{"id":22913,"date":"2020-12-31T09:35:32","date_gmt":"2020-12-31T13:35:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=22913"},"modified":"2021-01-10T14:38:27","modified_gmt":"2021-01-10T18:38:27","slug":"personal-and-social-competence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/personal-and-social-competence\/","title":{"rendered":"Personal and Social Competence: Skills for Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

What are personal and social competence in the context of emotional intelligence? How do they come together to make up the EQ construct?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In Emotional Intelligence 2.0<\/em>, personal and social competence are the umbrella terms for the four dimensions of the EQ construct. Personal competence encompasses self-awareness and self-management. Social competence is composed of social awareness and relationship management.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading for more about personal and social competence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Personal and Social Competence<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You can build EQ by developing two different competencies: personal and social competence.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

First, you need to develop personal competence. Personal competence is your ability to manage your own emotions and tendencies.<\/strong> There are two steps to personal competence: self-awareness and self-management.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you\u2019ve developed personal competence, the next step in developing a higher EQ is social competence. Social competence is your ability to interact with people effectively.<\/strong> There are two steps to develop social competence: social awareness and relationship management.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exercise: Develop Personal Competence<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Emotional intelligence requires that you first develop personal competence. Self-awareness and self-management create the foundation of EQ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reflect on a recent time a lack of self-awareness<\/a> led to a poor decision. Describe it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, list the tactics you could have used to improve your self-awareness<\/a> in that situation. Think about knowing your triggers, holding yourself accountable<\/a>, and understanding the reasons behind your emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reflect on a recent conversation in which you let your emotions get the best of you. Describe it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, list the tactics you could have used to improve your self-management in that conversation. Think about focusing on your breath, counting to ten, and mentally recharging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exercise: Develop Social Competence<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

After you\u2019ve gotten a handle on your own emotions, you can begin to develop social competence. Social competence helps you strengthen your relationships through social awareness and relationship management.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think of a recent time you missed critical cues in a conversation or meeting. Describe it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, list the tactics you could have used to improve your social awareness in that situation. Think about observing body language<\/a>, listening attentively, and living in the moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think of a recent difficult conversation that ended in a heated argument. Describe it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, list the tactics you could have used to improve your relationship<\/a> management during that conversation. Think about opening up, using your anger effectively, and navigating tough conversations.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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