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Do you struggle with emotional self-control<\/a>? What are some emotional intelligence self-management exercises you can practice?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Self-management is like a pause button on your emotional remote control. If you want to improve your emotional intelligence<\/a>, self-management exercises are a great place to start.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some emotional intelligence self-management exercises you can practice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Editor\u2019s note: This article is part of Shortform\u2019s guide to emotional intelligence<\/a>. If you like what you read here, there\u2019s plenty more to check out in the guide!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotional Intelligence: Self-Management Exercises<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Self-management is the ability to use your self-awareness to manage your emotions<\/a> and stay in control of your behavior. Use these EQ self-management exercises to think of better ways to manage any emotionally-charged situations that you are facing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exercise 1: Make an Emotion Vs Logic List<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Differentiating between your emotional and rational brain<\/a> will help you discover the best route forward when faced with a difficult situation. Use this exercise to make the distinction and clarify your decision-making<\/a> process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Think of an issue you’re currently experiencing that requires you to make a decision<\/a>. Describe it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. What is your emotional brain<\/a> telling you to do? List your options.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. What is your rational brain telling you to do? List your options.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Compare the two lists you just made. How are your emotions clouding your rationality? Where is your rationality ignoring important cues from your emotions?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Exercise 2: Visualize success<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Visualizing yourself managing a situation well allows your brain to develop EQ skills before difficult situations arise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    1. Think of a recurring situation in which you have trouble managing your emotions<\/a>. Describe it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    2. Now think of a way that you would ideally handle this situation.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    3. Now close your eyes and visualize yourself handling the situation well. Be specific in your imagination and take the time to play out the entire scenario. Describe your visualization.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Using these seven exercises, you should be able to boost your self-management skills, better control your emotions<\/a>, and improve your EQ capabilities overall.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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