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Do you feel like you don’t know the people around you very well? Do you want to know how to understand<\/a> people better?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While learning to know other people is crucial, David Brooks acknowledges that it takes a lot of time and effort to cultivate this skill. But he contends that anybody can learn to know others by mastering three skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s examine each of these skills in more detail so you can learn how to practice<\/a> them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

1. Learn to Make People Feel Seen and Valued<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Brooks explains that it\u2019s crucial to interact with others in ways that show them you appreciate them and want to understand them<\/strong>. This involves several skills you can practice every day, like being open to what people share with you, learning to be present with others through even the mundane things you do together, and using your conversational skills to deepen your connections with people. Here are recommendations to help you learn how to understand people better. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Open Yourself Up to What People Share With You<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

To help people feel that you value them for who they are, you first have to make it clear that you want to get to know them<\/strong>. Brooks says you can do this by opening yourself up to others\u2019 ideas, experiences, and perspectives. Make a point of listening closely when they share with you: They\u2019ll realize you\u2019re open to what they\u2019d like to share if you\u2019re generous as a listener when they tell you about themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The goal isn\u2019t just to listen for the sake of it. Instead, it\u2019s to develop a respectful understanding of a person\u2019s contradictions, uncertainty, and struggles. Only by opening yourself up to what people share with you can you witness the dignity with which they handle the challenges they encounter in their life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be Present With People Through Everyday Experiences<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A second way to show people you see and value them is to be present in the moments you share with them each day<\/strong>, even when you\u2019re doing something routine. Brooks notes that you probably spend most of your time doing the mundane things that make up everyday life: collaborating on projects with your coworkers, cooking dinner with your partner, driving to school with your kids, striking up a conversation<\/a> with the neighbors, and so on. He recommends learning to see these moments as chances to engage with the people you share them with: to bring your whole self to those moments and to enjoy seeing how others navigate their lives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Brooks explains that when you do something with another person, like writing code together or looking at the same painting, you\u2019re often side-by-side with them\u2014but you may see things differently from your seemingly similar vantage points. Focusing on something together is an opportunity to see their unique perspective. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Engage and Improve Your Conversational Skills<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A third crucial tool for helping others feel understood is simply to engage them in a great conversation<\/strong>. Brooks explains that you can have compelling, enriching conversations even with people you\u2019re still getting to know. That\u2019s especially true if you make a point of cultivating your conversational skills. To turn everyday encounters into a chance to get to know someone<\/a> better, you have to hone your ability to listen. Brooks explains that we often fail to really listen to one another<\/strong>, but that\u2019s a bad habit you can break with a little bit of work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Brooks recommends using active listening<\/a> techniques<\/strong> to engage with what the other person says\u2014and to signal to them that you\u2019re really paying attention<\/a>. By paraphrasing or summarizing<\/strong> your understanding of what you\u2019re hearing as the other person speaks, you can check in with them and make sure you\u2019re on the same page with them. You can also use nonverbal cues<\/a><\/strong>\u2014like maintaining eye contact, leaning in when the other person speaks, and nodding your head\u2014to show them how engaged you are. If they feel confident that you\u2019re really listening, that can help them feel more comfortable sharing their thoughts and their perspective with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even conversations about mundane topics offer you a chance to connect with someone, according to Brooks. If you can make people feel valued when you\u2019re talking about the traffic in your neighborhood or comparing notes on the movie you both saw over the weekend, you\u2019re well on your way to building a meaningful relationship with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Learn How to Dig Deeper Into People\u2019s Life Stories<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Brooks explains that once you\u2019ve begun to cultivate the skills that help you make others feel understood, the next step is to engage fully with the stories that others tell you<\/strong> about who they are, where they\u2019ve been, and where they want to go. In this section, we\u2019ll explore three ways you can do that in your everyday life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice Asking People the Right Questions<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Brooks writes that the first step to engaging more deeply in someone\u2019s story is to learn to ask good questions<\/strong>. When you want to discover how someone sees the story of their life, you can\u2019t ask perfunctory questions and expect to get deeply insightful answers in return. For example, Brooks recommends that instead of asking someone what<\/em> they think about a particular topic, you could ask how<\/em> they came to think the way they do about that issue. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Brooks contends that, contrary to popular opinion, it\u2019s often OK to ask people big questions:<\/strong> the kinds of questions that we ask as children but get squeamish about posing to each other as adults. He thinks it\u2019s a good idea to ask people questions about what they believe about the world, what kind of person they know themselves to be, and what they value most in their lives.  Most people want to tell their story\u2014once you\u2019ve established a trusting relationship with someone, Brooks thinks the chances are good that the other person would welcome a conversation about the big, philosophical questions they rarely get asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Brooks recommends that in addition to asking big questions about a person\u2019s philosophy, you can also ask more concrete questions about the things they\u2019ve experienced<\/strong>. For example, as a person tells you about something they\u2019ve done, you can ask detailed questions that help them go deeper into the story and explain what the experience was like for them. Brooks notes that you should always aim to ask questions that invite genuine answers<\/strong>: answers that tell you something about the other person. By asking good questions<\/a>, you can honor the other person\u2019s ability to make sense of their life, experiences, and beliefs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Help Others See Their Stories (and Themselves) More Clearly<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The second step Brooks recommends for going deeper into people\u2019s stories is to engage with those stories with the goal of helping others to tell better stories about themselves<\/strong>. Brooks contends that even as you ask questions to learn the story of someone\u2019s life from their<\/em> perspective, you can use your<\/em> perspective to help them see themselves more clearly. We have a natural tendency to arrange our experiences into neat stories. But sometimes, these stories aren\u2019t entirely accurate. Brooks explains that you can pay attention to the ways in which a person\u2019s story doesn\u2019t fully represent who they are or capture the direction their life seems to be going in. Then, you might be able to help them change that story. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

He emphasizes that when you listen to someone else\u2019s story, you can simultaneously fully accept and respect them as a person and also help them make their story more honest<\/strong>. In doing so, you help them to see the best in themself and the person they\u2019re becoming. For example, you might have a friend who consistently portrays themselves as always moving forward and never encountering setbacks. You can acknowledge their achievements but also gently point out that the challenges they\u2019ve faced have made them more resilient as a person. By encouraging your friend to include these more difficult episodes in the story they tell, you can help them build a more authentic and balanced view of who they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recognize the Influence of a Person\u2019s Culture and History <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Brooks\u2019s third step to engaging more deeply with people\u2019s stories is to look for the influence of their culture and personal history on the events and choices they\u2019re telling you about<\/strong>. Brooks says some of the key events in a person\u2019s story began long before they were born: in the history of the place they grew up or in the backstory of the people they\u2019re descended from. He believes our ancestors\u2019 history lives on in all of us. So, to really know a person, it helps to learn where they came from and how it impacted their view of the world and their place in it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Brooks explains that you can simply ask a person how their life has been shaped by their ancestors or by the culture of the place where they grew up<\/strong>. Often, people have ideas about how these influences have shaped their life, their character, and the way they relate to others. But as we discussed earlier in the guide, relying on stereotypes is counterproductive. (That\u2019s why it\u2019s crucial to learn about how a person\u2019s background has impacted them by simply asking them.) Brooks also notes that it\u2019s often wise to get an idea of how closely they identify with or separate themselves from their culture. Not everybody has the same relationship with the people and places they come from, and while the social groups we\u2019re part of provide important context, we can\u2019t be reduced to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Practice Difficult Social and Emotional Skills<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Finally, once you\u2019ve started building your skills in making people feel seen<\/a> and engaging more deeply with the stories they tell, you can turn your attention to cultivating some social skills that don\u2019t come naturally to many people. Brooks explains that as we practice learning to know others, we often have to work to counter some of our natural tendencies: the tendency to see things in a self-centered way, to be impatient rather than empathetic, or to shy away from the messy parts of others\u2019 lives. Next, we\u2019ll take a look at how you can work on these tendencies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learn to Center Others, Not Yourself<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019re all at the center of our own worlds, and we naturally center ourselves in our thoughts and our conversations. Brooks explains that by stepping back from your ego<\/a> and how it wants you to see the world, you can make more room for other people<\/strong>. A great place to start is in the conversations you have every day with others. We all love talking about ourselves, and we sometimes find it challenging to talk about someone else for a change. By learning to resist the tendency to turn the conversation back to yourself<\/strong>\u2014like by telling a friend who\u2019s having trouble with a colleague about your own struggles at work\u2014you can do a better job of being present with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another way Brooks recommends exercising care for others is to pay attention to social situations and to make them more comfortable and equitable for everyone<\/strong>. If there\u2019s a major difference between you and another person\u2014whether in political views or in the amount of power or access you have in a given context\u2014it\u2019s easy for you to make them feel misunderstood or excluded. Brooks advises working to put everyone on even footing so you can exchange ideas respectfully and authentically. For example, you might go into a meeting at work with more seniority than others in the room. But if you take the time to discuss everyone\u2019s opinions, you\u2019ll put your junior colleagues at ease and help them feel their voices are heard. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice Empathy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Just as we tend to center ourselves, we can also naturally be impatient with people and jump to conclusions<\/a> about how they\u2019re handling a conversation or a situation. But Brooks explains that by practicing the skill of empathy, you can set yourself up to better understand others<\/strong>. He explains that empathy involves three skills: mirroring, mentalizing, and caring. Mirroring and mentalizing involve understanding the emotions that someone else is feeling in their current circumstances, either by experiencing those emotions yourself or by remembering what you felt in a similar situation. Caring involves centering the other person\u2019s needs\u2014which will often be different from what you would want or need if you were in a similar situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practicing empathy can help you support people in particularly difficult situations where many of us wouldn\u2019t know what to say or what to do<\/strong>, such as when someone undergoes a loss, a mental health crisis, or another difficult period of their life. Brooks acknowledges it\u2019s hard to know how to support<\/a> someone in these moments. But you can do so by being present with them in their reality as they see it instead of trying to talk them into seeing things a different way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

See People Clearly in Their Current Stage of Life<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Finally, Brooks explains that it\u2019s important to learn to see where people are in their life<\/strong>. To understand how each person is moving through their personal challenges and circumstances, it\u2019s useful to think about where their focus lies. For example, some people are in the process of building an identity and cultivating a unique set of skills. Others are focused on finding important social connections, whether a partner or a close group of friends. Still others are working on building their career or finding a way to make the world a better place<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Brooks explains that learning to recognize these stages can not only help you support others through periods of transition\u2014which are demanding and challenging\u2014but can also help you understand a basic truth about life: that we often have to change and grow to move forward. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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