Are you wondering how to make your husband listen to you when you talk? Why do men have an aversion to the phrase “we need to talk”?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In his book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man<\/em>, Steve Harvey discusses how to talk to your partner about your feelings and the best way to approach touchy conversations. Harvey also discusses how a man’s seemingly insensitive response may actually be his way of showing love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Keep reading to learn what Steve Harvey has to say about how to make your husband listen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n Need advice on how to make your husband listen to you? Steve Harvey has you covered. In his book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man<\/em>, Harvey explains that there are four words that no man ever wants to hear\u2014we need to talk<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Why do men have such a strong adverse reaction to these words? Harvey says it’s because they hear one of two things: 1) \u201cI\u2019ve done something wrong and am about to hear about it,\u201d or 2) \u201cI\u2019m going to have to sit here for an hour listening to her vent about something I don\u2019t care about.\u201d This reaction may not be fair or considerate, but this is what men hear, and neither option is appealing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Men understand that they\u2019re not perfect and will sometimes have to listen to your complaints about their behavior. They won\u2019t like it, but if the grievance is legitimate, they\u2019ll endure it. But the second meaning, the \u201clet’s sit and talk for a while\u201d option, is more than men can handle. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Steve Harvey says that your girlfriends are designed for that second option. Women like to vent, men don\u2019t. Women want to dive into the emotional layers of every negative thing that happens to them. Men want to fix the problem and move on. <\/strong>As frustrating as this is, you can\u2019t expect a man to be like your girlfriends, who sit with tissues and wine and listen to your feelings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Consider the following scenario: You come home from work upset that a coworker bought the same dress you have after she saw you wearing it. When you tell your girlfriends, they complain about what an awful person your coworker is and the tragic loss of the dress from your wardrobe. When you tell your man, he says, \u201cDon\u2019t wear the dress anymore.\u201d Problem solved. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Your man isn\u2019t trying to be flippant. He merely sees a logical solution to your problem, or \u201cThe Fix.\u201d Part of being a provider for your man means providing solutions to your problems. Since childhood, they\u2019ve been told to buck up and get back on the horse when they fall off. So if he loves you, he\u2019s going to try to find the fastest and best way to get you back on that horse. He\u2019s going to do this because when you\u2019re happy, he\u2019s happy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This frustrating situation can also work in your favor. If you have a problem and your man doesn\u2019t try to provide The Fix, he doesn\u2019t love you.<\/strong> Remember, providing is one of the ways in which he shows love. If he\u2019s not trying to provide a solution, he\u2019s not trying to show you love. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Most men find women unpredictable. What you like one day changes to the next, and often, there\u2019s no discernable reason for why it changed. These mood swings are illogical to men, and they don\u2019t know what to do. An inexperienced man will avoid asking what\u2019s wrong because he knows he doesn\u2019t know how to fix it. With this type of man, you may need to remind him what his duty as a provider is when you\u2019re upset \u2026 or accept that he doesn\u2019t love you and move on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In contrast, a more experienced man will learn to take your moods in stride and continue prodding you to reveal the problem until he finds the nugget that leads to a solution. When your man puts forward the effort to listen and help, don\u2019t get mad because he\u2019s not breaking out the wine and tissues for a long conversation about feelings. Recognize that he\u2019s doing what he can to provide for you. Men know they will have to cuddle and talk sometimes until you feel better, but they want those moments to be few and far between.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Harvey says that the solution is a balance. If your man is willing to listen like a girlfriend every now and then, you must be willing to accept the extent of his ability to be your emotional support. Expecting more is foolish, and you\u2019ll only be setting yourself up for disappointment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you want to make your husband listen to you, you should also change the way you approach your man about something serious. \u201cWe need to talk\u201d are fighting words that make men go on the defensive. If you want a positive response from your man when you need to talk, try a less abrasive phrase. Let him know that he hasn\u2019t done anything wrong up front so he can put his armor away and focus on you. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are you wondering how to make your husband listen to you when you talk? Why do men have an aversion to the phrase “we need to talk”? In his book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve Harvey discusses how to talk to your partner about your feelings and the best way to approach touchy conversations. Harvey also discusses how a man’s seemingly insensitive response may actually be his way of showing love. Keep reading to learn what Steve Harvey has to say about how to make your husband listen to you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":34893,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[34,12],"tags":[301],"class_list":["post-34876","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-communication","category-relationships","tag-act-like-a-lady-think-like-a-man","","tg-column-two"],"yoast_head":"\nHow to Talk to Your Husband About Feelings<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
When You Need to Vent<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
The Compromise<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n