people you love or from loving people. <\/strong>You must seek out those people and recreate your rhythm with them. Everyone desires forgiveness and acceptance, and they may also feel ashamed about what\u2019s transpired between you. If you communicate with people you\u2019re in a difficult place with, you can celebrate your reunion, rather than despair in your downfall.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to Avoid Shame<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The easiest way to avoid shame is by living your life, not the life others set out for you. And the opposite is true. <strong>Don\u2019t create a situation for someone else to feel shame because they don\u2019t do what you tell them to or think they ought to do.<\/strong> Remember, becoming love means helping people find who they are, not controlling their behavior. This is how God loves and how He wants you to love in His name.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And you never need to feel shame with God. He shares His hopes with you and shows you how to fulfill them. He loves your heart, not your actions. If you feel disconnected from God or believe you have not lived up to His expectations, don\u2019t run from God. Run toward Him and celebrate your union with Him. He will continue to guide you, even through your missteps, because He is love. And He does this so you will learn how to do the same for others.&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How can feeling ashamed hold you back from loving others? How does God respond to your shame? In Everybody, Always by Bob Goff, Goff says that feeling ashamed is normal but you shouldn&#8217;t let it hold you back. In order to become love, you must love yourself and others and not turn away from them. You never need to feel shame with God. 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