{"id":34877,"date":"2021-05-18T17:10:00","date_gmt":"2021-05-18T21:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=34877"},"modified":"2021-09-12T09:54:22","modified_gmt":"2021-09-12T13:54:22","slug":"thinking-about-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/thinking-about-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"Is He Thinking About Sex or Does He Want to Date?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Does he want to date you, or is he thinking about sex only? How can you weed out the men who just want to have fun from the ones who are looking for commitment?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In his book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man<\/em>, Steve Harvey aims to give advice to women so they can avoid walking into a relationship with the wrong expectations. According to Harvey, if he approaches you, he wants something from you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading to learn how to tell the difference between a man who just wants to kick it and a man who wants commitment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Yes, He Is Thinking About Sex<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The information and advice in this article are from Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man<\/em>. In this article, you\u2019ll learn what Harvey has to say about the inner workings of men\u2019s behavior to give you an advantage over their games. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Harvey says that the first thing you need to know is what it means when a man approaches you. Have no doubt that your thoughts and his thoughts in that moment are vastly different. You\u2019re likely wondering who this man is and what his life is like. He\u2019s thinking about sex, what he\u2019ll have to do to make that happen, and whether you\u2019re someone he\u2019ll just \u201ckick it\u201d with or consider for a long-term partnership. This knowledge will help you avoid walking into a relationship with expectations you can\u2019t possibly achieve. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How Much Is Your Love Worth?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When a man approaches you at a bar, church, grocery store, or a party, he has a plan. Men have no interest in idle chit-chat. If he\u2019s talking to you, he wants something from you. And nine times out of ten, what he wants is sex. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

His assessment of whether sex is a possibility starts immediately. Every question or comment is geared to decipher whether or not you\u2019re willing to sleep with him. If he feels like there\u2019s a chance, he\u2019ll try to determine what it\u2019s going to cost him emotionally, monetarily, and physically to accomplish this task. You need to understand this because it\u2019s easy to be fooled into thinking a man is genuinely interested in how you\u2019re doing when he walks up and says, \u201cHow are you?\u201d He\u2019s not interested in what you do, where you live, or what your hobbies are. He’s thinking about sex, and he wants to know how to get it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a man considers the price tag for sex, he\u2019s wondering the following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n