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Who is in Bono\u2019s family? What fears did Bono have about fatherhood?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bono\u2019s family is comprised of his wife Ali, their two daughters Jordan and Eve, and their two sons Elijah and John. Bono discusses what it’s like to have a family while in the limelight in his memoir Surrender.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s take a look at Bono\u2019s family and how he handled fatherhood as a rockstar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Bono and Ali<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In his memoir Surrender<\/em>, Bono\u2019s discusses his family, starting with how his marriage to Ali helped him explore his childhood trauma, his anxieties about being a rock star dad, and how he and Ali grew into being parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bono and Ali married in 1982, and as U2\u2019s popularity grew, Ali and the band became Bono\u2019s real family. Ali helped Bono realize that due to the trauma of losing his mother, a part of him hadn\u2019t grown out of childhood.<\/strong> When Bono looks back at the anger he\u2019d directed at his father during his teenage years, he concludes that the irrational child deep inside him blamed his father for his mother\u2019s death. Though he\u2019d transferred his love for his mother onto Ali, he\u2019d still never processed his feelings toward his father.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Bono\u2019s observations about his own development align with those of psychologists who argue that people who experience trauma when they\u2019re young can get trapped by their childhood coping mechanisms<\/a>. One way that children avoid dealing with emotions is by projecting blame onto a parent<\/a>, as Bono says he did toward his father. This makes the grieving process even more difficult, because moving beyond the death of a loved one<\/a> requires acknowledging your feelings and accepting emotional support<\/a>, neither of which was allowed or available in Bono\u2019s family after his mother\u2019s death.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bono and Fatherhood<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Though Bono was deeply in love with Ali and cherished their marriage, he was unsure that he could be a good father. Since Bono\u2019s father had been so distant after his mother\u2019s death, Bono never learned what a caring, loving father should act like.<\/strong> Once Ali became pregnant, Bono remembers feeling happy, but frightened\u2014what if he couldn\u2019t cut it as a dad, and what if their child was as angry and awful as he\u2019d been toward his father growing up? He feared that parenthood wouldn\u2019t be compatible with his rock-and-roll lifestyle, in which he\u2019d be absent for months at a time touring and recording with the band.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Bono\u2019s fears about not knowing how to be a parent<\/a> are both valid and common. In The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read<\/em><\/a>, Philippa Perry acknowledges that how you were raised will affect your own parenting<\/a>, but if you examine and address the feelings from your childhood, you\u2019ll be able to avoid repeating negative patterns. For someone raised in an emotionally stifling environment, the challenge will be to acknowledge and respect the emotions your children are feeling<\/a>, as well as to help them articulate what they feel. Perry asserts that parents shouldn\u2019t see children as something to manage but instead should view them as individuals with whom you mean to form a lifelong connection<\/a>.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite Bono\u2019s fears, he and Ali became parents, with two daughters born in \u201989 and \u201991, followed by sons in 1999 and 2001. They didn\u2019t want their kids to grow up with the privilege and stigma of being a famous person\u2019s children,<\/strong> so they chose to raise their family in Dublin, where Bono says that fame isn\u2019t some kind of holy grail and that everyday people are valued just as much, if not moreso, than celebrities. After getting over his initial misgivings, Bono learned the value of parenthood. According to him, becoming a parent<\/a> made him grow up while reminding him of the innocence of childhood\u2014all of which fed his creativity as an artist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Many children of famous parents have struggled with forming their own identities<\/a> outside of their family relationships, regardless of where they grow up. However, from a cultural standpoint, Bono isn\u2019t the only one to observe that fame and celebrity<\/a> aren\u2019t revered in Ireland<\/a> as elsewhere. In interviews, Bono\u2019s children\u2014who\u2019ve followed their parents into social work and performing arts\u2014have commented that while their father\u2019s fame opened some doors, they were able to lead relatively normal childhoods<\/a>. This normalcy may have freed the family to engage in a way that fed Bono\u2019s creativity\u2014experts say that regularly interacting with children can help parents relearn emotional expression and playful exploration<\/a>.)  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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