{"id":140073,"date":"2025-01-16T14:48:38","date_gmt":"2025-01-16T18:48:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=140073"},"modified":"2025-01-21T15:00:55","modified_gmt":"2025-01-21T19:00:55","slug":"true-desires","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/true-desires\/","title":{"rendered":"Your True Desires: Don&#8217;t Be Misled by What Others Want for You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Why do some people end up chasing dreams that aren&#8217;t truly their own? What&#8217;s the key to identifying and following your genuine desires in life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In <em>The Desire Map<\/em>, Danielle LaPorte explores how to distinguish between authentic desires and goals that others have chosen for us. She reveals how our assumptions and expectations can sometimes lead us away from what we genuinely want, and offers guidance on reconnecting with our true desires.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep reading to discover practical ways to identify what you really want and create a life that aligns with your authentic self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-your-true-desires\">Your True Desires<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Following your desires can lead you to long-term happiness and life satisfaction, but LaPorte cautions you to first make sure that they\u2019re really <em>your <\/em>desires. This warning is needed because <strong>many people find themselves <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/pursue-your-goals\/\">pursuing goals<\/a> that others have chosen for them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, someone might follow their parents\u2019 wishes by becoming a doctor and then feel unhappy in that role. This person is dissatisfied because they devoted their life to fulfilling <em>someone else\u2019s <\/em>desire. LaPorte offers some guidance on how to make sure that you\u2019re really pursuing your own true desires.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1207\/S15327965PLI1104_01\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Self-Determination Theory (SDT)<\/a> offers one possible explanation for why following your true desires (as opposed to what someone else chooses for you) can lead to long-term happiness and life satisfaction. SDT proposes that psychological and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/emotional-health-and-well-being\/\">emotional well-being<\/a> comes from meeting your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/what-are-the-basic-human-needs\/\">basic human needs<\/a>, including <a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.apa.org\/autonomy\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">autonomy<\/a>\u2014the ability to live independently and make your own decisions. Following <em>your <\/em>desires, as LaPorte recommends, is an exercise in autonomy. Conversely, following a life or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/career-path-development\/\">career path<\/a> that someone else has set for you inherently means giving up at least some of your autonomy\u2014consequently leading to your unhappiness and dissatisfaction.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Your own assumptions and expectations about your desires can also cloud your judgment, says LaPorte. <\/strong>These preconceived notions may<strong> <\/strong>lead you to chase things you don&#8217;t genuinely want or dismiss opportunities for real fulfillment.<strong> <\/strong>For example, you might know that you desire a career offering both creativity and stability, but you expect it to take the form of a high-powered business leadership role. Then you discover a love for, say, event planning\u2014it fulfills your desires, but it isn\u2019t the prestigious corporate role you imagined.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this example, your preconceived ideas of what will make you happy (a high-paying, high-profile job) are at odds with the feelings telling you that event planning makes you genuinely happy. If you ever find yourself in a similar situation, LaPorte urges you to dismiss your previous assumptions and, as the saying goes, \u201cfollow your heart.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>To Let Go of Preconceived Notions, Ask Yourself \u201cWhy?\u201d<\/strong><br><br>It\u2019s often hard to realize when your assumptions and expectations are limiting your thinking. In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/a-more-beautiful-question\/1-page-summary\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>A More Beautiful Question<\/em><\/a>, journalist Warren Berger says that <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/a-more-beautiful-question\/1-page-summary#why-and-why-not\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">simply stopping to ask \u201cwhy?\u201d<\/a> is a highly effective way to recognize and overcome such preconceived notions.<br><br>To continue the above example, while you\u2019re struggling with your newfound love of event planning versus the vision you\u2019ve always had of yourself as a business executive, you could ask yourself some \u201cwhy\u201d questions. For instance: \u201c<em>Why <\/em>do I picture myself in that position?\u201d \u201c<em>Why not <\/em>pursue this new interest in event planning?\u201d Answering those questions will help you recognize the assumptions you\u2019re struggling with so you can begin to resolve the conflict between your preconceived notions and your emotions.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why do some people end up chasing dreams that aren&#8217;t truly their own? What&#8217;s the key to identifying and following your genuine desires in life? In The Desire Map, Danielle LaPorte explores how to distinguish between authentic desires and goals that others have chosen for us. She reveals how our assumptions and expectations can sometimes lead us away from what we genuinely want, and offers guidance on reconnecting with our true desires. 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