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What is the best way to deal with conflict? What can you do to arrive at a resolution that meets the needs of both parties? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some people feel anxiety over conflict resolution<\/a>, over the task of finding a solution that meets both parties’ needs. But it takes two people to deal with conflict. Unless both people are satisfied, even if it means having to compromise, there is no resolution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading for tips on how to deal with conflict<\/a> and what to do when you can’t find a resolution that satisfies both parties. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

How to Deal With Conflict: 5 Tips for Effective Resolution<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Some people feel anxiety over conflict resolution because, in their mind, the goal of conflict resolution is to make the other person happy \u2014 to meet their needs. But you shouldn\u2019t compromise or agree to their terms just for the sake of getting it over with \u2014 this will breed resentment and ill-will. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, there is just no resolution that will satisfy your both. No matter how deft the conversation is, there are irreconcilable differences sometimes. In these instances, it\u2019s up to you to decide if you can settle for a less than ideal solution for you, or if you can live with the consequences of sticking firm to what you need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you decide to stick firm to what you need, explain what needs of yours aren\u2019t being met by proposed solutions and why you\u2019re walking away from solving the issue. Then, know that you\u2019ll have to accept whatever consequences there are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5 Tips for Effective Conflict Resolution<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

1. Communicate what still doesn\u2019t make sense about their perspective. <\/strong>Remember, as you\u2019re participating in conflict resolution, you\u2019re trying to follow the other person\u2019s reasoning. If you\u2019re having trouble following the reasoning, then there\u2019s information missing that would help their side make sense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Let the other party know that you are willing to make a concession, and ask whether they can do the same. <\/strong>If you go into a conflict resolution unwilling to make a concession, you\u2019re not really going into it interested in resolving the issue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Ask what they would do in your position.<\/strong> This might help you discover other assumptions they have about the situation, or understand their reasoning. \u201cHow would you feel if you were in my shoes, and what would you do? Why?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Ask for help coming up with creative solutions. <\/strong>\u201cCan we find a creative way to deal with the conflict in a way that satisfies both parties? Are you willing to try to find a solution with me?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Look for external standards of fairness<\/strong>. Sometimes, the best place to deal with conflict is to look outside of the issue you\u2019re having. For example, with the barking dog, maybe there are local ordinances about noise that set a standard that will help solve the dispute, or maybe this issue has come up in the neighborhood before and other people have found alternative solutions.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

What is the best way to deal with conflict? What can you do to arrive at a resolution that meets the needs of both parties? Some people feel anxiety over conflict resolution, over the task of finding a solution that meets both parties’ needs. But it takes two people to deal with conflict. Unless both people are satisfied, even if it means having to compromise, there is no resolution. Keep reading for tips on how to deal with conflict and what to do when you can’t find a resolution that satisfies both parties.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":26728,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,12],"tags":[230],"class_list":["post-28722","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psychology","category-relationships","tag-difficult-conversations","","tg-column-two"],"yoast_head":"\n5 Easy Tips to Deal With Conflict Effectively - Shortform Books<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"It takes two people to deal with conflict. 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