{"id":101660,"date":"2023-05-04T15:16:00","date_gmt":"2023-05-04T19:16:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=101660"},"modified":"2023-05-10T09:30:17","modified_gmt":"2023-05-10T13:30:17","slug":"how-to-bond-with-your-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-bond-with-your-children\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Bond With Your Children: Strategies for Closeness"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Do your kids see you more as &#8220;the enforcer&#8221; than &#8220;Mom&#8221; or &#8220;Dad&#8221;? Would you like to have more time and energy to give to the relationship with your kids?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Clinical psychologist Thomas W. Phelan knows how important it is for parents and children to have strong bonds. His book <em>1-2-3 Magic<\/em> includes parenting strategies that let you spend less time managing your child\u2019s behavior and more time enjoying your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Read more to learn how to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-bond-with-your-child\/\">bond with your children<\/a> and get closer than ever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-bonding-with-your-children\">Bonding With Your Children<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Too often, parents spend a ton of time and effort trying to get their kids to stop doing what they shouldn&#8217;t do and start doing what they should do. Then, they have little time and energy left to just enjoy each other. Phelan provides strategies for directing child behavior and then shifts gears to share advice on how to bond with your children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Phelan explains that having a deep, loving relationship with your children has two main components: being a sympathetic listener and enjoying one-on-one time with your child.&nbsp;Let&#8217;s take a look at each.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-sympathetic-listening\">Sympathetic Listening&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Being a sympathetic listener means listening to your child with the intention of trying to see things from their point of view. As Phelan explains, <strong>your only jobs are to understand the way <em>they <\/em>experienced a situation and then to relay your understanding back to them to make sure you got it right<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/what-is-sympathetic-listening\/\">Sympathetic listening<\/a> often begins with a simple, open-ended question or comment from you. With each comment or question, your goal is to deepen your understanding, not to teach a lesson or draw your own conclusions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sympathetic listening is often more easily said than done because it requires a great deal of parental self-control. As Phelan explains,<strong> there\u2019s no place for parental judgment or opinion in sympathetic listening<\/strong>. Therefore, even if you\u2019re disappointed or angry about how your child handled something, you need to stay focused on understanding their perspective rather than launching into a lecture about how they should have known better or providing your ideas for how to solve the problem or make amends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are many benefits of sympathetic listening. One is that it can help kids process and thus let go of negative emotions. When you communicate to your child that you understand why they were feeling upset, it honors their <em>feelings <\/em>about a situation, even if you\u2019re not a fan of their actions. Another benefit is that sympathetic listening can help you avoid being an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/overprotective-parenting\/\">overbearing parent<\/a>. <strong>When you refrain from lecturing, judging, and problem-solving for your child, you\u2019re helping them build their self-esteem<\/strong> by showing them you trust them to independently <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-handle-disappointments\/\">handle setbacks<\/a> and make good decisions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Enjoying One-on-One Time<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Phelan writes that having quality one-on-one time is integral to a positive relationship with your child and benefits your child\u2019s brain development. Therefore, it\u2019s important to carve out time to simply enjoy each other&#8217;s company, showing your kids you not only love them\u2014but you also<em> like<\/em> them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Phelan notes that it\u2019s OK to replace some time spent as a whole family with this quality one-on-one time. While family time is also important and often enjoyable, one-on-one time allows kids to have your undivided attention, eliminating sibling rivalry and other distractions that often detract from larger-group activities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: If you\u2019re not sure how to best spend this one-on-one time with your child, other experts offer suggestions: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellfamily.com\/how-to-create-one-on-one-time-with-each-of-your-kids-4778465\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Put one-on-one time in your calendar<\/a> and schedule it for the time of day that best suits your child. You don\u2019t have to do anything out of the ordinary with your child; simply being with them is enough\u2014you can even just join them in a favorite activity. And if you only have 15 minutes each day for each of your kids, that\u2019s OK\u2014just make sure you put away your phone and focus on your child. If you have multiple kids, feel free to schedule each one\u2019s one-on-one time on a different day\u2014but, as Phelan notes, you should aim to give each child individual attention to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/building-healthy-relationships\/\">develop a healthy relationship<\/a> with them.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do your kids see you more as &#8220;the enforcer&#8221; than &#8220;Mom&#8221; or &#8220;Dad&#8221;? Would you like to have more time and energy to give to the relationship with your kids? Clinical psychologist Thomas W. Phelan knows how important it is for parents and children to have strong bonds. 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