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Is your partner constantly tearing you down? Do they ever build you back up with compliments and gifts?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The above pattern is quite common in narcissists. According to Power<\/em> by Shahida Arabi, it’s a tactic known as “Idealize-Devalue-Discard,” which manipulates victims into staying in the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s take a closer look at the Idealize-Devalue-Discard tactic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

A Pattern of Building You Up and Tearing You Down<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A common behavior in narcissists is a repeating pattern of showering you with love, compliments, and affection to suck you into a relationship, only to then tear you down<\/strong> psychologically through covert and direct insults. Arabi says that this tends to end with the narcissist abandoning you in a cruel way, though they are likely to try to maintain control and start the pattern all over again with false promises of changing their behavior. Arabi refers to this as the \u201cIdealize-Devalue-Discard\u201d cycle. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: In Why Does He Do That?<\/em><\/a>, Bancroft says that playing \u201chot and cold\u201d is a common strategy used by abusers in general<\/a>\u2014not just narcissists\u2014to maintain control and keep the victim walking on eggshells because they\u2019re not sure which version of their partner they\u2019ll get from moment to moment. He writes that in this pattern of behavior, the phases of false kindness feel like a relief compared to the abuser\u2019s hostile phases, even though it\u2019s manipulation.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This tactic is effective because at the neurological level, it establishes a biochemical addiction to the narcissist<\/strong>. The narcissist\u2019s false charm and over-the-top expressions of love (what Arabi calls \u201clove-bombing\u201d) tend to make you invested in them quickly, and it leads to high amounts of the brain chemical dopamine that makes you feel good. (Shortform note: Experts assert that signs of love-bombing<\/a> to look out for at the onset of a relationship include: excessive gifts, strong jealous reactions when you spend time with other people, constant praise and flattery, and pressure to make your relationship serious very quickly.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arabi then says that when the narcissist begins to turn on you and withhold that affection, you\u2019ll strive to please them to get back to that level of dopamine. By erratically flip-flopping between love and cruelty, the narcissist creates what psychologists call an \u201cintermittent reward\u201d  that makes the dopamine rush<\/a> even more intense when they finally treat you well. Arabi compares this to when people play slot machines, and they can\u2019t stop playing because of the randomness of the occasional earnings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Social media companies also leverage the phenomenon of intermittent rewards to keep people engaged longer<\/a>, spurring widespread addiction to apps such as Facebook and Instagram. For example, one article says that Instagram\u2019s algorithm is programmed to withhold \u201clikes\u201d on posts and then deliver them in larger bursts. This results in the user\u2019s initial disappointment that they didn\u2019t receive social validation<\/a>, followed by compulsive checking of their notifications, and finally the dopamine rush of several \u201clike\u201d notifications that encourages the user to keep posting.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Attacking Your Self-Esteem<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Arabi writes that during the stages of hurting you psychologically, the narcissist may use outright insults, like \u201cYou\u2019re so bad at your job\u201d or more covert tactics that they try to hide their malice behind<\/strong>. For example, they might express fake concern by saying, \u201cI\u2019m worried that you don\u2019t make enough money to meet your needs,\u201d knowing full well that you do<\/em>. Arabi says that this type of insincere statement is intended to make you feel worthless and inadequate (which makes narcissists feel better about themselves). Arabi adds that because of their pathological envy, narcissists will especially target areas in which you\u2019re successful and confident. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Some people without NPD may use covert insults in the form of passive aggression<\/a> when they\u2019re unable to express their negative feelings or want to exert control over someone else. In addition, feeling jealousy or envy can be a normal and healthy emotion<\/a>. However, the distinction between milder forms of these behaviors and abusive behaviors is when it threatens someone else\u2019s psychological safety or when it becomes pathological, meaning it\u2019s obsessive or influenced by an underlying mental health condition.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Narcissists may also damage your self-esteem by speaking poorly of you to others<\/strong>, often projecting their own faults onto you. For example, they might tell everyone in your friend group that you\u2019re<\/em> controlling and rude to them. This constant trash-talking (what Arabi calls the \u201csmear campaign\u201d) is intended to damage your reputation to the point of causing social isolation<\/a>, so you\u2019re even more dependent on them. Arabi says that this also reduces your ability to confide in others about the abuse, thereby making it less likely that you\u2019ll be able to hold the abuser accountable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lastly, Arabi says narcissists often strategically talk about other people in a way that makes you feel bad about yourself<\/strong> by comparison<\/strong>. Arabi calls this \u201ctriangulation\u201d because the narcissist brings a third person into the relationship dynamic, even though that person may not even be aware this is happening, and the information is often false. For example, the narcissist might bring up their ex-partner frequently, talking about how talented they are or other positive traits. Similar to the covert insult examples, the narcissist might target either the areas you like about yourself (to erode your confidence) or the areas you\u2019re particularly insecure about (to inflict a deeper psychological wound). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Speaking poorly about you to other people or making hurtful comparisons are also behaviors that can occur in toxic friendships<\/a>. Experts suggest that if you notice these happening regularly with a friend, and the friendship makes you feel less confident and more stressed, it\u2019s best to start an honest conversation about how they make you feel. If there\u2019s no improvement after the initial discussion or if there\u2019s no real benefit to the relationship, end the friendship. Experts also point out that friendships can be abusive too<\/a>, even though they\u2019re less intimate than a relationship with a romantic partner.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Is your partner constantly tearing you down? Do they ever build you back up with compliments and gifts? The above pattern is quite common in narcissists. According to Power by Shahida Arabi, it’s a tactic known as “Idealize-Devalue-Discard,” which manipulates victims into staying in the relationship. 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