{"id":113256,"date":"2023-09-20T15:02:00","date_gmt":"2023-09-20T19:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=113256"},"modified":"2023-09-21T13:27:34","modified_gmt":"2023-09-21T17:27:34","slug":"neuro-linguistic-programming-theory","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/neuro-linguistic-programming-theory\/","title":{"rendered":"Neuro-Linguistic Programming Theory: Mental Habits Shape Us"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>What mental habits do you have? How do they impact your behaviors and choices? How can you leverage what you know about someone else&#8217;s mental habits?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Communication and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/persuasive-language-techniques\/\">influencing language<\/a> expert Shelle Rose Charvet argues that, if you learn how another person thinks, you can consciously match their frame of reference and speak in a language they understand. Then, you can influence them more effectively.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Read more to learn about the psychological basis for Charvet&#8217;s assertion: neuro-linguistic programming theory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-leveraging-neuro-linguistic-programming-theory\">Leveraging Neuro-Linguistic Programming Theory<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Charvet explains that her system of analyzing the way different people think and communicate is based on a field of psychological study called neuro-linguistic programming theory, or NLP theory. According to NLP theory, as people learn and grow, they \u201cprogram\u201d themselves with specific mental habits that determine how they judge situations and make decisions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These relatively fixed mental habits cause people to consistently repeat the same <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/cognitive-patterns\/\">behavioral patterns<\/a>. So, <strong>if you understand someone\u2019s mental habits, you can predict how they\u2019ll act.<\/strong> For example, if someone habitually focuses on the details of a task rather than the big picture of what they\u2019re trying to accomplish, they may fixate on a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/gtd-to-do-list\/\">to-do list<\/a> item at work that doesn\u2019t really matter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: Motivational speaker Tony Robbins also bases his philosophy on neuro-linguistic programming. In his book <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/unlimited-power\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Unlimited Power<\/em><\/a>, Robbins emphasizes that you have the power to \u201creprogram\u201d your mental habits by adopting a new set of beliefs, intentions, and values. Robbins asserts that, because mental habits determine how you act, changing them gives you the power to change your habitual behaviors and gain control over your life.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-identify-mental-habits\">How to Identify Mental Habits<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>How do you figure out what someone\u2019s mental habits are? According to NLP, after someone develops certain mental habits, <strong>they reveal these habits in the <\/strong><strong><em>language<\/em><\/strong><strong> they use<\/strong> to describe their thought processes and the world around them. For example, someone who habitually focuses on details will give an abundance of concrete information when describing a situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Charvet contends that, by listening closely to the language someone uses when speaking, you can identify 14 mental habits that tell you everything you need to know to communicate effectively with that person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: Charvet asserts that a person\u2019s mental habits determine the specific language they use, but there\u2019s some evidence that this process also works in reverse: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/gb\/blog\/the-biolinguistic-turn\/201702\/how-the-language-we-speak-affects-the-way-we-think\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">The language we use shapes our mental habits<\/a>. For instance, people who speak some Australian languages develop the mental habit of directional awareness\u2014they can tell you which way is north or south at any time, even in total darkness. This is because directions are built into their language\u2014the words they use to describe locations specify compass points like \u201cnortheast\u201d and \u201csouthwest,\u201d rather than relative terms like \u201cleft\u201d or \u201cright.\u201d Speaking in these terms pushes their brains to devote more attention to directional awareness.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Charvet notes a key difference between this theory and other personality profiles (like the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/the-myers-briggs-type-indicator-2795583\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Myers-Briggs Type Indicator<\/a> or the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/the-big-five-personality-dimensions-2795422\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Big Five personality traits<\/a>): This framework acknowledges that <strong>the same person utilizes different mental habits in different situations<\/strong>. Identifying a mental habit someone uses doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019ve uncovered a core, unchanging part of their personality\u2014you\u2019ve just identified a situational behavior pattern that they\u2019ll likely repeat in a similar situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: As Charvet acknowledges in the book, social scientist Rodger Bailey was the first to delineate this set of 14 mental habits\u2014six explaining the \u201cwhy\u201d behind a person\u2019s actions and eight explaining the \u201chow.\u201d He drew these habits from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.integratedsociopsychology.net\/theory\/meta-programmes\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">a broader list by social scientist Leslie Cameron-Bandler of 60 mental habits she calls \u201cmetaprograms.\u201d<\/a> Presumably, Bailey chose these habits from the greater list because they\u2019re the most relevant and practical in a workplace setting. If you can motivate someone to work and let them work in the ways that suit them best, you don\u2019t need to know any more about them to produce value.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>Is Personality Entirely Situational?<\/strong><br><br>In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-lucifer-effect\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>The Lucifer Effect<\/em><\/a>, Philip Zimbardo further refutes the idea that people have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/can-you-change-your-personality\/\">fixed personality<\/a> traits you can identify with a test or capture in a profile. He contends that personality as we know it is almost entirely malleable\u2014in two different situations, you could behave like two totally different people. To discern which identity to adopt in a given situation, <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-lucifer-effect\/1-page-summary#variable-1-identity-cues\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">you look for identity cues<\/a>: aspects of the environment that signify what behavior is currently appropriate. According to Zimbardo, this means that if you\u2019re surrounded by enough powerful <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/identity-cues\/\">identity cues<\/a>, you could adopt a totally new identity. In some cases, you could end up committing cruel, immoral acts that you normally would never dream of.<br><br>For example, when Zimbardo dressed undergraduate Stanford students as guards in a simulated prison and surrounded them with identity cues that made this situation feel real, they were willing to inflict cruel, degrading punishments on fellow students playing the role of inmates.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-mirror-mental-habits-to-communicate-well\">Mirror Mental Habits to Communicate Well<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Once you\u2019ve identified someone\u2019s mental habits, <strong>you need to mirror their linguistic style to effectively communicate with and influence them<\/strong>, according to Charvet. Speaking in the terms people naturally use to think and communicate will make you seem more rational and convincing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the workplace, mirroring other people\u2019s language will help you convince them that your ideas are valuable, avoid conflicts rooted in misunderstanding or perceived disrespect, and encourage the people you&#8217;re managing or coaching to be more receptive to your advice. For example, if you notice that someone you\u2019re mentoring talks a lot about how their work <em>makes others feel<\/em>, you could influence them to stop being late for meetings by mirroring that kind of language: \u201cThe team and I get a bit irritated whenever we have to wait for you to get here.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-charisma-myth\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>The Charisma Myth<\/em><\/a>, Olivia Fox Cabane recommends not only mirroring your conversation partner\u2019s linguistic style but <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-charisma-myth\/1-page-summary#step-2-practice-charismatic-conversation-skills\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">also their gestures and body language<\/a>. She contends that this subconsciously signals familiarity and warmth in the other person\u2019s mind, making you more likable. While Charvet\u2019s strategy is primarily focused on helping you communicate on a mental level, Cabane\u2019s strategy helps you connect on an emotional level. Cabane\u2019s advice will likely be equally helpful in the workplace\u2014if your coworkers like you as a person, they\u2019ll give more credence to your ideas, be less combative, and accept more of your advice.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What mental habits do you have? How do they impact your behaviors and choices? How can you leverage what you know about someone else&#8217;s mental habits? Communication and influencing language expert Shelle Rose Charvet argues that, if you learn how another person thinks, you can consciously match their frame of reference and speak in a language they understand. Then, you can influence them more effectively. 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