{"id":107333,"date":"2023-07-06T04:31:00","date_gmt":"2023-07-06T08:31:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=107333"},"modified":"2023-07-06T09:24:07","modified_gmt":"2023-07-06T13:24:07","slug":"approachable-body-language","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/approachable-body-language\/","title":{"rendered":"Approachable Body Language Makes a Good First Impression"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Why should you pay attention to your body language<\/a> if you want to make a great first impression? Do you give closed body language cues without even knowing it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your body language determines people’s first impressions of you. So, it’s important to understand the various body language cues and learn to leverage them if you want people to find you open and welcoming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep reading to learn how to exhibit approachable body language around others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Making a Good First Impression Through Approachable Body Language<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Once you arrive at a social event, focus on making a great first impression. This involves sending approachable body language cues to appear welcoming and make others want to engage with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to Leil Lowndes (How to Talk to Anyone<\/em><\/a>), people rely on body language to form an instinctive impression of everyone they come across within the first few seconds of seeing<\/em> them. This means that, before you get a chance to utter your first words, people have already made assumptions about your personality, your feelings, your confidence levels, and your social or professional status. Most importantly, they\u2019ve already decided whether you\u2019re the type of person that they want to spend time with<\/strong><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Additionally, award-winning public speaker Peter D. Andrei (How Highly Effective People Speak<\/em><\/a>) explains, the first impressions people have about you influence how they continue<\/em> to think about you. He says that the assumptions others initially make about you influence their long-term relationship with you due to a phenomenon called the halo effect<\/em>: the tendency for people to base their overall impression of a person on one observed quality<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The halo effect<\/a> is the result of a combination of other cognitive biases<\/a>, including the primacy effect<\/a>, attribution substitution, and confirmation bias<\/a>. When you notice an initial positive quality in a person (primacy effect), you\u2019ll attribute a host of other positive qualities to that person (attribute substitution<\/a>), and then see small signs that point to those positive qualities as confirmation of your beliefs (confirmation bias). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In other words, if your body language initially makes others feel as if you like them, they\u2019ll continue<\/em> to feel that you like them, regardless of what you say or do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Distinguish Between Open and Closed Body Language Cues<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Now that you understand how important body language is in making a positive first impression, here\u2019s some practical advice for using body language to make yourself appear more approachable and likable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Adopt Open Body Language Cues<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

According to body language experts Allan and Barbara Pease (The Definitive Book of Body Language<\/em><\/a>), people who are friendly and approachable tend to hold a relaxed and open posture<\/strong><\/a>, raise their eyebrows to signal that they\u2019re happy to engage in conversation, make eye contact, and smile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lowndes clarifies that people interpret good posture as a welcoming signal<\/a> because it implies that you\u2019re proud and confident and have nothing to hide. They\u2019ll assume that you\u2019re an accomplished person who deserves their attention. She adds that people interpret a relaxed and open stance as a sign of an honest and welcoming personality<\/a> because it signals that you\u2019re calm, unafraid of appearing vulnerable (because you have nothing to hide), and approachable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To come across as calm, self-assured, and trustworthy, she suggests that you practice keeping your arms loosely by your sides with your palms and wrists facing upwards. If you\u2019re approached by people you want to talk to, turn your body totally toward them to show them they\u2019ve got your full attention\u2014this implies that you\u2019re happy to be in their company and puts them at ease.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Avoid Closed Body Language Cues<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

According to The Definitive Book of Body Language<\/em><\/a> by Allan and Barbara Pease, people who don\u2019t want to be approached tend to hold a stiff or guarded posture<\/a> (for example slouching with their arms folded), avoid eye contact, and frown.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lowndes explains that people interpret poor posture as an unwelcoming signal<\/a>. Trying to minimize your physical presence by slumping implies that you\u2019re insecure or ashamed and don\u2019t want to be approached. Further, she says that people interpret fidgeting and guarded movements as insincerity because they make you look suspicious and defensive: <\/p>\n\n\n\n