How can you master your emotions? How can mastering your emotions increase your power?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You’re more powerful, in work and in life, when you learn to master your emotions and stay calm and level. Read on to learn how mastering your emotions can contribute to your success and magnify your power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s no point in trying to opt-out of the power game. You\u2019ll only end up with less power and you\u2019ll be miserable. Rather than resisting the inevitable or feeling guilty, it\u2019s better to be a master<\/a> player of the power game.<\/strong> To do this, master your emotions<\/strong>: Like an actor, learn to disguise your real feelings and produce whatever emotion is required. Control your facial expressions too. In order to master your emotions to become more powerful, you must view the world in a different way. You\u2019ll need to learn some overarching skills and mindsets that won\u2019t come naturally: This is the most important skill<\/a> because <\/strong>emotions interfere with reason \u2014 if you can\u2019t view a situation objectively, you can\u2019t prepare for it and respond to it in a controlled way.<\/strong> Responding emotionally is a mistake that will cost you more than the momentary satisfaction of venting. Anger is the most destructive emotional response because it blinds you the most. It also escalates situations and strengthens your opponent\u2019s resolve. It\u2019s better to keep an opponent off guard by pretending to be friendly than by revealing your anger. Love can also be dangerous \u2014 it can blind you to the self-serving behavior of those closest to you. Controlling your emotions doesn\u2019t mean repressing them, however. Just be careful in expressing them \u2014 and don\u2019t let them affect your plans and strategies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Always stay calm and objective. When you get angry, you\u2019ve lost control. But if you can make your enemies angry, you gain an advantage. Rattle your enemies to put them off balance. This involves mastering your emotions. When someone gets irrationally angry at you, realize two things:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of getting caught up in someone\u2019s emotions, think calmly about how to use them. You may want to deliberately trigger someone, either to demonstrate their instability to all, or to bait them to behave foolishly. There are numerous ways to do this, including mocking your opponent\u2019s manhood, or injuring their pride or vanity. When they react, you can win easily. Losing control of your emotions may be the beginning of the end for you. Napoleon\u2019s decline began when he exploded at a meeting with his ministers over Talleyrand\u2019s attempts to undermine him. Talleyrand<\/a> remained calm while Napoleon became increasingly unhinged. His meltdown turned out to be emblematic of the way his regime was beginning to unravel, and others saw it that way. Losing your temper in an unhinged way may cause people to fear you at first, but fear soon gives way to disrespect and doubts about your stability. When you publicly show anger or frustration, you\u2019re showing powerlessness, like a child having a tantrum. When you expose weakness in this way, you\u2019re headed for a fall. Use the mirroring technique to control people. When you mirror opponents\u2019 actions, doing as they do, they can\u2019t figure out your strategy. Seduce people by mirroring their emotions and interests; create the illusion that you share their values. Few can resist when you reflect their deepest needs and desires. When you pass by a mirror and suddenly see yourself, it has a startling and powerful effect. You can create a similarly powerful effect on others when you use the psychological technique of mirroring. You can neutralize an opponents\u2019 impact by doing what they do.<\/strong> Repeating their actions or words frustrates and distracts them from their objectives. Throwing their words or actions back at them can also disguise what you\u2019re up to and give you time to maneuver. It works well in military and political campaigns. But more commonly, you\u2019ll want to use mirroring psychologically to charm, manipulate, and deceive.<\/strong> Most people try to dominate interactions with their opinions, feelings and experiences, and that\u2019s what others expect. When you instead mirror or reflect back (and appear to share) their deepest thoughts and feelings<\/a>, they\u2019re disarmed. Find out what sets the other person apart and reflect it; fuel their fantasies. Watch their expressions and gestures for indications of their emotions; consider their clothing and style, whom they associate with, and their habits. To do so, you’ll have to master your emotions so they don’t get in the way of mirroring others’. Surprise them with your deep understanding<\/a> of their psyche and they\u2019ll be so touched and grateful that they become putty in your hands. Don\u2019t overdo mirroring, or people will feel used. But, in general, if you can master your emotions and reflect the emotions of others, you’ll find that you’re more powerful as a result. People who are perpetually miserable spread misery like an infection, and they\u2019ll drown you in it. Avoid these people like the plague. Conversely, if you associate with happy people, you\u2019ll share in the good fortune they attract and spread. Seek them out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n People who are hurt by circumstances beyond their control deserve sympathy and help. But others bring unhappiness on themselves and spread it to those around them by their destructive acts and influence on others. You can\u2019t change or improve them \u2014 they will change you by afflicting you with their problems. Master your emotions by avoiding these people altogether. People are highly susceptible to the emotions and pathologies of those they spend time with<\/strong>. Chronically miserable and unstable people have the greatest influence because of their intensity. Because they paint themselves as victims, it can take you a while to see that they cause their own problems. By the time you realize this, these infectors have sucked you in. When your goal is power, those you associate with can make or break you. One of the most damaging types of infectors is the person who is perpetually dissatisfied and aggrieved<\/strong>. Cassius, who conspired against Caesar, is an example of a miserable person. He couldn\u2019t stand anyone more talented and accomplished than he. His dissatisfaction and hatred of Caesar infected Brutus (who likely would have waited to ascend the throne). The result was one of the great tragedies of history.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The best way to protect yourself is by paying close attention to the people you surround yourself with, so you see any ominous signs. Start by considering their effects on others, rather than on who\/what they blame for their problems. Watch for these characteristics of infectors<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever you do, don\u2019t feel sorry for them \u2014 you\u2019ll entangle yourself in trying to help. While you\u2019re beside yourself with frustration, they\u2019ll carry on unchanged. At the other end of the spectrum, there are people who attract happiness and spread it. Do everything you can to associate with these people<\/strong>, so you share in the positive vibes and good fortune they attract.
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<\/p>\n\n\n\nOverview: Master Your Emotions<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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