{"id":18997,"date":"2020-11-20T11:21:00","date_gmt":"2020-11-20T15:21:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=18997"},"modified":"2020-11-29T15:10:18","modified_gmt":"2020-11-29T19:10:18","slug":"conversationalist-skills","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/conversationalist-skills\/","title":{"rendered":"Conversationalist Skills From Dale Carnegie"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>What are the top conversationalist skills you should know? What makes someone a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-be-a-good-conversationalist\/\">good conversationalist<\/a>? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Conversationalist skills can help you communicate better with people and build stronger relationships. With these conversationalist skills, you&#8217;ll be able to exert more influence in conversations and situations. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Read more about top conversationalist skills and how you can apply them to your life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Building Conversationalist Skills<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Good conversation skills can be taught. Using the lessons in <em>How to Win Friends and Influence People<\/em>, you can learn how to be better at communication. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>1. A person\u2019s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the mot simple conversationalist skills is to use someone&#8217;s name in conversation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>A name is a person\u2019s identity. It makes her unique among all others.<\/strong> Remembering it and calling a person by it makes her feel important. Saying the name is a subtle and welcome compliment. Forgetting it or misspelling it is a crippling mistake that suggests you didn\u2019t care enough to get it right.&nbsp;<ul><li>Politician maxim: \u201cTo recall a voter\u2019s name is statesmanship. To forget it is oblivion.\u201d<\/li><li>\u201cThe executive who tells me he can\u2019t remember names is telling me he can\u2019t remember a significant part of his business and is operating on quicksand.\u201d<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>A name is one of the most important words in a person\u2019s entire vocabulary. A person\u2019s name to her is far more important than all the other names in the rest of the world combined.<\/li><li>People pay loads of money to have their names remembered after they die (naming buildings, having park bench plaques dedicated to them).<\/li><li>Tactics<ul><li>Use it multiple times in conversation. This will help you remember it and also sweeten what you have to say to the listener.<\/li><li>Try to tie together the name and details about a person to form a longer-lasting image.<\/li><li>If an unusual name, ask how it\u2019s spelled.<\/li><li>Bother to get difficult to pronounce names correct, eg names from foreign languages.<\/li><li>Address mass emails warmly.<\/li><li>Get to know your customers\u2019 names, especially if you operate a retail store.<\/li><li>Get to know servicepeople\u2019s names when you interact with them frequently.<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Examples<ul><li>Carnegie stories<ul><li>As a child, Carnegie had a large litter of rabbits. He promised that anyone who helped him pick clovers and feed would get a rabbit named after her.<\/li><li>Later, Carnegie wanted the business of the Pennsylvania Railroad, run by Edgar Thomson, so he named the local steel mill \u201cEdgar Thomson Steel Works.\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><li>He wanted to merge with the sleeping car company Pullman. When Carnegie mentioned the new company would be called Pullman still, Pullman became far more eager.<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>2. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Another one of the easiest to use conversationalist skills in to be a good listener. This seems obvious, but can always be improved upon. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>You can <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-be-a-good-conversationalist-2\/\">be a good conversationalist<\/a> merely by 1) showing genuine, undivided interest, 2) getting the other person to talk<\/strong>.&nbsp;<ul><li>Even better, give sincere appreciation and praise. Tell them how fascinating the stories are, how you wished they had their knowledge of their experiences, how you must get together again.<\/li><li>You don\u2019t even need to talk yourself, if the other person doesn\u2019t invite you to.<\/li><li>[Again, this must be GENUINE. Saying \u201cthat\u2019s so interesting\u201d listlessly without any elaboration quickly shows insincerity.]<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>A person\u2019s life is the most important life to that person. <strong>\u201cA person\u2019s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China that kills a million people.\u201d<\/strong> Allowing someone to talk makes that person feel important and flattered.<ul><li>[Especially if your \u201cstature\u201d is relatively higher than the others. This is my personal theory about why people describe presidents to be incredibly engaging \u201clike you\u2019re the only person in the room.\u201d Not only are presidents already very skilled at focusing on people in conversations, but it feels even more precious knowing that you probably don\u2019t deserve Bill Clinton\u2019s attention.]<\/li><li>\u201cIf you want enemies, excel your friends; if you want friends, let your friends excel you.\u201d Talking about your own accomplishments makes people feel inferior and envious.<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Often angry people just want to be heard. Customers get progressively tired of being rejected without having their voice heard. If you listen to them with quiet patience, then graciously acknowledge your mistake, they\u2019ll often be pleasantly surprised and dial back their demands.&nbsp;<ul><li>\u201cThank you for coming to me with this. You\u2019ve done me a great favor, for if you feel this way, it may annoy many other customers. So I\u2019m eager to hear about what you endured.\u201d<\/li><li>They may consider themselves crusaders for a cause, but once they feel important and heard, they get all the venom out of their system.<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><strong>Bad conversationalists talk without concern about the other person. <\/strong>\u201cThey are concerned with what they are going to say next that they do not keep their ears open.\u201d<\/li><li>Tactics for good conversation skills<ul><li>To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other people will enjoy answering.<\/li><li>Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.<\/li><li>Ask famous people genuine questions about their backgrounds. They may invite you to get to know them better.<\/li><li>Everyone has gone through what they feel to be tough times, and they like to reminisce about them if they\u2019ve overcome them. 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