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But if you can learn how to get past trauma, you will take back your power and know you can rely on your own strength to get you through the hard times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep reading for advice on how to get past trauma from Rachel Hollis&#8217;s own, personal experiences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to Get Past Trauma<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Many people have been through something traumatic &#8212; whether big, small, childhood or adult, they all are members of a club they never asked to join. People who have been through trauma find comfort and solidarity in knowing they aren\u2019t alone and hearing others\u2019 stories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An important element of surviving trauma is <strong>looking for whatever good came out of it<\/strong>. Though difficult, looking for the good in a bad situation means the experience wasn\u2019t wasted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>When you know how to get past trauma, you take back your power and know you can rely on your own strength.<\/strong> The path through hardship is difficult, but the only way to get to the other side is to fight through, even when you feel like you\u2019re drowning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Living, and even thriving, after experiencing something awful is possible. To illustrate this, the author of <em>Girl, Wash Your Face<\/em> shares what she went through when her older brother committed suicide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hollis was very close to her brother Ryan until she was about 12; then Ryan fell victim to mental illness &#8212; borderline schizophrenia, depression, and obsessive compulsive disorder. He shot himself, and she, at the age of 14, discovered his body. This trauma caused nightmares and crippling fears, leaving her carrying horrific images and guilt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She didn\u2019t know how to get past trauma, but she did, forging her way through the trauma because she decided to take her power back and draw strength from her tragedy. She looked for the good that came out of the bad and found a sense of strength that she used to get through other hardships in life. Hollis used that strength to get through some of her most challenging times &#8212; navigating life in LA at 17, making it through a difficult labor and birth, running marathons, and building companies. <strong>She knew she was capable of it all because she\u2019d already lived through worse.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Embrace the good that comes from the pain because otherwise, the experience is wasted. Tony Robbins said: \u201cIf you\u2019re going to blame your hard times for all the things that are wrong in your life, you better also blame them for the good stuff too.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The path through hardship is difficult, but the only way to get to the other side is to fight through, even when you feel like you\u2019re drowning. <strong>While she doesn\u2019t believe everything happens for a reason, she does believe it is possible to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-find-purpose-2\/\">find purpose<\/a> even if there is no explanation.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Tips on Surviving the Unthinkable<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some strategies on how to get past trauma:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Therapy<\/strong>. For the author, even though it was painful to relive the trauma, the hard work paid off because she is no longer haunted.<\/li><li><strong>Talking about it<\/strong>. Find a person you trust who will listen to you, sharing the load..<\/li><li><strong>Think about it<\/strong>. After her brother\u2019s death, she struggled with nightmares and obsessing over the images in her head. A therapist had her set aside 5 minutes a day to remember every detail. Knowing she\u2019d think about her pain later gave her some peace during the rest of the day and helped her feel more in control of her thoughts.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>There is no one right way on how to get past trauma, but if you&#8217;re struggling with traumatic events from the past, try these using tips from Rachel Hollis.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you want to know how to get past trauma? Do you struggle to live with unthinkable memories? There is no right way when it comes to dealing with trauma. But if you can learn how to get past trauma, you will take back your power and know you can rely on your own strength to get you through the hard times. 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