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Would you like people to perceive you as powerful? How can you take better control of the impression you make?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are watching you, and they’re making judgments. That’s a fact you can’t change. But, according to Robert Greene, you can influence their judgments to a higher degree. He offers recommendations in three areas of your professional and social life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read more to learn how to appear powerful to others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

How to Appear Powerful<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Greene advises you to be mindful of the way you appear in social settings. To gain power, you must adopt a suitable appearance based on the expectations of your current situation. <\/strong>Greene explains that people make decisions about you based on the way you present yourself. Learning how to appear powerful\u2014controlling how you behave, dress, and speak\u2014allows you to leave good impressions and achieve social success. For example, it\u2019s more appropriate to wear a suit at an orchestral audition than a rock band audition. At the former, you\u2019d want to act courteously. At the latter, you\u2019d want to act more expressively.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: In The Magic of Thinking Big<\/em><\/a>, David J. Schwartz says that dressing your best not only commands more respect from others but also increases your own self-respect<\/a>. He argues that before you can be powerful in the eyes of others, you must have high self-confidence. What you wear, Schwartz explains, affects how you view yourself. In each environment, he suggests you ask yourself whether you look<\/em> like someone important.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While you\u2019ll want to adjust your appearance depending on the situation, here are three of Greene\u2019s strategies that will increase your control over any<\/em> situation:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Element 1: Reputation<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

According to Greene, you can control how others perceive you by developing a strong<\/strong> reputation\u2014a public image that people associate you with.<\/strong> A strong reputation gives people the impression that you\u2019re powerful, allowing you to influence and intimidate others. Greene suggests you base your reputation on a unique quality that you have, such as a quirky personality trait or style of dress. Then, build your reputation further by adopting universally positive traits such as humility, open-mindedness, and generosity. While appearing ordinary may be relatable, it won\u2019t make you seem alluring or valuable. When you act special, people treat you as such.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: A different way to think about your reputation is as establishing a personal brand<\/a>\u2014the skills, images, and values that you want people to associate with you. Having a personal brand allows people to recognize your unique value<\/a>, which helps you not only influence others<\/a>, as Greene points out, but also attract more career opportunities. You can strengthen your personal brand by getting involved with projects that reflect your brand, finding like-minded people who can share your message, and creating or reposting content.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Element 2: Independence <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Greene argues that, the more control you have over your emotions and choices, the more power you have. To maintain control, you must stay independent and detached in your social interactions<\/strong>. When you take things personally, you lose the ability to approach situations rationally and with control. Avoid taking sides, making commitments<\/a>, and getting dragged into unnecessary conflicts\u2014if someone you know is angry at someone else, stay calm and objective. Similarly, be careful when accepting gifts because they make you feel obligated to give something in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: One way you can stay out of other people\u2019s drama is by setting boundaries, which involves clearly voicing your limits<\/a>. In Essentialism<\/em><\/a>, <\/em>Greg McKeown writes that setting boundaries<\/a> helps you gain respect in the long run and allows you to focus your energy on what truly matters to you.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Element 3: Mystery<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

According to Greene, a person of power maintains an element of mystery and unpredictability<\/strong>. If you\u2019re an open book, people can easily tell what you want and what your next move will be, which leaves you vulnerable and not in control. Greene suggests three methods to appear mysterious and unpredictable:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Method 1: Say less and keep the meaning of your words as open to interpretation as possible. <\/strong>This makes it harder for people to figure you out, which makes you both interesting and intimidating. If you talk too much, you risk revealing vulnerabilities or sounding foolish. In particular, avoid over-explaining your mistakes\u2014by doing this, you only draw attention<\/a> to them and make them seem more glaring. Instead, address them simply or ignore them completely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: While being ambiguous with your language can lend you an air of mystery<\/a>, be careful not to take it so far that you become irritating or come off as passive-aggressive<\/a>. Experts argue that people often use indirect communication<\/a> during conflicts to hint at their point without offending the other person. Instead, especially during conflicts, experts recommend you communicate your feelings clearly, as this gives others the chance to express their own perspectives and allows for productive solutions rather than repressed bitterness.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Method 2:<\/strong> Be absent from time to time.<\/strong> <\/strong>When you\u2019re always around, people start to take you for granted. Instead, take advantage of the law of scarcity: The less of something there is, the more coveted it becomes. Greene advises withdrawing occasionally to increase people\u2019s desire to see you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: In Influence<\/em><\/a>, Robert Cialdini explains that we value things with limited availability because scarcity often accurately reflects how valuable something is<\/a>. When there\u2019s less of something, we often assume it\u2019s because there\u2019s great demand for it. If you give people the impression that your time and company are in short supply, people will value your presence and prioritize you more. You can enhance this effect, Cialdini explains, by adding an element of competition: If you hint that another person is demanding your time, you\u2019ll make others more eager to capture some of your time or attention.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Method 3: Be unpredictable<\/a>. <\/strong>Prevent people from understanding you by constantly shifting your behaviors, entertaining new perspectives, and acting against expectations. This way, people won\u2019t be able to read your intentions and manipulate you. For instance, Greene says you should talk excessively about your secondary goals to distract people from your true goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Although being unpredictable might throw off your opponents when making power plays, many relationship experts contend that being predictable helps form stronger and long-lasting relationships<\/a> because it makes you seem more trustworthy. Acting unpredictably makes it harder to form intimate connections as people feel insecure and view you as unreliable.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exercise: Craft Your Powerful Appearance<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Your appearance influences how other people view you and, consequently, how much power you have over them. Brainstorm ways you can craft a more powerful appearance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n