{"id":28984,"date":"2021-03-13T12:54:54","date_gmt":"2021-03-13T16:54:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=28984"},"modified":"2021-03-22T21:13:15","modified_gmt":"2021-03-23T01:13:15","slug":"maybe-you-should-talk-to-someone-john","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/maybe-you-should-talk-to-someone-john\/","title":{"rendered":"Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: John the Jerk"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Who is John in Maybe You Should Talk to Someone<\/em>? What is his relationship with Lori? How did Lori help him come to terms with his loss?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In Maybe You Should Talk to Someone<\/em>, John is one of Lori’s patients. He comes to Lori’s sessions because of his trouble sleeping, but later he opens up to her about his repressed feelings<\/a> of grief about his son Gabe, who died in a car accident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read about John from Maybe You Should Talk to Someone<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone<\/em>: John’s Story<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

John is one of Lori\u2019s patients. He\u2019s a bigshot in the TV industry who suffers from anger issues and thinks everyone he meets\u2014including his wife\u2014is stupid. The only things he seems genuinely fond of are his two daughters and the family dog. His issues echo Lori\u2019s sense of loss and her fear of letting others hurt her.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

John first comes to Lori because he\u2019s having trouble sleeping. He\u2019s abrasive and rude, and he openly breaks Lori\u2019s rules about therapy: He uses his cell phone during sessions and orders food to eat while they\u2019re talking. He\u2019s emotionally distant, insulting and blaming everyone except himself for his problems. Lori eventually realizes that this is a defense mechanism: If everything is someone else\u2019s fault, then John doesn\u2019t have to do the hard work of looking inward and changing himself.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It takes months of work, but eventually Lori learns that John used to also have a young son named Gabe. Gabe was killed in a car accident that John alternately blamed himself and his wife for, though it turned out the driver who hit them was drunk. Since then, John has tried to repress his feelings and keep working to support himself and his family. While he\u2019s been highly successful professionally, it\u2019s taken a heavy toll on his emotional state and his family life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By the end of therapy, John has begun to open up with Lori and with his family. He used to forbid any mention of Gabe at home, but now he and his wife have had some cathartic conversations about their son. They\u2019ve also started attending couples therapy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

John’s major revelation is that he doesn\u2019t always <\/em>have to be one thing or another: He doesn\u2019t always have to be the good guy or the bad guy, and he doesn\u2019t always have to be happy or grieving. Everything comes and goes, including happiness, and the important thing is to accept whatever each moment brings.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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