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What are the most common attachment styles<\/a> in children? Who are children most likely to believe based on their attachment style<\/a>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If children have a strong bond with their parents, they’re likely going to believe their testimony over a stranger’s. But, if a child lacks that necessary bond, a stranger’s word might seem more trustworthy to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Discover how a child’s attachment style affects whom they trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Attachment Styles in Children<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In The Gardener and the Carpenter<\/em>, Alison Gopnik describes several studies that explore how young children assign credibility to testimony. Children are likely to believe what they\u2019re told from a young age, but sometimes they\u2019re told conflicting information by different people, and which person they trust often depends on their relationship with that person. It also depends on the quality of that relationship. Studies done on four year olds suggest that children often believe relatives like their mother over strangers, but this can vary depending on the type of attachment styles in children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Attachment theory<\/a> describes three types of attachment based on experiments that briefly separate infants from their mothers to see their reactions. Secure<\/em> babies get upset in their mothers\u2019 absence and are happy when she comes back. Avoidant<\/em> babies behave as if they don\u2019t care when their mother leaves or returns, but measuring their heart rates shows that they\u2019re very upset. Anxious<\/em> babies are upset when the mother leaves and continue to be upset when she returns. In cases where the mother and the stranger are equally likely to be correct, children with a secure attachment are more likely to believe their mother over a stranger, but children with an avoidant attachment are equally likely to believe their mother or a stranger. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another experiment tested how much children believe answers that are likely to be wrong. Children were shown an image of a fish-bird hybrid that mostly looked like a bird. The mothers in the experiment called the animal a fish and the strangers called it a bird (which was more likely to be correct because it more closely resembled a bird). In cases where the stranger gives information that\u2019s more likely to be correct, both secure and avoidant children were more likely to believe the stranger, but anxious children<\/a> tended to believe their mother even when she was more likely to be wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How Attachment Styles Affect Trust and Criticisms of Attachment Theory<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Experts suggest that attachment styles relate closely to how much a child feels they can rely on their parent<\/a>. An avoidant child doesn\u2019t feel they can rely on their parent to meet their needs\u2014including their need for information\u2014so they\u2019re not inclined to trust what the parent tells them because they don\u2019t believe it\u2019s more reliable than what a stranger says. Anxious children, on the other hand, are overly reliant on the parent to the point that their independence<\/a> and curiosity are hindered\u2014meaning they\u2019ll believe their parent implicitly rather than using their own reasoning to determine an answer.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Experts suspect anxious attachment<\/a> styles may be the result of inconsistent parenting<\/a>, which causes children to be confused about when<\/em> they can rely on their parent to meet their needs. This confusion likely leads to over-reliance (and misplaced trust) as babies seek excessive reassurance to relieve their insecurity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, attachment theory has faced a great deal of criticism since its inception. It was established to explain why some children grew up to be more successful and have better mental health than others, but critics point out that research into attachment doesn\u2019t support the claim<\/a> that secure attachment improves these outcomes in adulthood. They also note that it fails to take into account factors such as a child\u2019s temperament, socioeconomic status, and cultural differences<\/a>, all of which affected children\u2019s behavior as assessed in attachment studies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Others suggest that attachment theory is politically biased toward the conservative<\/a>\u2014that it places an undue burden on mothers for the development of their child\u2019s attachment style, and that it was used in the 1960s to place a social stigma on women entering the workforce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Based on these criticisms, Gopnik\u2019s theories on what affects a child\u2019s belief in different people\u2019s testimony may be explained by factors other than attachment styles.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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