{"id":108037,"date":"2023-07-12T15:27:00","date_gmt":"2023-07-12T19:27:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=108037"},"modified":"2023-07-14T10:29:02","modified_gmt":"2023-07-14T14:29:02","slug":"physical-intimacy-in-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/physical-intimacy-in-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"2 Simple Ways to Maintain Physical Intimacy in a Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Should you and your partner talk about sex? If so, when and how? What are some ways to communicate without words?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sharing physical intimacy in a relationship is a major way to maintain your and your partner&#8217;s happiness with each other. Relationship experts recommend that you communicate about sex. But, their recommendations for how to communicate about sex differ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep reading to learn these physical intimacy strategies and determine what&#8217;s worth trying in your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-talk-about-sex\">#1: Talk About Sex<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course, sex is a major aspect of physical intimacy in a relationship. In <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/app\/book\/eight-dates\/preview\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Eight Dates<\/a><\/em>, relationship researcher <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/gottman-love-lab-marriage-divorce\/\">John Gottman<\/a>, his wife\u2014fellow relationship researcher Julie Schwartz Gottman\u2014and married couple Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams argue that <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/eight-dates\/1-page-summary#date-three-sex\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>a healthy sex life depends on honest conversation<\/strong><\/a>. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/sex-and-intimacy\/\">Sex and intimacy<\/a> are particularly sensitive topics for most people, which is why a lot of couples don\u2019t talk regularly about their sex life or sexual desires. However, research suggests that couples that talk regularly about sex have better sex more often.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The authors offer a few tips for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-talk-about-sex-with-your-partner\/\">talking about sex with your partner<\/a>. First, make sure you\u2019re <em>not <\/em>doing it right before, during, or after sex. <strong>Since it\u2019s a delicate topic, bringing it up in the moment is a recipe for disaster<\/strong>. Second, don\u2019t underestimate the power of humor. Sex doesn\u2019t have to be serious, so don\u2019t be afraid to bring some lightness to the conversation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Use the following questions to help guide your conversation:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>What do you like?<\/li><li>When and how do you like to initiate sex?<\/li><li>What can I do to improve our sex life?&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-use-non-verbal-communication\">#2: Use Non-Verbal Communication&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/mating-in-captivity\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Mating in Captivity<\/em><\/a><em>, <\/em>couples therapist Esther Perel suggests that talking about sex isn\u2019t always the right choice. Perel explains that,<strong> <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/mating-in-captivity\/part-2b#verbal-communication-womens-arena\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">i<strong>n modern times, talking has become the default language for intimacy<\/strong><\/a><strong>.<\/strong> This is due to the female influence on modern relationships. As women became more economically independent, they wanted more from their relationships than being financially provided for\u2014they wanted emotional connection, too. And, because women are socialized to be good at verbal communication, they build (and expect men to build) intimacy by talking.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/mating-in-captivity\/part-2b#physical-communication-mens-arena\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Men, however, have been socialized to take a more physical approach<\/a> when expressing themselves. They\u2019re often more comfortable developing intimacy through <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/power-of-nonverbal-communication\/\">non-verbal communication<\/a>, for example, through touch or sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, if you communicate verbally and your partner communicates non-verbally, or vice versa, first <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/mating-in-captivity\/part-2b#how-to-translate\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">acknowledge that there\u2019s more than one way to create intimacy<\/a>. Then, try learning to speak each other\u2019s languages in a non-sexual context to begin with. For example, you can practice non-sexual, non-verbal communication by playing games like leading each other around the room, doing trust falls, and mirroring each other\u2019s movements.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Should you and your partner talk about sex? If so, when and how? What are some ways to communicate without words? 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