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Do your children ever throw tantrums? Do they fight with each other? Are they scared or anxious sometimes?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr. Becky Kennedy discusses the importance of empathy in parenting in her book Good Inside<\/em>. She identifies common parenting challenges<\/a> and explains how you can use empathy as a tool to deal with tantrums, sibling rivalry, and kids who are fearful, anxious, or crying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading to understand the power of empathetic parenting and how you can use this practical tool with your children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Empathetic Parenting<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Validation and empathy provide a foundation from which to build your child\u2019s emotional self-regulation. Validation<\/em> means confirming that what your child is feeling is real, which helps them regulate their emotions because they receive confirmation that their experiences are legitimate even if they\u2019re difficult. Empathy<\/em> means trying to understand your child\u2019s feelings and making space for them to experience and express those feelings. Empathetic parenting lets your child know that they\u2019re not alone in their feelings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, you can tell your child, \u201cYou have a lot of energy right now, and you\u2019re feeling antsy. You\u2019d rather run around than sit at the table, but we need to be safe while we\u2019re eating. I felt antsy this morning at work. I had to sit at my computer but what I really wanted to do was go for a walk outside.\u201d And when your child gets upset because you ended lunchtime, you can say, \u201cYou\u2019re allowed to feel upset. You wish you could run around and still get to eat\u2014I understand that. I won\u2019t let you run around while you\u2019re eating, but you\u2019re allowed not to like it.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Validating and empathizing with your child’s experiences means you can see and hear their emotions and perspectives without trying to convince them to change how they feel or think. But it doesn\u2019t mean you relinquish your authority<\/strong>. Kennedy is adamant that both realities can coexist: your perspective and <\/em>your child\u2019s. You can enforce boundaries you know are necessary to keep your child safe, and your child can be allowed to feel frustrated by them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotional Intelligence Is Learned at Home<\/strong>

In Emotional Intelligence<\/em><\/a>, <\/em>Daniel Goleman explains that family is the first place we learn about emotions and how to handle them<\/a>, but some parenting styles harm children\u2019s emotional development. Parents who ignore their children\u2019s feelings instead of validating them, or who treat their emotions with contempt instead of empathy, lead children to believe emotions are inconveniences. On the other hand, parents who are too accepting acknowledge their children\u2019s emotions but don\u2019t teach them acceptable and healthy ways to deal with them. They relinquish their authority and let their children\u2019s emotions take over situations, which denies kids the opportunity to learn healthy self-regulation.

Similar to Kennedy\u2019s emphasis on validation and empathy, Goleman argues that parents who address emotions healthily:<\/strong>
\u2022 Take their kid\u2019s feelings seriously and try to understand them
\u2022 View emotional moments as opportunities to coach their kids through what to do
\u2022 Offer up positive ways to deal with emotional reactions
\u2022 Practice these three steps in relation to their own emotional moments as well<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Challenge #1: Tantrums<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Kennedy explains that tantrums are episodes in which a child is feeling emotions more powerful than what they\u2019re able to process,<\/strong> and they become dysregulated as a result. Tantrums aren\u2019t misbehavior\u2014they\u2019re a moment where your child\u2019s body gets out of their control. They\u2019re important for your child\u2019s development because they shape the foundation of them knowing what they want and being able to ask\u2014and, if necessary, fight\u2014for what they want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To help your child learn to regulate her emotions without squashing her emerging will and assertiveness, work with the underlying urge. Kennedy explains how to use empathy as a tool in this context.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ensure that you\u2019re calm and have perspective on the situation. Kennedy urges you to remember that your child\u2019s meltdown is developmentally appropriate and not a reflection of your parenting. (Shortform note: You and your child benefit from looking at the bigger picture when big feelings are taking place. The authors of The Whole-Brain Child<\/em><\/a> <\/em>suggest reminding your child that emotions are temporary<\/a> and helping her recall a recent time when she was happy. That being said, Kennedy warns against trying to fight a tantrum with logic because emotions will always win out inside a child\u2019s developing brain. Instead, use these reminders to keep yourself regulated during the tantrum, and share them with your child when she\u2019s calmer.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aggressive Tantrums<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, Kennedy says, tantrums become aggressive if the feelings are so intense that the child becomes frightened at her own loss of control.<\/strong> The stress hormone<\/a> cortisol floods her body and sets off aggressive behavior like kicking or biting. Aggressive tantrums are also developmentally normal, but they need a different approach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kennedy recommends using validation and empathy when your child\u2019s tantrum takes an aggressive turn. She suggests that, after the tantrum, once everyone is calm, you should talk about what happened with your child to validate her experience and show her how she eventually rode out the tantrum. Narrate to your child what triggered the tantrum, how she felt, what her body did, and what you both did until her body regulated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Encouraging your child to remember things\u2014even unpleasant things\u2014has an additional benefit. In The Whole-Brain Child<\/em><\/a>, <\/em>the authors argue that processing experiences avoids unintegrated memories<\/a>\u2014fragments of unresolved thoughts, sensations, and emotions. Unintegrated memories can create anxiety around everyday activities, injure your child\u2019s self-confidence, and impede her ability to trust others.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Challenge #2: Sibling Rivalry<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Sibling relationships can be challenging for children and elicit unwanted behavior, such as fighting or whining. Kennedy argues this is because siblings can feel threatening to a child\u2019s attachment needs since they can see your attention going to someone else. The difference in abilities and in the parental involvement other siblings require can also be frustrating to children. Kennedy recommends using empathy to help your children manage the emotions that sibling relationships generate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Give your children the opportunity to complain about their siblings to you\u2014just not in the presence of the aggrieving sibling. Kennedy says that this will give them an outlet for their emotions without harming the relationship between them. Don\u2019t let the complaining turn into name-calling, as this is dangerous and destructive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Sometimes, a child simply needs more time and attention, and it can cause her siblings to feel invisible. For example, siblings of children with medical needs can become \u201cglass children\u201d when their parents become overwhelmed with the needs of the other child and \u201csee through\u201d the other children<\/a>. To avoid this, experts recommend sharing a journal with her and connecting her with other young people in similar situations to help her see she\u2019s not alone. These can be safe spaces for her to vent safely and feel that others empathize with her situation.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Challenge #3: Fearful, Anxious, & Crying Kids<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Fears, anxiety, and crying\u2014even \u201cfake\u201d crying\u2014are expressions of vulnerability. Kennedy explains that when children perceive a threat, their bodies feel fear or anxiety. When they feel sadness, they cry. When they feel disconnected from their caregivers, they pretend-cry to secure that connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kennedy argues that parents often shut down these expressions of vulnerability because they trigger uncomfortable feelings related to their own vulnerability. You might try to convince your child to stop being sad, anxious, or afraid, or even shame her for feeling that way. But this teaches her that these feelings are wrong and to be avoided, which leaves her unprepared for real life. Instead, support her through those feelings so she develops the tools to work through them in the future<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kennedy explains how to use confidence-building, validation, and empathy to help your child learn to work through her vulnerable feelings. She recommends that you start by naming the feelings your child is experiencing and letting her know that it\u2019s okay to feel them, even if it\u2019s uncomfortable. Then, help her brainstorm strategies to deal with a fear or anxiety, and practice the strategies with her when you know a challenging situation is coming up. Share similar feelings you\u2019ve had in the past and how you worked through them. Let her know you\u2019re glad she\u2019s sharing this important information with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: As your child matures, you might introduce new strategies to help her build her confidence to face her fears with logic while still empathizing and acknowledging that her fears are valid. One strategy to consider is Tim Ferriss\u2019s \u201cfear-setting,\u201d which he describes in The 4-Hour Workweek<\/em><\/a>. <\/em>To fear-set, you write down your fears, the worst-case scenario that might result from them, and potential solutions to deal with them<\/a>.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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