Letting Yourself Learn<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nIf your body already knows how to do something like hit a forehand, you should let it happen. <\/strong>If not, you should let it learn. <\/strong>The more Self 2 practices, the more the body learns. The brain picks up and stores things like what a nice stroke feels like, how quickly the ball comes at you, and so on. This is where self coaching can help you. <\/p>\n\n\n\nThink about this like learning a dance: <\/p>\n\n\n\n
- If you have to learn something like the foxtrot and are taught all of the steps, it takes forever to figure out.<\/li>
- On the other hand, if you\u2019re out one night and you\u2019re watching your friend do a dance, which is probably much more complicated than the foxtrot, you can often pick it up right away, because you absorb the visual in front of you and then feel what it\u2019s like to imitate that image.<\/li>
- If you\u2019re asked to explain how to do that dance, you probably wouldn\u2019t be able to, but you could demonstrate. By contrast, most tennis players can give a very detailed explanation of how to hit a ball properly, but can\u2019t do it on a consistent basis themselves. <\/strong>This shows we\u2019re learning the game of tennis all wrong. <\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Use imagery <\/strong>to communicate with your body. Here are three strategies: <\/p>\n\n\n\n- Ask for results:<\/strong> Imagine the result that you want\u2014in tennis, hitting a forehand deep into the court with power. <\/li>
- Ask for form:<\/strong> Imagine a change in the way that your body should move\u2014for example, if you know you\u2019re rolling over too much on the ball, think about exactly how you want your stroke to look. Consider shutting your eyes as you practice this. <\/li>
- Ask for qualities:<\/strong> Pretend to be someone other than yourself\u2014in the case of tennis, be a professional, and try to play like her. Or, adopt a style of playing tennis entirely different from the one you\u2019re used to: if you\u2019re a defensive player waiting to make a mistake, try to hit lots of winners. If you\u2019re a more formal player, adopt a scrappier style. This will help you realize that you can rely on all of these qualities as a player. <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
If you have access to tennis courts, try these experiments in self coaching. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Using these strategies, try to hit a stationary target with a tennis ball. Once you\u2019re successful, move the target around to other places on the court, keeping in mind everything about not trying too hard and imagining the ball hitting the object. The ball will either hit the target or not\u2014every time, notice where it lands, without passing judgment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Choose a bad habit that you know you have on the court. Try the way you are used to trying to correct the habit and have a friend watch you and let you know if there are any changes. Then, don\u2019t make any attempt to change your habit and just closely observe your results while hitting. Finally, use the imagery strategies just discussed\u2014ask for results, form, qualities, or all three\u2014and watch your results closely without judgment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Self coaching is an important part of your game, and you can learn to do it without judgment. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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