{"id":33805,"date":"2021-04-24T11:52:01","date_gmt":"2021-04-24T15:52:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=33805"},"modified":"2026-04-28T15:42:44","modified_gmt":"2026-04-28T19:42:44","slug":"bowlby-attachment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/bowlby-attachment\/","title":{"rendered":"Bowlby Attachment Theory + Other Styles"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

What was John Bowlby’s attachment theory<\/a>? How did Mary Ainsworth further Bowlby’s research?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Bowlby attachment theory states that children need two things: safety and exploration. And when a child feels unsafe, they will reach out for their parent. Ainsworth took the theory even further and came up with the three different attachment styles<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading to learn more about Bowlby’s attachment theory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Bowlby’s Attachment Theory<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

John Bowlby\u2019s work with maladjusted and orphaned children in post-World War Two Europe revealed that love was paramount to a child\u2019s development, and a loving mother or mother-figure was crucial in the provision of this love. <\/strong>This was the start of Bowlby’s attachment theory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bowlby found that children who\u2019d been deprived of the love of a parent because of the war had great difficulty forming healthy relationships<\/a>. They were either cold and distant or tended to form close attachments to anyone who showed them the slightest attention. Bowlby merged his own observations with Harlow\u2019s experimental data to create what is known today as Bowlby’s attachment theory. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Children Need Safety<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Attachment theory states that children have two primary needs\u2014safety and exploration<\/strong>. From an evolutionary perspective, both are necessary. Safety guarantees survival, while exploration enables children to develop the skills they need to succeed as adults and have children of their own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The two work in tandem. When the safety level drops too low during exploration or play, the child instinctively cries out for its parent to restore safety to the right level (children do this instinctively when they reach their arms up for their parents to hold them when they are distressed). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This knowledge that the parent will always be there to act as a guardrail gives the child the sense of security she needs to develop independence<\/a>. Accordingly, when children are deprived of their attachment figures, they become insecure and unable to develop the emotional security<\/a> and independence needed to thrive in adulthood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to attachment theory, therefore, the behaviorists had it exactly wrong. Unconditional love does not inhibit the development of independence; it\u2019s what makes it possible in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Different Attachment Style<\/strong>s<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A developmental psychologist named Mary Ainsworth further developed Bowlby’s attachment theory. In her experiments, Ainsworth temporarily separated children from their mothers in a controlled environment where the children could play with toys in a room with a stranger. The children generally had three different reactions to the separation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n