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Do you want to know about Girl, Wash Your Face <\/em>lie 4? Why is it so important for women to stop judging others<\/a> and to build each other up instead?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Girl, Wash Your Face<\/em> by Rachel Hollis explores the 20 lies we’re told by society and by ourselves and how to overcome them. Lie 4 is the feeling of, “I’m better than you.” Women judging other women is a hurtful, spiteful impulse; the fact that everyone does it doesn\u2019t make it okay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading to learn why lie 4 is detrimental to society and why women should be encouraging each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Lie 4: I\u2019m Superior to You<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Women all too often tear each other down, gossiping and talking behind each others\u2019 backs, even making fun of other women. This behavior is usually traceable back to insecurities that developed in childhood. In pointing out someone else\u2019s flaws, we somehow think we can diminish our own. This is lie 4. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Judging and Competing Ruins Friendships<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Women judging other women is a hurtful, spiteful impulse; the fact that everyone does it doesn\u2019t make it OK. It keeps us from building stronger friendships and from connecting in deeper ways. We need to stop judging others<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The author was once on a plane with a horribly behaved little boy who screamed nonstop. She kept wondering why his mother allowed this behavior. When he was quieted by a bag of candy, Hollis was even more judgmental. Sugar? Rewarding his behavior? But at the baggage carousel, she was struck by the look in the parents\u2019 eyes\u2014overwhelmed and near tears. It hit her that she didn\u2019t know this woman\u2019s story. Perhaps the child had special needs or struggles no one was aware of. Instead of offering help or simply giving this mother the benefit of the doubt, Hollis judged her and found her lacking.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Overcoming lie 4 means women competing with each other also needs to stop. Instead, we should focus on supporting each other. Hollis experienced this when she joined a group of friends running a race. An avid marathon runner, she focused on being her friends\u2019 support system this time instead of making it about herself. Though it wasn\u2019t easy to sit on the sidelines, she ultimately had an incredible experience cheering on her friends.  She would have missed so much if she\u2019d only been out there for herself<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With her blog and website, Hollis found that the number one thing women ask for advice about is friends<\/strong> — making them and keeping them. Ironically, their judgmental and competitive behavior is keeping many women from building friendships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

True friendship comes with keeping an open mind<\/a> when you meet someone, looking for commonality instead of differences. Ignore outside factors like hair or clothes, and instead focus on inside factors like heart, character and experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tips on Overcoming the \u201cI\u2019m Better Than You\u201d Feelings of Lie 4<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Use these ideas and strategies to help curb the inclination of lie 4 to judge and compete with other women: <\/p>\n\n\n\n