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Are you looking for a difficult conversation preparation<\/a> worksheet? What are some things you should ask yourself before you head into a difficult conversation?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Difficult conversations are so difficult first and foremost because of how we approach them. Most of us treat them like we treat swimming\u2014we close our eyes and just jump in, but this is hardly the best way to go about it. The following difficult conversation preparation worksheet will help you work through the issue before you take the plunge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can come back to this difficult conversation preparation worksheet anytime you find yourself approaching a challenging conversation<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Preparation Worksheet for a Difficult Conversation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In business, in day-to-day interactions, and in personal matters, difficult conversations come up all the time\u2014conversations where people\u2019s thoughts, feelings, and perceptions about certain issues are in conflict. This difficult conversation preparation worksheet will help you handle your next difficult conversation more productively.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exercise 1: Acknowledging Contributions <\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Pick a current issue you have with someone in your life, such as a partner, a friend, your boss, or a colleague. Briefly summarize the issue from your own perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

List out 3-5 ways that you feel the other person is contributing to the issue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, list the same number of ways that you might be contributing to the issue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exercise 2: Separating Intention From Impact<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Think of an issue you had with someone else in the past, or one you\u2019re currently experiencing. First, write down the actions the other person took. What did they actually say or do that led to the issue?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now that you\u2019ve written out their actions, turn inward. What was the impact of their actions? How did their actions make you feel?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How did the impact affect your assumptions? We often jump to conclusions<\/a> in these situations \u2014 \u201che hurt my feelings, so he must not care about me\u201d \u2014 and make assumptions based on how things affect us. What assumptions did you make in response to the impact?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exercise 3: Third-Person Perspective<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We often only focus on our own perspective in a difficult conversation, when the more productive way to go into them is from a third-person perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think of an issue you\u2019re having currently or have had in the past. Summarize the issue from a third-person perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Next, list the ways that you have contributed to this issue, then list the ways that you feel the other person has contributed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Difficult conversations bring up feelings that we may or may not be comfortable with. What feelings has this issue brought up for you? Try to write down the obvious feelings and also the less obvious feelings that may be lurking beneath the surface.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Are you looking for a difficult conversation preparation worksheet? What are some things you should ask yourself before you head into a difficult conversation? Difficult conversations are so difficult first and foremost because of how we approach them. Most of us treat them like we treat swimming\u2014we close our eyes and just jump in, but this is hardly the best way to go about it. The following difficult conversation preparation worksheet will help you work through the issue before you take the plunge. 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