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What is your outer self? How does it benefit your game of tennis?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your outer self in tennis is the physical part of your game. You have to trust in self 2 and its abilities in order to be successful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read more about the outer self in tennis and what it means.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Believing in Self 2<\/strong>, The Outer Self<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Now that we\u2019ve discussed getting rid of self-judgment and quieting Self 1, we\u2019ll move to finding self-confidence. This will allow you to give yourself over fully to Self 2. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your body performs all kinds of effort unconsciously\u2014talking, reading, doing the necessary things to survive. All of this is completely removed from Self 1\u2014you don\u2019t have to actively tell yourself to do any of these functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think about this in relation to tennis\u2014there are all kinds of calculations that Self 2 does just to do something like return a serve: calculate speed, wind, direction, how quickly to swing, and so on. This is all done in somewhere around a second. The human body can clearly do remarkable things on and off the tennis court\u2014you just have to use it correctly.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be proud of the incredible things we can do rather than embarrassed by the things we cannot.<\/strong> It doesn\u2019t make much sense to be denigrating ourselves all the time for failing to complete actions that are remarkable. Additionally, Self 2 can pick up new skills very quickly. We should get excited about the new skills that we are learning. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Respecting Self 2<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Most of the problems previously described here, like giving too much<\/a> self-instruction or trying too hard, come from Self 1 not acknowledging Self 2\u2019s capabilities. The outer self should be trusted. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The maxim that we should all instead live by is \u201ctrust thyself.\u201d This is not positive thinking. Rather, it is just allowing your body to hit the ball, or letting <\/strong>Self 2 do something like hit a powerful backhand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trusting Relationships<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Self 1 and Self 2<\/a> are a bit like parent (Self 1) and child (Self 2). Trusting parents will let their children try things and make mistakes because it helps them grow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If there is no trust between Self 1 and Self 2, we will see the physical tightening previously discussed. If you exert too much effort, you use more muscles than are necessary. This both wastes energy and interferes with the action, because some tightened muscles don\u2019t allow others to relax that need to. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is clear in tennis\u2014a relaxed wrist allows for a snap and more torque, adding more power to the ball. If muscles are too tight, the ball will be less accurate and slower. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should trust tennis strokes like capable parents trust their kids to learn to walk. Don\u2019t identify<\/em> with the stroke, in the same way the parent wouldn\u2019t identify with the child who\u2019s unable yet to walk. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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