{"id":108011,"date":"2023-07-14T07:13:00","date_gmt":"2023-07-14T11:13:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=108011"},"modified":"2023-07-14T10:29:05","modified_gmt":"2023-07-14T14:29:05","slug":"insecure-attachment-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/insecure-attachment-in-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Insecure Attachment in Relationships: Tips to Get You on Track"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>What are the primary <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/attachment-patterns-in-psychology\/\">attachment styles<\/a>? How can insecure attachment in relationships be managed?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One essential element of maintaining a happy relationship is to understand both your needs and your partner\u2019s. Specifically, relationship experts recommend understanding your attachment styles and using strategies to maintain secure attachment and negate the effects of insecure attachment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Continue reading to learn about attachment styles in romantic relationships and ways to move toward relationship health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-understand-your-attachment-styles\">Understand Your Attachment Styles<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/attached\/1-page-summary\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Attached<\/em><\/a>, psychiatrist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel Heller contend that <strong>the best way to create a relationship that fulfills your emotional needs is to understand both your own and your partner\u2019s attachment styles<\/strong>\u2014the beliefs and behaviors that determine how you function in intimate relationships. If you know your <em>own<\/em> attachment style, you\u2019ll better understand what you need in a romantic relationship. If you can decipher <em>your partner\u2019s<\/em> attachment style, you\u2019ll understand what lies at the root of your conflicts\u2014and how you can resolve them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are three main attachment styles in romantic relationships: secure, anxious, and avoidant.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/secure-attachment-relationship\/\">Secure attachers<\/a><\/strong> are nurturing, responsive, and comfortable with intimacy.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Anxious attachers <\/strong>are preoccupied with making their relationship solid and constantly seek reassurance from their partner.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/avoidant-attachment-in-adults\/\">Avoidant attachers<\/a><\/strong> are more distant and see intimacy as a threat to their <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/maturity-continuum-7-habits\/\">independence<\/a>.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Anxious and avoidant attachers are collectively known as insecure attachers. Below, we&#8217;ll discuss strategies to manage insecure attachment in relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you\u2019re a secure attacher, your major relationship goal is to <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/attached\/1-page-summary#how-secure-attachers-behave\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>maintain your secure attachment style<\/strong><\/a><strong>.<\/strong> Levine and Heller explain that, as a secure attacher, you\u2019re good at recognizing cues that indicate compatibility, so you tend not to get trapped in negative relationships. But, since you tend to forgive easily, you may let negative behaviors repeatedly slide and stay in a relationship longer than you should\u2014which can shift your attachment style.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-insecure-attachers-should-do\">What Insecure Attachers Should Do<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you\u2019re an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/anxious-attacher\/\">anxious attacher<\/a>, <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/attached\/1-page-summary#how-anxious-attachers-behave\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>accepting your romantic needs is critical<\/strong><\/a><strong> to developing a happy relationship.<\/strong> Levine and Heller explain that many anxious attachers try to ignore their needs for intimacy and reassurance because they\u2019re ashamed of them. But if you don\u2019t accept these needs, you won\u2019t express them and give your partner the opportunity to fulfill them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you\u2019re an avoidant attacher, <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/attached\/1-page-summary#how-avoidant-attachers-behave\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>developing a happy relationship depends on recognizing and combating the techniques you use to maintain emotional distance<\/strong><\/a><strong> from your partner.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One strategy Levine and Heller recommend is to second-guess your negative thoughts about your partner: Is it <em>really<\/em> a problem, or are you trying to push your partner away?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Similarly, in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/app\/book\/how-to-not-die-alone\/1-page-summary\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>How to Not Die Alone<\/em><\/a>, dating coach Logan Ury recommends that insecure attachers <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/app\/book\/how-to-not-die-alone\/1-page-summary#understand-your-attachment-style\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>practice managing their knee-jerk reactions<\/strong><\/a><strong> <\/strong>in pursuit of happiness. Instead of panicking, anxious attachers should learn productive ways to soothe their nerves when their partners don\u2019t provide immediate reassurance. Instead of withdrawing, avoidant attachers should learn to communicate when they want emotional distance.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What are the primary attachment styles? How can insecure attachment in relationships be managed? One essential element of maintaining a happy relationship is to understand both your needs and your partner\u2019s. Specifically, relationship experts recommend understanding your attachment styles and using strategies to maintain secure attachment and negate the effects of insecure attachment. 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