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What is meant by wholehearted living<\/a>? What are the core ideals of this living philosophy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In Daring Greatly<\/em>, Brene Brown teaches that the biggest obstacle to experiencing authentic human connection<\/a> is shame. In order to move through shame, and find connection, you need to have the courage to engage with vulnerability. This practice is called wholehearted living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read about the core ideals of Brene Brown’s wholehearted living philosophy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

The Ideals of Wholehearted Living<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Wholehearted living is based on 5 core ideals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ideal #1: Human beings are biologically wired to need love, connection, and belonging to survive. <\/strong>When you don\u2019t get these things, you experience pain and suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ideal #2: People who feel a sense of love, connection, and belonging believe they are worthy of it<\/strong>.<\/strong> In contrast, people who don\u2019t believe themselves worthy of love, connection, and belonging are unlikely to feel these things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ideal #3: The feeling of worthiness is not inherent, it\u2019s learned. <\/strong>You learn your worth through embodying worthiness in daily habits and practices. Those who feel worthy have developed and practiced tools that allow them to hold on to their sense of worthiness<\/a> no matter what life throws at them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ideal #4: People who live wholeheartedly<\/a> cultivate compassion<\/a>, bravery, and connection in every aspect of their lives.<\/strong> <\/strong>Courage and compassion are both prerequisites for connection. They serve you best when you engage with them in every area of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ideal #5: The main commonality amongst wholehearted people is the willingness to be vulnerable. <\/strong>Just as courage and compassion are necessary stepping stones to connection, vulnerability is the foundation for anything Wholehearted. You need vulnerability to be courageous, to be compassionate, and to connect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Biggest Obstacle to Wholeheartedness: Shame<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Shame<\/em> is the greatest obstacle to wholehearted living. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shame makes you feel like you\u2019re not enough as you are, and it causes you to fear you\u2019re not worthy of connection or belonging. It\u2019s the result of living in a culture that encourages you to believe you must live an extraordinary life in order for it to be a meaningful one. You feel shame when the reality of your life doesn\u2019t match your own expectations or the expectations of others. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shame kills your courage, impedes your ability to think or act in innovative ways, and prevents you from experiencing life meaningfully. Shame thrives when kept hidden and left unchecked. In order for shame to survive, it needs you to believe you\u2019re not connected and don\u2019t belong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Best Solution For Shame: Vulnerability<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Vulnerability<\/em> is the cure for shame. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s defined by actions that leave you feeling exposed, at risk, and for which you cannot predict the outcome (such as telling someone you have a crush on them, or asking for help when you\u2019re struggling). Vulnerability frees you from the shackles of shame by exposing the lies it tells you. Counterintuitively, when you have the courage to be vulnerable by opening up to others, you begin to dismantle shame-based beliefs around vulnerability. Choosing to be openly vulnerable says, \u201cI am not alone. I am worthy of connection. I am worthy of being seen.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to live a wholehearted life, you have to have the courage to show up and be vulnerable. Not only is it the cure for shame, but vulnerability is the prerequisite for true wholehearted living. In Daring Greatly<\/em>, Brown teaches you how to move through shame by continually reinforcing and unpacking the relationship between shame, vulnerability, connection, and belonging. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the first four chapters, you\u2019ll deepen your understanding of the obstacles and solutions to wholehearted living: scarcity culture (Chapter 1), vulnerability myths<\/a> (Chapter 2), shame (Chapter 3), and protective \u201carmor\u201d (Chapter 4). In the final 3 chapters, you\u2019ll explore these obstacles in greater societal contexts: culture (Chapter 5), work and education (Chapter 6), and parenting (Chapter 7), as well as discuss their possible solutions.  <\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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