{"id":115297,"date":"2023-10-15T12:21:00","date_gmt":"2023-10-15T16:21:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=115297"},"modified":"2023-10-23T11:17:30","modified_gmt":"2023-10-23T15:17:30","slug":"how-to-have-uncomfortable-conversations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-have-uncomfortable-conversations\/","title":{"rendered":"Steps for How to Have Uncomfortable Conversations"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>When&#8217;s the best time to have a difficult talk with someone? How do you have uncomfortable conversations that you&#8217;re afraid to initiate?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tough conversations are never easy to have, but sometimes they&#8217;re necessary for relationships. <em>Not Nice<\/em> by Aziz Gazipura has great advice for people afraid to say the wrong thing in these necessary talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Take a look at how to have uncomfortable conversations no one wants to have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-practice-when-it-s-uncomfortable\">Practice When It\u2019s Uncomfortable<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The hardest time to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-speak-your-mind-without-fear\/\">speak your mind<\/a> is when it\u2019s uncomfortable\u2014usually when you\u2019re mad at someone or disagree with them. But, as in your professional life, <strong>your success and quality of life depend on you learning how to have uncomfortable conversations<\/strong>. Disagreement is inevitable and healthy. These conversations become easier when you don\u2019t pit yourself against the other person. Your goal isn\u2019t to win but to connect with the other person, to listen and be heard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>Why Are Difficult Conversations So Hard?<\/strong><br><br>According to the authors of <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/difficult-conversations\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Difficult Conversations<\/em><\/a>, difficult conversations are hard because there are actually <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/difficult-conversations\/chapter-1#the-root-of-difficulty-the-three-conversations\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">three conversations going on at once<\/a>, all of which provide opportunities to make predictable mistakes.&nbsp;<br><br><strong>The What Happened Conversation<\/strong> includes disagreement over what happened, who did what, and who\u2019s right or who\u2019s to blame. This conversation goes wrong when we assume our perception is \u201cright\u201d and that we already have all of the information we need. Consider a scenario where a supervisor says an employee has been late multiple times. The employee, on the other hand, believes his tardiness was due to uncontrollable circumstances and disputes the frequency cited by his supervisor. Both people are entrenched in their version of the story, leading to friction.<br><br><strong>The Feelings Conversation <\/strong>usually goes unsaid and prompts questions about our own feelings: Are my feelings valid or appropriate? Should I acknowledge or deny my feelings? What about the other person\u2019s feelings? This conversation goes wrong when we try to hide our feelings or we take them out on the other person. In our example, the supervisor feels frustrated, thinking the employee doesn&#8217;t value the job, while the employee feels attacked and wishes his supervisor was more understanding.<br><br><strong>The Identity Conversation<\/strong> is an unspoken conversation that we have with ourselves. It circles around what this situation means about who we think we are. This conversation goes wrong when we ignore our true anxiety about what this conversation says about us. In this situation, the supervisor questions her leadership effectiveness and authority due to the perceived challenge, whereas the employee fears being labeled as unreliable and apathetic.<br><br>The authors argue that all difficult conversations contain all three of these conversations, and while we can\u2019t change the challenges inherent in each one, we can change the way we <em>respond<\/em> to those challenges, and we can learn how to manage and address all three conversations to have better difficult conversations.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Gazipura recommends the following approach for handling any conflict: Begin by identifying your emotions, such as frustration or anger. Next, clarify what changes you want. For example, if you&#8217;re unhappy with infrequent communication with a close friend, think about what you&#8217;d prefer. Then describe the issue neutrally and express curiosity, saying something like, &#8220;I&#8217;ve noticed we don\u2019t talk very often, and I&#8217;m curious to understand why.&#8221; Actively listen as the other person shares, and summarize their response to make sure you understand. Then, explain how the situation affects you. Finally, clearly state your desired outcome, but remain open to compromise. Just because you name what you want, doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019ll always get it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: While Gazipura emphasizes the importance of speaking up, mastering the art of active listening\u2014listening attentively to fully understand\u2014is equally crucial, especially during challenging conversations. In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/just-listen\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Just Listen<\/em><\/a>, Mark Goulston argues that by genuinely hearing someone out and empathizing with their perspective, <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/just-listen#listening-opens-people-up\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">you foster a connection that makes you more likely to influence their opinions<\/a> and achieve a collaborative solution.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When&#8217;s the best time to have a difficult talk with someone? How do you have uncomfortable conversations that you&#8217;re afraid to initiate? Tough conversations are never easy to have, but sometimes they&#8217;re necessary for relationships. Not Nice by Aziz Gazipura has great advice for people afraid to say the wrong thing in these necessary talks. 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